CocoBunny
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Post is far too long and I apologize in advance:
Currently my own hair is full lower bra strap, thick and healthy. I have meticulously protected and nurtured my own hair with the goal of having waist length hair.
For YEARS I have been either bunning or wearing extensions and long wigs as a protective style. About six months ago while on line wig shopping I ordered a short wig. It arrived I tried it on hated it and tossed in a box with my other no-go on line mistakes.
2 months ago I put the wig on AS A JOKE, showed DD and DH and they loved it. I of course immediately discounted what they had to say because of course I look better with long flowing locks (either my own or purchased).
Shortly after, I had a close friend over tried the wig on for her just KNOWING she’d hate it. She too loved it she said it made me look 10 years younger and 10 pounds lighter. I of course discounted her reaction also, clearly she was delusional as DH and DD or she was just being kind. I again tossed it into the discard/donate box.
1 month ago I wore the wig to meet a different friend for lunch. This particular friend is Polish ( I only bring this up because she claims having no filter on what comes out of her mouth is a Polish trait), a Weave Diva and known for being blunt, brutally honest and able to spot even the best weave or wig from a mile away.
I totally expected her to validate my own thoughts on the wig, tell me it looked horrid and for her suggest that I never put that atrocity on my head again. INSTEAD as we greet she steps back looks me up and down and says “have you had work done?” I reply no. She says your hair looks so cute and you look younger and the proceeded to quiz me about every aspect of my life because she “knew I had a secret”. FINALLY I told her it was a wig, she was shocked and she of course had to publically inspect it (while on my head of course). Told me how natural it looked and was uncharacteristically complimentary.
She then proceeds to state that I look better with short hair and she is shocked that short hair could make a person look younger and sexier because all our adult life she’s worn a long, VERY expensive weaves ( and always encouraged me to do the same) and now we must go find a short wig for her to try on.
Ladies… I then wore the wig to work. The compliments didn’t stop flowing, everyone loved it, all my friends and family think I cut my hair (only the closest of family and friends know I wear wigs or weaves) into this “adorable” style. My “hair cut” inspired two co-workers to get their hair chopped off. One went from waist length to earlobe length, the other from bra strap to collar bone length.
So now I am in quandary. I have spent a lot of money and time growing my hair and it turns out I actually look better with short hair. My intentions were never to wear a wig to the grave. My plan was to grow out my own hair and then wear it out daily. I cannot, will not cut my own hair as short as the wig, because even if I did, my own hair would never have the curl pattern or hold the style of this wig.
Frankly I am feeling a bit insulted that EVERYONE (including my oh so critical but loving parents) like this style. They ALL prefer it to my own hair and the plethora full of long wigs I own that are now languishing in the wig closet, that I now cannot wear because I love compliments (call me shallow if you will) and clearly the short wig gets them.
So ladies should I be insulted?
The first 4 pictures show my normal wig styles, the last picture shows the wig that is getting all the attention and compliments.
Currently my own hair is full lower bra strap, thick and healthy. I have meticulously protected and nurtured my own hair with the goal of having waist length hair.
For YEARS I have been either bunning or wearing extensions and long wigs as a protective style. About six months ago while on line wig shopping I ordered a short wig. It arrived I tried it on hated it and tossed in a box with my other no-go on line mistakes.
2 months ago I put the wig on AS A JOKE, showed DD and DH and they loved it. I of course immediately discounted what they had to say because of course I look better with long flowing locks (either my own or purchased).
Shortly after, I had a close friend over tried the wig on for her just KNOWING she’d hate it. She too loved it she said it made me look 10 years younger and 10 pounds lighter. I of course discounted her reaction also, clearly she was delusional as DH and DD or she was just being kind. I again tossed it into the discard/donate box.
1 month ago I wore the wig to meet a different friend for lunch. This particular friend is Polish ( I only bring this up because she claims having no filter on what comes out of her mouth is a Polish trait), a Weave Diva and known for being blunt, brutally honest and able to spot even the best weave or wig from a mile away.
I totally expected her to validate my own thoughts on the wig, tell me it looked horrid and for her suggest that I never put that atrocity on my head again. INSTEAD as we greet she steps back looks me up and down and says “have you had work done?” I reply no. She says your hair looks so cute and you look younger and the proceeded to quiz me about every aspect of my life because she “knew I had a secret”. FINALLY I told her it was a wig, she was shocked and she of course had to publically inspect it (while on my head of course). Told me how natural it looked and was uncharacteristically complimentary.
She then proceeds to state that I look better with short hair and she is shocked that short hair could make a person look younger and sexier because all our adult life she’s worn a long, VERY expensive weaves ( and always encouraged me to do the same) and now we must go find a short wig for her to try on.
Ladies… I then wore the wig to work. The compliments didn’t stop flowing, everyone loved it, all my friends and family think I cut my hair (only the closest of family and friends know I wear wigs or weaves) into this “adorable” style. My “hair cut” inspired two co-workers to get their hair chopped off. One went from waist length to earlobe length, the other from bra strap to collar bone length.
So now I am in quandary. I have spent a lot of money and time growing my hair and it turns out I actually look better with short hair. My intentions were never to wear a wig to the grave. My plan was to grow out my own hair and then wear it out daily. I cannot, will not cut my own hair as short as the wig, because even if I did, my own hair would never have the curl pattern or hold the style of this wig.
Frankly I am feeling a bit insulted that EVERYONE (including my oh so critical but loving parents) like this style. They ALL prefer it to my own hair and the plethora full of long wigs I own that are now languishing in the wig closet, that I now cannot wear because I love compliments (call me shallow if you will) and clearly the short wig gets them.
So ladies should I be insulted?
The first 4 pictures show my normal wig styles, the last picture shows the wig that is getting all the attention and compliments.
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Hell, I'd wear the wig whenever I wanted to get extra compliments and enjoy my long flowing hair (when I get there) when I don't feel like being bothered.
) and then use the money for shorter ones, the upside? Shorter wigs are usually cheaper than long ones, so you can get higher quality and more of them for the same price as a long one, IMHO
. Some styles compliment women more than others. There is no trick to that, no scheming, no lying. It is what it is. What matters is what you feel more comfortable in. Because I know long hair doesn't look that great on me, or it doesn't give me the POW factor, then the longest I would grow it is APL. If that don't look look right, I have no second thoughts about cutting it shorter
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I do think there are many women who look more beautiful with short hair. I actually prefer myself with shorter hair but learning how to care for, and retain, hair is neither time nor money wasted. 
I guess I'll keep on wearing the wig despite the fact that I cant see how others prefer it to my previous styles.
