Spinoff: If you could take a pill to change you natural 4a/b hair

[jwhitley6]

This might be controversial.....If you could change your hair type to, let's say, 3b, would you (if it were safe, of course)? Just curious.

 

[secretdiamond]

Ooooh you about to set a fire off with this one!

 

[jwhitley6]

Ooooh you about to set a fire off with this one!

I know...shame on me...Care to chime in Secretdiamond? Would you take the pill?

 

[secretdiamond]

I just logged off, then saw your reply so I'm logging back in.....

I just typed out a loong and complex response, but then I thought about another thread waaay back that I almost got lynched in for voicing my complex opinion, where, I feel, people began hating me. (I dunno, maybe I'm crazy & paranoid)

So here is my answer simple and to the point---- people can take it however they like b/c I don't feel like explaining/defending myself: YES & NO. so...

"I'd try it, but only if I could go back to my 4a/b hair easily."

I'm glad you put that option JWhitley.

ETA: Now, of course the PC answer would be HELL NO!

 

[hopeful]

No. Now if you had asked me that a year ago or even six months ago maybe I would have said yes, or at least maybe. But now it's like asking me if I'd rather be dark than light, short than tall. When I texturized my hair last summer it looked like 3b hair for a minute and it was beautiful but when I looked back and compared the texturized 3bish hair to what my hair looked like at 4 months natural there was no comparison. Not that my 4a/4b looked so much better than 3b hair, but it looked so much better on ME. On my 4 month natural pics I glowed, I am not kidding, my face just kinda sang. Unfortunately, I didn't appreciate it until AFTER I had texturized and relaxed again. Well, now I want to stay natural for good, because it's what's best for me and my hair, and for vanity reasons, I personally just look the prettiest and most like ME with my 4a/4b hair.

 

[Crackers Phinn]

If you would have asked me this question at the beginning of my transition, I would have said yes without hesitation.

But now, I am literally addicted to playing with the coils and the waves all day. I don't think I would feel the same pleasure from touching my hair, that I have become used to if my curl pattern was looser.

So, my honest, no B.S. answer is JCoily won't be poppin the 3B pill.

Now if somebody is going to do a spinoff on whether you would take a pill that makes natural hair shiny - my pill poppin hiatus would be over.

 

[Isis]

From what I've learned, every hair type has its challenges as far as haircare goes so it isn't like one type is better than another. I love my hair and the hair type I was born with so I would not be taking this pill.

 

[jwhitley6]

From what I've learned, every hair type has its challenges as far as haircare goes so it isn't like one type is better than another. I love my hair and the hair type I was born with so I would not be taking this pill.

Hi Isis, always nice to hear from you... you texlax right? You wouldn't want your hair to be that texture naturally?

 

[jwhitley6]

No. Now if you had asked me that a year ago or even six months ago maybe I would have said yes, or at least maybe. But now it's like asking me if I'd rather be dark than light, short than tall. When I texturized my hair last summer it looked like 3b hair for a minute and it was beautiful but when I looked back and compared the texturized 3bish hair to what my hair looked like at 4 months natural there was no comparison. Not that my 4a/4b looked so much better than 3b hair, but it looked so much better on ME. On my 4 month natural pics I glowed, I am not kidding, my face just kinda sang. Unfortunately, I didn't appreciate it until AFTER I had texturized and relaxed again. Well, now I want to stay natural for good, because it's what's best for me and my hair, and for vanity reasons, I personally just look the prettiest and most like ME with my 4a/4b hair.

Hopeful, your posts always leave me feeling warm and fuzzy....Do you have any pictures posted of your hair? I don't think I've ever seen your hair, but if it's anything like your personality, I'm sure it's lovely!

I agree that different styles and textures wo make you look different. However, I'm sure there are a lot of women who would take the pill, but they won't admit it...Hell, a lot of people here take MSM because they heard it would change their texture.

 

[jwhitley6]

If you would have asked me this question at the beginning of my transition, I would have said yes without hesitation.

But now, I am literally addicted to playing with the coils and the waves all day. I don't think I would feel the same pleasure from touching my hair, that I have become used to if my curl pattern was looser.

So, my honest, no B.S. answer is JCoily won't be poppin the 3B pill.

Now if somebody is going to do a spinoff on whether you would take a pill that makes natural hair shiny - my pill poppin hiatus would be over.

You wouldn't pop the temporary pill either?

 

[Crackers Phinn]

You wouldn't pop the temporary pill either?

Nahhh, the only selling point for me with a looser curl pattern is that it would be easier to retain length in the long run, so a temporary pill wouldn't be of any benefit.

