I've tried every method in the poll. What I am doing now and what gives me the best, multiple-day results is:
Co wash as usual
put on creamy conditioner in shower
apply shea butter/oil mix* OVER conditioner, still in shower
comb through for curl definition
rinse with warm water
step out of shower and lean over to rinse hair only in cold water
squeeze out excess water
smooth and elongate curls with hands, perhaps a bit more shea, and some clear leave in (I use Fantasia IC)
cover hair loosely with silk scarf, sit under Pibbs for 10 mins
Smooth and elongate curls with hands while hair is still warm
Go
*This is unrefined shea butter melted, mixed with safflower oil, left to cool, then slightly whipped with a wire whisk until creamy. The mix is still a work in progress.
Sounds like a lot, but it isn't. I can get about three days of curls with this if oil at night, and dampen and re-elongate my hair daily, then I get two or three more days of a curly ponytail or bun.
Summary: No creamy conditioner left in. No gel. Both made my hair dry and dull. Water, Shea butter and oil all the way baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!