This is a messed up situation. I saw part of an episode with this family on Dr. Drew. I thought the girl put the stuff in the stepmom's hair products three years ago and continued to say that she did not do it. If she was 9 at the time, she knew better. None of my kids would do some foolishness like that. Where in the beejesus would she get an idea like that. I could see my kids trying to do an under radar science experiment and throwing some stuff together in a bowl to see what it would do but they would never try to hurt somebody. That is evil.
The bio mom says that the father never really financially supported the daughter - um, that is what child support court is for.
The stepmom says that her scalp was burned and there are places where her hair will never grow back.
I don't think she would ever be allowed in my house after I found out for sure that she did it. I don't know if I would allow one of my own kids in my house if they did some foolishness like that to me.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=nnbwll7437Y&feature=endscreen
The psychiatrist in this clip tried to come hard at the step-mom saying that her life was not ruined because of her hair falling out. Um, it is about a lot more than just the hair. Step-daughter could have tried to poison her or something - then what? I could try and forgive her over time, but I don't think I would trust her. I could even encourage the dad to have a better relationship with her - but I don't think I would want to deal with her. I do think the step-mom and dad should get some counseling too.
The mom is off the chain. She said some things about the dad that should not have been said in front of the daughter which can indicate that she has done a lot of bad mouthing the dad. She is the one that chose him.