Hi, ladies i am so torn. My fiance and i have a two year old daughter and a house. We do not have much money, and i am torn between having a small church ceremony, and then everyone go out for dinner afterwards ( ppl would have to pay for themselves.) or waiting a year to save money and use our income tax to get married. However we could really use that income tax to put nicer furniture in our house, currently we have no dressers in our bedroom. or area rugs in several rooms which we need. Sometimes i convince myself that we may get money back from the wedding (from guests.) and we can use that to help with new furniture.
I know what sounds like the most logical thing to do is, and partly do not want to wait a whole year to get married just to have a nice wedding because, i want to do whats right in gods eyes. It's just so hard especially since my family is religious and tells us to get married now, and do something nice when we have the money. However, my fiance family are not that religious they tell us to wait till next year to have a nice wedding. (They have money, they actually bought are house for us. And i think they are pressuring us to go big because they want to show off for their friends.)
I know it sounds like mixed up rambling but i feel torn. I need outside advice.
I know what sounds like the most logical thing to do is, and partly do not want to wait a whole year to get married just to have a nice wedding because, i want to do whats right in gods eyes. It's just so hard especially since my family is religious and tells us to get married now, and do something nice when we have the money. However, my fiance family are not that religious they tell us to wait till next year to have a nice wedding. (They have money, they actually bought are house for us. And i think they are pressuring us to go big because they want to show off for their friends.)
I know it sounds like mixed up rambling but i feel torn. I need outside advice.