Poll: Do you attend your homosexual son's wedding?

[inthepink]

You have a son and he is homosexual with a boyfriend. They decide to get married. Do you attend his wedding?

If you do, is that considered as supporting homosexuality?

If you don't, are you then not supporting your son - in that you love him no matter what?

I was thinking about this last night and I do not know the answer for myself (or the RIGHT answer if there is one) and ultimately decided that it would be something that I would pray about as well as my husband and I would pray about it together and discuss it before making a decision.

ETA: This is just a hypothetical question. I am not married and I do not have children.

 

[freshlikemoi]

I would disagree with his choice and/or choices.
But Lord I wouldn't think twice about attending my child's wedding.
To me, it does not mean you are supporting homosexuality it means you are supporting you son,
Just as if your son committed murder and you visited him in jail that is support and not condoning his actions.

But this is a touchy subject so I'm gonna tread slowly and softly... I have to admit I would be heart broken, but I am sure I have broken my parents heart with some of my actions in the past.

 

[inthepink]

I would disagree with his choice.
But Lord I wouldn't think twice about attending my child's wedding.
It does not mean you are supporting homosexuality it means you are supporting you son,
Just as if your son committed murder and you visited him in jail that is support and not condoning his actions.

But this is a touchy subject so I'm gonna tread slowly and softly...

Yes, I know!! I was trembling just typing it. But I'm always posing challenging questions to myself. Wanting to do what Jesus would do.

 

[MizzCoco]

Oh wow. I don't know how to respond to this one. If the situation ever came up, I would have to pray long and hard about it.

 

[Lucie]

Yes, but I will not attend the reception.

I think attending the ceremony will show him I love him no matter what. Going to the reception would be a bit much for me and I think he should be happy with the compromise.

My husband would not attend either the ceremony or the reception. As this man's mother, I made a promise to support him to the best of my abilities whether I agree with his choices or not.

 

[freshlikemoi]

Oh wow. I don't know how to respond to this one. If the situation ever came up, I would have to pray long and hard about it.

I agree! I don't want to be hated for my response but I'm scared to even respond, for fear that I might be speaking it into existence. erplexed

 

[Almaz]

If he is my child I am going to support him even though I may agree or disagree with his lifestyle.
I would much rather have a son in a stable monogamous relationship then to be out there wrangling d/ck every time he goes out.

I don't get high and mighty and holier than thou because gays have been around since the beginning of time and they will be here long after I am and we all are gone. If you have one in the family so be it accept it and move on. You cannot change this person and if you give them a hard time about it they are going to be the ones living on the downlow married to YOU or YOUR daughter or someone you know. Best to let them be gay let them be open about it Let them marry another man and not live in some shadow life and hurting themselves and other people.

I think that there are so many other important things in life to worry about than 2 people who love each other and want to marry as long as they are consenting adults they are not hurting me and they are not stopping me from being married to a MAN.

Paedophiles Internet and otherwise are a problem. Keeping our young women safe in society is so important.

If my son was gay and he decided to get married to a man Yeah it may suck but I would go and be supportive. I would not turn my kid away if he or she was gay. And Everyone I do mean EVERYONE has a gay relative or someone who has experimented with the same sex whether if they admit it or not.

And these are some of the SAMMMMEEE people that are going on and on against it.

 

[dlewis]

I would not attend the wedding. I will not support my kids when they make choices that go against my beliefs.

 

[Aviah]

If he is my child I am going to support him even though I may agree or disagree with his lifestyle.
I would much rather have a son in a stable monogamous relationship then to be out there wrangling d/ck every time he goes out.

I don't get high and mighty and holier than thou because gays have been around since the beginning of time and they will be here long after I am and we all are gone. If you have one in the family so be it accept it and move on. You cannot change this person and if you give them a hard time about it they are going to be the ones living on the downlow married to YOU or YOUR daughter or someone you know. Best to let them be gay let them be open about it Let them marry another man and not live in some shadow life and hurting themselves and other people.

I think that there are so many other important things in life to worry about than 2 people who love each other and want to marry as long as they are consenting adults they are not hurting me and they are not stopping me from being married to a MAN.

