Even on this board, I've had other naturals say, "Yes, but you can't understand; you're a 3c/4a, and that's different from a 4a/4b." I recently was talking to a lady, who said she'd never relax again. She said she was going to stay natural forever. I said, "Yeah, I'm natural too." She said, "Yeah, but your hair is curly, isn't it?"
I said, "yeah, very curly." She said, "I used to wear my hair in an Afro. But you have what I'd call good hair." Yes, I cringed at that term, which I seem to be hearing a lot lately. The next day, I showed her a picture of my hair in a puff to show that I can wear an Afro too (nodding).
I went to Sally's recently, and the cashier was asking me about the product I was buying (biolage generic leave-in) because from looking at my hair, she decided she might try it too. Once again, I heard that "good hair" thing (even though my hair was looking pretty rough), and I said, "No, everybody's hair is good." She shook her head and said, "No not everybody's." Although my hair isn't near as pretty IMO as some of the naturals on the board, I seem to be getting that a lot, relaxers who say they'd be happy if they had my texture, and I think to myself: No, they wouldn't. The first day they had it, they'd slap a relaxer on it because although it's 3c/4a, it's still not a picnic.
Regardless of hair texture, everybody's hair has little quirks, or something they'd want to change, or something they have to work on to keep it looking nice, or decent.
Other 3/4a's, have you gotten dismissed by other naturals too, who think you can't possibly know what it's like to be natural?
I said, "yeah, very curly." She said, "I used to wear my hair in an Afro. But you have what I'd call good hair." Yes, I cringed at that term, which I seem to be hearing a lot lately. The next day, I showed her a picture of my hair in a puff to show that I can wear an Afro too (nodding).
I went to Sally's recently, and the cashier was asking me about the product I was buying (biolage generic leave-in) because from looking at my hair, she decided she might try it too. Once again, I heard that "good hair" thing (even though my hair was looking pretty rough), and I said, "No, everybody's hair is good." She shook her head and said, "No not everybody's." Although my hair isn't near as pretty IMO as some of the naturals on the board, I seem to be getting that a lot, relaxers who say they'd be happy if they had my texture, and I think to myself: No, they wouldn't. The first day they had it, they'd slap a relaxer on it because although it's 3c/4a, it's still not a picnic.
Regardless of hair texture, everybody's hair has little quirks, or something they'd want to change, or something they have to work on to keep it looking nice, or decent.
Other 3/4a's, have you gotten dismissed by other naturals too, who think you can't possibly know what it's like to be natural?