brg240
Well-Known Member
How does one go about this?
Do you think you should discuss it with them?
How much can or should you discuss?
What parameters should be used?
Those that did discuss this was it easy for you?
or did ya'll not need to discuss things initially?
Who says Christian women are prudes? got me thinking. I really do think people should discuss sex with the person they're going to marry, because it's an important of marriage. But for the life of me I can't figure out how the discussion would go down.
First problem; when and where do you have it? By yourselves, in private or public? With a minister during pre-marital councling? With someone to guide the conversation. I can't imagine being comfortable discussing my future sex life with my pastor, especially not with the person I was going to engage in it with there.
Second problem; I mean I'm not sure what one would say. . I mean I can't say like 'I like this I don't like that' because I don't have any actual experience. I only know things I won't do. And I think my brain would short circuit if somone said 'bri I'd really like if you did this to me when we're married.' (I'm praying he has no practical experience either though.) Furthermore, how do you discuss this without either of your imaginations running wild? I can hear people talk about sex without any lust on my part, but, if it's someone you love/want to marry I'm not sure how that would fare. I'd hate to cause my future hubby to sin. erplexed
Am I just over thinking things? Being too silly? Thinking about things I shouldn't in the first place. (I'm not currently dating/courting anyone at the moment and at the rate I'm going...well that's a different thread entirely.)
thanking you ladies in advance.
Do you think you should discuss it with them?
How much can or should you discuss?
What parameters should be used?
Those that did discuss this was it easy for you?
or did ya'll not need to discuss things initially?
Who says Christian women are prudes? got me thinking. I really do think people should discuss sex with the person they're going to marry, because it's an important of marriage. But for the life of me I can't figure out how the discussion would go down.
First problem; when and where do you have it? By yourselves, in private or public? With a minister during pre-marital councling? With someone to guide the conversation. I can't imagine being comfortable discussing my future sex life with my pastor, especially not with the person I was going to engage in it with there.
Second problem; I mean I'm not sure what one would say. . I mean I can't say like 'I like this I don't like that' because I don't have any actual experience. I only know things I won't do. And I think my brain would short circuit if somone said 'bri I'd really like if you did this to me when we're married.' (I'm praying he has no practical experience either though.) Furthermore, how do you discuss this without either of your imaginations running wild? I can hear people talk about sex without any lust on my part, but, if it's someone you love/want to marry I'm not sure how that would fare. I'd hate to cause my future hubby to sin. erplexed
Am I just over thinking things? Being too silly? Thinking about things I shouldn't in the first place. (I'm not currently dating/courting anyone at the moment and at the rate I'm going...well that's a different thread entirely.)
thanking you ladies in advance.