Paedophiles Internet and otherwise are a problem. Keeping our young women safe in society is so important.

If my son was gay and he decided to get married to a man Yeah it may suck but I would go and be supportive. I would not turn my kid away if he or she was gay. And Everyone I do mean EVERYONE has a gay relative or someone who has experimented with the same sex whether if they admit it or not.

And these are some of the SAMMMMEEE people that are going on and on against it.

There may be "more important things" for us to worry about- heck more things that we actually can change. While I understand your point, if you are a believer in Christ and the bible, homosexuality isn't right. Not to condemn those who are, because sin is sin to God and we are all just as bad as each other. Its a tough thing- my sister is homosexual and if she decided to get married, I as a Christian would not know what to do. I still love her regardless, and though its not the same as a child, it is tough in light of the spiritual ramifications.
As for the original post- I really don't know... But no matter what I would have the person understand I still love them.

 

[BeautifulFlower]

Women are more sensitive and will go to support their child (probably not the reception like PrettyHaitian stated).

If this was a question for men, they would probably 90%+ agree (if they are hetero men) not to go, unless bragged by their wife.

Personally, I cant sit there and watch my son kiss another man. I'll always love my son though...always...

 

[Caramela]

I wouldn't attend a friend, family member or co-worker's homosexual wedding. So I don't think a child would be any different. I just can't see myself sitting there as they make a mockery of marriage. I'm sorry. I would not do it.

 

[BeautifulFlower]

I wouldn't attend a friend, family member or co-worker's homosexual wedding. So I don't think a child would be any different. I just can't see myself sitting there as they make a mockery of marriage. I'm sorry. I would not do it.

 

[Shimmie]

I wouldn't attend a friend, family member or co-worker's homosexual wedding. So I don't think a child would be any different. I just can't see myself sitting there as they make a mockery of marriage. I'm sorry. I would not do it.

Exactly!

We cannot compromise with our emotions. It leads to sin and disobedience; it leads to hardening our hearts to God's voice. We will begin to 'block' Him out, for what He is asking of us, doesn't agree with our emotional perceptions.

Indeed as much as I love my children, I love their souls all the more. Our emotions are how satan has deceived so many into compromising their stand with the Word of God; and even worse, 'missing God.'

God will also test us to see just how we are faithful to Him and what we believe Him to be in our lives.

Consider Abraham. God asked him to take Issac, his long awaited promise and 'sacrifice' him upon the altar. Broken hearted, Abraham agreed to obey the order of God. And at the very point when Abraham was about to carry out the procedure of 'sacrifice', God said, "Do not lay a hand upon the lad, for I have given you a sacrifice; a ram in the thicket."

Abraham had to trust God... period! Don't think for one minute that it was 'killing' him to have his son look up at him, knowing that his father was preparing him as a blood sacrifice. Young Issac knew what the procedure was. Issac was not put to sleep; neither was he hypnotised.

The little lad was fully awake and he knew from seeing his father performed this task many, many times, what was about to happen to him. Imagine the terror of seeing the knife coming upon him as his father raised it to complete what he was commanded to do. As heartbreaking as it was, Abraham, still followed the path of obedience. The pain of taking his son's life, killing him inside. Yet in his obedience, God stepped in with the Ram in the bush....

Any Christian parent, with a homosexual son or daughter who plan to marry into a dead zone, with another person of the same sex; one thing has to be considered.

THIS IS NOT A MARRIAGE! Not in God's eyes, God's ordain, nor that of humanity, period! The grief is not in not attending this 'farce' of demonic confusion, but in the loss of your son or daugher's soul.

As much as it grieved Abraham to place his son upon the altar of sacrifice, he still carried it out and God redeemed his son, Issac's life. Because Abraham chose not to succomb to his emotions and ignore the order of God, God then rewarded his faith by giving his son back to him.

As much as it may grieve a Christian parent to not 'be there for their son/daughter, it is better that they 'sacrifice' instead, the disappointment; the look of saddness in their child's eyes, for in turn, God will 'redeem' this son or daughter that satan tried to destroy.