 

[Isis]

Hi Isis, always nice to hear from you... you texlax right? You wouldn't want your hair to be that texture naturally?

Oh, is this thread for naturals only?!!
I totally misunderstood this thread. My reply was about hair types and how I love my mine, including texlaxed. If my hair was like this naturally, it would still be a type 4.

 

[Country gal]

No. I am not hung up on hair texture and typing. I love my little coils. I feel it makes my hair look really unique. I love my hair just want it to stonger and longer.

 

[luvlylibra22]

As others have said, at another time I probably would have said yes. That time being when I was relaxed and didn't know a thing about my natural texture. I had so many negative childhood memories associated with my hair i.e.: running from the comb, being tenderheaded etc. But now I know that it wasn't my texture but the lack of knowledge on the part of those caring for it. Now that I know better, I love my hair texture. I often find myself just staring at it in the mirror or pulling at it and watching it coil back up.

So basically no I wouldn't take the pill.

 

[MzTami]

I have about 1/3 of 3c hair mixed with 4a/4b. I prefer the 3c parts of my hair because it's softer, curlier, more managable,and it fits me much better. I still have a TWA so I have yet to see the full potential of my natural hair. If I find my hair hard, not managable, I won't rule the 3b pill out!(JMO).

 

[caligirl]

I would take a pill to make my hair silky. It could be as kinky as it wants to be (e.g. 5b) but coarse hair is really a pain in the butt. It breaks much easier and takes a lot of work to keep it feeling soft.

 

[BroadstreetBully]

Even though I relax, a few years ago I wore my hair natural. My hair is mostly 4a with some 3c parts and to be honest I prefer the 3c areas. Where I live the weather can get quite humid. When I wore my hair natural I absolutely loved the nicely defined corkscrew curls of my 4a hair; however, no matter what products I would slather in my hair, once I got outside in that humidity my nice curls would go frizzy and I'd be stuck with frizzy 4a areas while my 3c areas stayed nicely in tact. I just hated to idea that I couldn't even enjoy my hair texture because humidity would destroy the curl pattern. Also, my 4a areas are impossible to keep straight. When I did want to change it up and wear a pressed style the 4a areas would revert OVERNIGHT while the 3c areas would, once again, stay in tact. If my natural texture was 3b/3c I would have kept my hair natural. I guess I prefer the look of 4a hair but wish it would keep up like my 3c hair.

 

[hopeful]

Hopeful, your posts always leave me feeling warm and fuzzy....Do you have any pictures posted of your hair? I don't think I've ever seen your hair, but if it's anything like your personality, I'm sure it's lovely!

I agree that different styles and textures wo make you look different. However, I'm sure there are a lot of women who would take the pill, but they won't admit it...Hell, a lot of people here take MSM because they heard it would change their texture.

Hey Jwhitley, I have a fotki that's closed for now, hope to re-open again in a month or so but I'll pm you a couple of pics so you can see what I mean. Also, thanks for the kind comments.

 

[Jadacrys]

My mind says that we would love to, but my heart says no. I love the way that 3b hair looks. It's so pretty. But as for me, I love my hair and the weird things about it. I feel like it adds to my unique "je ne sais quois". No, after all consideration, I wouldn't take it. My hair is mine, and I intend to stick with it.

 

[IrisDaVirus]

I wouldn't take a pill to change ANYTHING about my hair. I thoroughly enjoy the wild, untamed nature of my thick, multi-textured hair as it is.

 

[jwhitley6]

Re: Spinoff: If you could take a pill to change your natural 4a/b hair

Oh, is this thread for naturals only?!!
I totally misunderstood this thread. My reply was about hair types and how I love my mine, including texlaxed. If my hair was like this naturally, it would still be a type 4.

This thread isn't really for naturals. I'm just curious about who would change their natural texture with the pill. I'm surprised more people haven't said yes, especially relaxed heads.

Honestly, I'm on the fence about it. I love my hair, but I think I could love 3B as well. I would miss my pony puff, though. I think I'd try it for a while to help grow my hair out without breakage and then go back to 4a/b.

 

[hopeful]

Re: Spinoff: If you could take a pill to change your natural 4a/b hair

This thread isn't really for naturals. I'm just curious about who would change their natural texture with the pill. I'm surprised more people haven't said yes, especially relaxed heads.

Honestly, I'm on the fence about it. I love my hair, but I think I could love 3B as well. I would miss my pony puff, though. I think I'd try it for a while to help grow my hair out without breakage and then go back to 4a/b.

