Again, I have to say this is a wonderful thread. In person, I don't know one other female who is waiting until marriage (whether they have already had sex or not) to get down w/ the get down. I just want to encourage everyone. It may look hard, but there are some things that you can do in the physical (as well as spiritually praying, staying the in the Word, speaking scripture and what you are trying to accomplish over your life, etc.). Just to give an example, I'll tell my situation and what I am doing.
I've been in a relationship (my first boyfriend cuz I waited on someone who I knew that the Lord would have for me) for over 3 and a half yrs. I'm 22 and he is 23. We are both a man and woman of God, so we knew from the beginning that there would be no action until after we both said, "I do." So from the very beginning we would limit our kisses cuz kissing only causes you to want to do more. I have my own apartment, so when he would be at my house, he would leave by a certain time. There was no chillin' all long in the night hours. Also, he would never really step in my bedroom unless it was to get something for me or something like that. There would be no, "oh...we are both tired, so lets just take a nap." We would do fun things like watch movies, play games even work out together. Now after three years of being with the person that you know God has for you, you start to get more and more affectionate. We found ourselves innocently starting to lay down on the couch to watch movies. Not on top of each other or anything. Just side by side. Big no no! Now we just sit up or one lets the other lay down. If I am just having a chill day at my apartment by myself and have on a lil' tank top and some skimpy tight short shorts and he pops up, I will tell him to hold on and I will go change. I know that him seeing me like that will turn him on. I don't know if this stuff sounds silly, but I am telling you that little things help. I am telling you from experience. I can truly say that we are both are still going to go into marriage still pure for each other. And for those who have already had sex, you can now start to do things to help you and your partner to wait. It is never too late...I have already read other posts where encouragement was given...don't give up or feel bad!
Are there any other suggestions that can be given?