Believe God as Abraham did. For did not God promise Abraham, Issac? Did not God tell Abraham and Sarah that their son would endure and be blessed; that nations would be named after him?

Parents when we have surrendered our children to the Lord, He WILL take care of them when we can't. In the same manner that we would not give our children drugs, we cannot support the sin of homosexuality and it's doom be it here on earth or in eternity.

God spoke to Abraham, This is not your Destiny...

Likewise to our sons and daughters, "My child, this lifestyle is not your Destiny, neither is it your definement in humanity.

Take to another level. God turned away from Jesus upon the cross, momentarily, when the heaviest weight of the sins came upon Him. Yet He was always there, waiting for the very moment to redeem Him.

There comes in time in our lives when we must 'turn away' from our emotions for our children, for their greater good. We can't give in to the wims that satan has our children bound. Neither can we give into what others may say or think of us. Our focus must be to please and obey God. That's what Abraham did. He obeyed God, not folks opinions or emotions. There are no 'what if's about this.' We instead, must refrain from such and give in to God for the better of their lives.

The answer is 'No'... I would not go. Instead, I put my child under the Blood of the Real Sacrifice, the Blood of Jesus. I want my child redeemed.

Amen

The only one who disagrees is the devil; of which I could care less.

 

[Shimmie]

If he is my child I am going to support him even though I may agree or disagree with his lifestyle.
I would much rather have a son in a stable monogamous relationship then to be out there wrangling d/ck every time he goes out.

I don't get high and mighty and holier than thou because gays have been around since the beginning of time and they will be here long after I am and we all are gone. If you have one in the family so be it accept it and move on. You cannot change this person and if you give them a hard time about it they are going to be the ones living on the downlow married to YOU or YOUR daughter or someone you know. Best to let them be gay let them be open about it Let them marry another man and not live in some shadow life and hurting themselves and other people.

I think that there are so many other important things in life to worry about than 2 people who love each other and want to marry as long as they are consenting adults they are not hurting me and they are not stopping me from being married to a MAN.

Paedophiles Internet and otherwise are a problem. Keeping our young women safe in society is so important.

If my son was gay and he decided to get married to a man Yeah it may suck but I would go and be supportive. I would not turn my kid away if he or she was gay. And Everyone I do mean EVERYONE has a gay relative or someone who has experimented with the same sex whether if they admit it or not.

And these are some of the SAMMMMEEE people that are going on and on against it.

Can you blame them? Some of these people were 'violated' sexually when they were little children. It was wrong, dead wrong. So can you blame them for being against it? They're trying to right a horrific wrong that was committed against them. I used to work in a clinic that treated many children who were sexually violated.

I know of a man who was so messed up because as a child he was molested by an older male cousin. He's a good man; has a beautiful wife and family and the trauma of his experience stole a great part of his life and his innocence as a child. God has redeemed him, he's not gay, neither is he D/L. His experience has simply made him a fighter for a just cause.

Far more just than just ignoring the issue or fearing what people may think of him. He's very open about his experience and is not afraid to share it to help set others free. I'm proud of him. We need people who are not afraid to step up and take a stand against this epidemic of sexual perversion.

homosexuality is not natural and the world is trying it's hardest to present it as natural so that children will grow up and not give it a second thought. I have beautiful children and I do not want this diseased mindset to be introduced to them, in any shape, form or manner.

Folks can say or think whatever they want, but I'm not backing down from the fight. satan loves to intimidate for it's the only weapon he really has.

I just wish people would stop making up excuses for it. I believe that some heterosexual supporters of homosexuality are simply 'reserving' their spot to join them in this lifestyle. Afterall, they don't see anything wrong with it. I don't understand it except that is definitely a spirit of perversion which has overstepped it's bounds.

 

[momi]

No I would not.

If I saw one of my children trying to jump over a bridge (God forbid) I would not push them off. Same thing.

Jesus said that those that His mother and brother are those who hear the word of God and do it.

 

[msa]

If I was against homosexuality, then no, I wouldn't go.

If I wasn't against homosexuality, then yes, I would go.

