I've finally hit my stride as a natural. It took me years of hit or misses, but I'm finally in a great place. My hair is back to BSL, approaching MSL. I put my hair in twist and flexirod them up so they don't brush against my clothes. So now I'm getting complements all the time. Big switch from 10 years ago, trust me. But the question I dread now is what do you put on your hair.
I really want to help new naturals, I really do. But that's a really complicated question! It seems like everyone is looking for the magic product that will make all their tangling and breakage disappear. At lot of people stop listening after mention the shampoo, deep conditioning, or co-washing. Apparently, sulfate free shampoo seems to extreme. When I do manage to explain the entire process, the complain I do too much. Then I try to simplify it, meaning don't treat your hair to harshly. I suggest using a wide tooth comb, avoid using drying products, and avoid heat. But that backfires too. Then I get labeled with "good hair, because it sounds too easy."
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What the... have you seen my curl pattern?
I'm sorry, but why ask unless you want to know?
I really want to help new naturals, I really do. But that's a really complicated question! It seems like everyone is looking for the magic product that will make all their tangling and breakage disappear. At lot of people stop listening after mention the shampoo, deep conditioning, or co-washing. Apparently, sulfate free shampoo seems to extreme. When I do manage to explain the entire process, the complain I do too much. Then I try to simplify it, meaning don't treat your hair to harshly. I suggest using a wide tooth comb, avoid using drying products, and avoid heat. But that backfires too. Then I get labeled with "good hair, because it sounds too easy."
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What the... have you seen my curl pattern?
I'm sorry, but why ask unless you want to know?