I think on this website so many of us have come to love and accept our hair as is. Even if our hair isn't always perfection we have all seen the many fotkis and the many possibilities of 4a/4b hair. While the 3b hair can be beautiful and silky, oftentimes the kinkier, super coily hair can be mezmerizing, so beautiful it takes our collective breaths away. I bet if you did a poll with the general public you'd get different responses.

 

[jwhitley6]

Re: Spinoff: If you could take a pill to change your natural 4a/b hair

I think on this website so many of us have come to love and accept our hair as is. Even if our hair isn't always perfection we have all seen the many fotkis and the many possibilities of 4a/4b hair. While the 3b hair can be beautiful and silky, oftentimes the kinkier, super coily hair can be mezmerizing, so beautiful it takes our collective breaths away. I bet if you did a poll with the general public you'd get different responses.

True, true.

 

[Legend]

You know, I like my 4b hair, as crazy as it behaves sometimes. But, oddly enough, I’ve always wanted to try 4A hair. I think it's georgeous with all the coils. I have no desire for type 3 hair.

Growing up, all of my immediate and close family members have type 4a hair and it looked so beautiful. Only my father and I have hair that doesn’t coil at all. But, would I take a pill to change it? No. My wavy 4b hair makes me distinctive. Actually, many (under-informed) people I've spoken to over the years don't realize that people with an African heritage don't nessesarily have curly hair. erplexed Like we all have one hair type. I like to prove them wrong.

 

[Cichelle]

This is interesting because it falls in line with something I was thinking about recently. My hair type is 3B, but I never expected that. When I stopped relaxing and imagined my hair completely natural, I really thought it was going to be 4A or 4B. All of my mind "preparation" was in that direction. I was happily talking about rocking afro puffs and dreaming about myself in an Angela Davis afro.

Then it became more and more clear that my hair wasn't the texture I thought it would be. I relaxed for so long...and then even when I was a kid, my mother brushed and blow dried my hair so I don't remember ever really knowing it's natural texture. Anyway, I was actually a little let down when things did not go as I imagined with my hair.

So, the other day, I was thinking back on that and wondering if I would change my hair texture to 4A or B if I could. And at this point, I wouldn't do that because I've come to love my own hair. I think that's what it is really about. We learn how to work with our hair and take care of it, so that we wouldn't really want to change it.

Someone said here that every texture has it's challenges and that is so true. My daughter has 1A hair...and there are battles to be fought there too.

Sometimes, however, I feel kinda left out or lonely on this board. But oh well.

 

[jwhitley6]

This is interesting because it falls in line with something I was thinking about recently. My hair type is 3B, but I never expected that. When I stopped relaxing and imagined my hair completely natural, I really thought it was going to be 4A or 4B. All of my mind "preparation" was in that direction. I was happily talking about rocking afro puffs and dreaming about myself in an Angela Davis afro.

Then it became more and more clear that my hair wasn't the texture I thought it would be. I relaxed for so long...and then even when I was a kid, my mother brushed and blow dried my hair so I don't remember ever really knowing it's natural texture. Anyway, I was actually a little let down when things did not go as I imagined with my hair.

So, the other day, I was thinking back on that and wondering if I would change my hair texture to 4A or B if I could. And at this point, I wouldn't do that because I've come to love my own hair. I think that's what it is really about. We learn how to work with our hair and take care of it, so that we wouldn't really want to change it.

Someone said here that every texture has it's challenges and that is so true. My daughter has 1A hair...and there are battles to be fought there too.

Sometimes, however, I feel kinda left out or lonely on this board. But oh well.

{{hugs}} It's okay, Cichelle. We love you!

You do present an interesting point of view. I wonder how many women would want to change their hair type from a 3 to a 4. You're right about all hair types having their challenges.

 

[Mizani_Mrs]

i think you've chosen the wrong choice of words. i don't think 3b is 'ideal'. i dont think any type is ideal...because that would mean that it's a better choice. on the flipside, i would take the pill (not because it's ideal but because i could have both a natural and a relaxed look) Id take it just so i can do a wash n go when i wanted to. i've tried it several times with my 4ab hair and all i get is frizz city..not 1 wave/curl....

 

[secretdiamond]

good point Mizani Mrs. This was my sentiment too. You said what I wanted to say but better & shorter. lol.

ETA: @ Cichelle: Just goes to show how sometimes the grass always *looks* greener on the other side, but necessarily isn't.

 

[Mizani_Mrs]

you mean i couldnt do a pony puff? or a diana ross do? ugh, nevermind....

 

[Daughter]

ETA: Now, of course the PC answer would be HELL NO!

It may or may not be PC but that is my response. Over the years I spent too long dissin' what God gave me... I love my nappy hair texture - thickness, shrinkage and ALL, I doubt I'd even press it again...