 

[ThePerfectScore]

I support homosexuality because I am a supporter of love, both the love between two consenting adults and between a mother and son. So both would be displayed at the wedding if you came.......

ETA: My Christ and My God accept this type of love as well...A wedding is a place for lovers, family members, friends, and most importantly GOD.

 

[Nice & Wavy]

This bought to my remembrance about Joseph when Potifers wife wanted him to sleep with her and she tried everything she could to get him to do it.

I loved his response...he said:

I CANNOT DO THAT TO MY GOD!

When we willfully, sin...we are doing it to our God! God the Father of all loves all homosexuals, but He hates the sin of homosexuality.

Marriage that God has ordained is a union of 3: The Father (God), the groom(the man) and the bride (the woman)...a three-corded strand. If God is not in the marriage, then its not a marriage. What if God was not apart of the Church...how can we then call it a church? The Father (God), The Groom (Jesus) and the Bride (church)...you can't have the one without the other!

We can't have a marriage if its outside of God's will for mankind...homosexuality is outside of the will of God!

It doesn't matter if we believe it or not, accept it or not, receive it or not....it's not of God!

Yes, God loves us and we should love one another, but God's love also rebukes...therefore as ministers of the gospel, we must rebuke all unrighteousness, in love.

God is not a schitzo (sp)...He doesn't say one thing and do another...He is God and He is a jealous God and He said that all those who do these things are not fit for His Kingdom.

I don't want to live my whole life and in the end, not see my Maker's face and spend time with Him.

What will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and lose his soul?

My prayer is that we as true believers truly have the heart of the Father....don't hate the sinner, hate the sin.

With all that said....I will NOT go to a wedding for anyone I love who do these things.

Blessings to all!

 

[Shimmie]

I support homosexuality because I am a supporter of love, both the love between two consenting adults and between a mother and son. So both would be displayed at the wedding if you came.......

ETA: My Christ and My God accept this type of love as well...A wedding is a place for lovers, family members, friends, and most importantly GOD.

This your view, not God's. Your distorted view of Jesus Christ and Your distorted view of God, for it is not THE LORD God All Mighty who is the same, yesterday, today and forever.

God is God and He changes not. Not for society's weakness, not for compromise of His Sovereinty, not His Word and most certainly not because of satan's distortion of marriage and sexuality.

God is not some form of clay where we can re-shape and mold Him into what we want Him to be. He's God and He changes NOT. He is who He is and always will be.

God is NOT in a gay wedding. Never will He ever be. It's confusion and God is not the author of confusion. There's something very distorted about this; it's not a marriage. It's an afront, an insult to the holiness and the sacredness of marriage and the intent and purpose that God designed it to be.

Now if 'you' or anyone else wants to support homosexuality, then by all means do so; it's your free will. But it's not God's will. When situations such as this come up, please leave God out of it. Don't lie on Him. Do not even attempt to associate neither relate Him and His standard, nor His Holiness to this heresy. It's a lie from the Father of lies, which is satan.

Just be truthful, say it's 'your' view and leave God out of satan's distorted mess. satan has 'you' fooled, deceived, hood winked, bedazzled in his confusion. Anyone with any knowledge of the Holy Spirit is fully aware of what is God and what isn't. homosexuality is NOT of God. Never was, never will be. It's clear and plain in God's word and in His nature and in the way he designed us.

No where in God's word will you or anyone else see any support of homosexuality. No where. So when you proclaim your support of homosexuality, leave God out of it. He's not there.

 

[DarlingNikki]

Making the decision to attend doesn't stop God from knowing my heart. So yes, I would attend the gay "wedding". Just as I would attend a wedding between a Christian and a non-Christian and a wedding involving someone who has been previously divorced. That "marriage" is between those two and God. Therefore, it is not my place to judge. But it would be my place to be tolerant of those that I love.

 

[momi]

I support homosexuality because I am a supporter of love, both the love between two consenting adults and between a mother and son. So both would be displayed at the wedding if you came.......

ETA: My Christ and My God accept this type of love as well...A wedding is a place for lovers, family members, friends, and most importantly GOD.

You are right - weddings are important to God.

