blkbeauty
Well-Known Member
I just recently did my BIG chop and it has truly been freedom. Taking care of two textures can be hard and sometimes frustrating. However I wanted to transition for a year, but became too impatient with the perm ends and just chopped them off and ended my transition in 8months. And although it is freedom wearing my hair in for the most part one texture. I am left feeling insecure around my co-workers. Even when I was just transitioning, I got comments like “interesting hair”. Now that I am completely natural, I get comments like “oh, is this a new look or something?!!”
This morning a co-worker who wears her hair permed came into the ladies room. She said, “hmm it looks like I didn’t even comb my hair this morning.” Then she says to me “it must take some guts to wear your hair natural”. As if wearing my hair in the natural state, the hair that is apart of my genes, my physical make-up. The hair that God gave me is risk taking to show?!! I felt absolutely embarrassed, not for the most part my hair, but how people, especially MY people feel that it is taking a risk to be Authentic!
When I permed my hair I never stereotyped women with natural hair or felt the need to judge and now as a natural, I don’t feel the need to judge women who wear their hair permed. And I would never tell anyone who wear their hair differently to go natural! There are many beautiful ladies who wear there hair perm and have beautiful hair. It defines them, but I don’t understand that when you wear your hair natural it is considered going against a natural law or something as if there is one-way and one-acceptance and one-beauty.
Right now I have about 4 inches of hair and a lot of shrinkage. My jobs has hurt me to the point, where I feel that maybe I should press my hair to work everyday and it also leaves me feeling insecure not knowing truly what other people outside of work are thinking. Have anyone gone through this at the beginning of natural life? If so, how did you get through it?
Also, LHCF, is really something wonderful. It is very seldom that you can have the opportunity to unite with people of all hair textures and styles and they withhold such respect for each other. I know this is the one place that I can go and get support from both my natural and relaxed sisters
This morning a co-worker who wears her hair permed came into the ladies room. She said, “hmm it looks like I didn’t even comb my hair this morning.” Then she says to me “it must take some guts to wear your hair natural”. As if wearing my hair in the natural state, the hair that is apart of my genes, my physical make-up. The hair that God gave me is risk taking to show?!! I felt absolutely embarrassed, not for the most part my hair, but how people, especially MY people feel that it is taking a risk to be Authentic!
When I permed my hair I never stereotyped women with natural hair or felt the need to judge and now as a natural, I don’t feel the need to judge women who wear their hair permed. And I would never tell anyone who wear their hair differently to go natural! There are many beautiful ladies who wear there hair perm and have beautiful hair. It defines them, but I don’t understand that when you wear your hair natural it is considered going against a natural law or something as if there is one-way and one-acceptance and one-beauty.
Right now I have about 4 inches of hair and a lot of shrinkage. My jobs has hurt me to the point, where I feel that maybe I should press my hair to work everyday and it also leaves me feeling insecure not knowing truly what other people outside of work are thinking. Have anyone gone through this at the beginning of natural life? If so, how did you get through it?
Also, LHCF, is really something wonderful. It is very seldom that you can have the opportunity to unite with people of all hair textures and styles and they withhold such respect for each other. I know this is the one place that I can go and get support from both my natural and relaxed sisters