If you dont mind me asking - who is this christ and god you are referring to that supports homosexual marriage and relationships?

There may be many things that are up for debate, but if you are referring to the God of the Holy Bible this is not one of them.

Please elaborate.

 

[mrselle]

I’ve read through the posts with tears in my eyes. I have tears in my eyes because I can’t imagine not being there for my child on his/her wedding day. I have tears in my eyes because I don’t think I can bear the thought of seeing my child’s face when I tell him/her I won’t be there. My initial response was yes. Yes, I would go to support my child as a person and to show unconditional love. But the more I read the more I began to feel convicted. So, in all honesty, I’ll say that I would pray and seek God. If He told me not to go, then as hard as it would be for me….I wouldn’t go.

Man, my heart aches at the thought….

 

[momi]

I’ve read through the posts with tears in my eyes. I have tears in my eyes because I can’t imagine not being there for my child on his/her wedding day. I have tears in my eyes because I don’t think I can bear the thought of seeing my child’s face when I tell him/her I won’t be there. My initial response was yes. Yes, I would go to support my child as a person and to show unconditional love. But the more I read the more I began to feel convicted. So, in all honesty, I’ll say that I would pray and seek God. If He told me not to go, then as hard as it would be for me….I wouldn’t go.

Man, my heart aches at the thought….

My heart would ache at the thought of my child offending God and possibly missing heaven. Just like my mom's heart ached when I turned 17 and decided to be an idiot. I always knew she loved me and never doubted that, but she was NOT about to endorse any foolishness. She was the one constant in my life and she reminded me that there is no comprimise with God. Her prayers and steadfastedness were one of the things that finally brought me back to The Lord and experience true repentance.

 

[Nice & Wavy]

My heart would ache at the thought of my child offending God and possibly missing heaven. Just like my mom's heart ached when I turned 17 and decided to be an idiot. I always knew she loved me and never doubted that, but she was NOT about to endorse any foolishness. She was the one constant in my life and she reminded me that there is no comprimise with God. Her prayers and steadfastedness were one of the things that finally brought me back to The Lord and experience true repentance.

Your post brought back so many memories. My mom wasn't saved, yet she wouldn't do the bolded above. I got pregnant and I had to raise my child myself...there wasn't no babysitting or anything like that. I'm grateful for her stance now, was upset about it then...but, I realize the older I get I see how wise my mother was and how dumb and ignorant I was.

 

[Shimmie]

Making the decision to attend doesn't stop God from knowing my heart.

So yes, I would attend the gay "wedding". Just as I would attend a wedding between a Christian and a non-Christian and a wedding involving someone who has been previously divorced. That "marriage" is between those two and God. Therefore, it is not my place to judge. But it would be my place to be tolerant of those that I love.

That comment is a famous cop-out. And you're right, God does know what's in your heart. You'd rather please someone else other than Him. You wish to please your son in his sin, rather than to please God in not participating in something that offends Him. Your actions and your heart say, God you are last in my heart, my son's sin is first.

We're either for God or against God. We can't have it both ways. By making the comparison to a Christian/non Christian wedding, or a someone who has been divorced, is not a legitimate analogy. Marriage is between a man and a woman....period.

No matter if they are divorced, or of opposite faiths; if it's male and female, God will honor it.

NOW the one thing about those marrying of opposite faiths, is that the non Christian can become a Christian. There's scripture to back this up. As well as one who has divorced, can ask for forgiveness and be forgiven. However..... there is no redemption for a gay couple who call themselves married. The only redemption for them is to repent from homosexuality and not be married. There is no other recourse.

Two same-sex adults do not a marriage make. It is not recognized by God as such and it never will be.

AND............. before anyone makes a statement regarding unequally yoked, etc. is a sin, then you are ADMITTING that two homosexuals marrying is a sin as well. Therefore there is no justification for it. None!

Now if one wants to support it, that's their choice. Go for it. Celebrate, jump for joy. Just don't try and make it appear acceptable in the eyes of God. He's no where in it to be found and He never will be.

Folks who call themselves Christians and support this mess need a grip. A serious grip on reality, that it has absolutely nothing to do with God. Nothing. Therefore it is not a marriage and it never will be one.

People can call it marriage all day long, but that's no different than calling a giraffe a puppy or a kitten. Major difference.

gays calling themselves married, is a mockery of one of the most beautiful gifts of love that a man and woman can share. It's an offense, a disgrace; and it's all orchestrated by satan as a slap in God's face.

 

[divya]

No, I would not attend.

 

[Shimmie]

I’ve read through the posts with tears in my eyes. I have tears in my eyes because I can’t imagine not being there for my child on his/her wedding day. I have tears in my eyes because I don’t think I can bear the thought of seeing my child’s face when I tell him/her I won’t be there. My initial response was yes. Yes, I would go to support my child as a person and to show unconditional love. But the more I read the more I began to feel convicted. So, in all honesty, I’ll say that I would pray and seek God. If He told me not to go, then as hard as it would be for me….I wouldn’t go.

Man, my heart aches at the thought….

Angel, I know it seems sad, but what is sadder.

homosexuality is 'unrepented' sin. God says that we must all repent of our sins; to turn away from them; to go and sin no more.

Weddings are a 'life time committment'. To support such, no matter who the gay couple is to us in relation, is to support them in staying in sin and sending them straight to hell.

What is more loving. This is your last chance to set the standard and to redeem your child from hell. How would you feel sitting there knowing that your child is committing herself to live the rest of her life in unrepented sin.

Folks keep bringing up the comparison that 'sin is sin' or what about this or that sin, that homosexuality is no different than any other sin.

With this being so, then homosexuality is not excluded from repentence. So then, why as Christians would we support it? I don't understand what the problem is? If Jesus died for ALL of our sins and most definitely homosexuality is among 'All' sins, then what is the problem with Christians having to struggle with believing this and then acting upon it.

If your child were lying, would you allow your child to become married to a lie? In reality, homosexual marriage is just that. It is a lie. It is a farce. It is a spirit of deception...mass deception.

YET... it is not exempt from the cross, which upon Jesus hung for hours, in pain far greater than a parent could ever feel for not attending a gay wedding. A pain and torment and torture, far greater than looking into the eyes of my child and saying, I love you far too much, to support this.

Christians are dropping out like flies. Our emotions are being whipped like slaves on a plantation. satan knows how to get his way. But it's up to us to allow God to have HIS way and not ours.

As Jesus cried in the garden, 'Not my will, but your will be done." We have to surrender to God's will as it is in Heaven.

There are no tears for this. Only backbone to stand up to satan and to let him know, that he is not going to take control over the life of your son or daughter. My child will never marry into unrepented sin.

I love you Mrselle........ This is not about 'you', personally. I'm speaking to the 'spirit' which satan has presented into the Body of Christ to deceive them.

 

[Ramya]

I would not go.

Folks keep bringing up the comparison that 'sin is sin' or what about this or that sin, that homosexuality is no different than any other sin.

With this being so, then homosexuality is not excluded from repentence. So then, why as Christians would we support it? I don't understand what the problem is? If Jesus died for ALL of our sins and most definitely homosexuality is among 'All' sins, then what is the problem with Christians having to struggle with believing this and then acting upon it.

ITA! Either it's the same or it isn't.

 

[Divine_Order]

Of course! In fact I would go to a friends, co-workers, etc wedding and reception.I love celebrating GENUINE love whether it's man/woman, man/man or woman/woman.I swear...there are so many others things going on in the world that we need to be concerned about.

 

[Renewed1]

I originally voted yes, because its my child (if I had children). But more that I think about it, the more I couldn't justify it. Attending a homosexual wedding *may* open the door for me to be accepting of the behavior, defending their actions....the next would be accepting the fact they want children (or want to adopt). I think my beliefs would be compromised and I can't attend my child's wedding.

If my child knows me just as well as I know him/her. Then my child would know why I can't attend and ACCEPT it. Just as I have to accept the fact that he/her is temporarily gay.

ETA: I disagree with the lifestyle, but if that is how a person is I accept them lovingly as they are, with the prayer that God will change their hearts.