Kbragg, thanks for coming back. I need to share something in defense of both you and BlkManWSS. However, I have to lean more with BlkMan because I'm seeing in his comments that which is giving life and a rich awakening to an endangered species...us.
How long has the White race believed themselves better over all races, not just ours?
God is speaking to us through this man's heart. "Kbragg" you are speaking from your personal experience. Who has the greater weight?
Whoever is reading, pull up a good seat and have your favorite snack and beverage at hand....Shimmie... is on a roll.
First, being Black is something that we will always be. Although my skin may pale out in the winter and brown in the summer, I am Black. The 'mix' in my family's bloodline, may depict other features in me (fine hair texture, the red or copper undertones of my skin), but I'm still Black. That being said, I want to always be proud of who I am and never lose sight nor the pride of it.
There are many white people in my life who adore me. They respect me; yes indeed I am loved beyond their physical embrace. Yet there is something that none of them can give me...and that is knowing what it is to be Black. They cannot 'share' this rich heritage with me; nor the pains of prejudice, and they will
never be able to make up for it or be able to preserve Black pride.
Understand me. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God is Blending and Mending the races. Trust me, I know this. I've living proof of it personally, as are several of my closest friends and family members.
When we are together, there is no difference. My cousin's fiancee' is Iranian (full blooded) and he has literally made himself at home in our lives and especially in our all Black family church. One of our closest friends recently married, her husband is 100% Asian.
And with all of the beauty of this, YES the beauty of it, and the love that God wants us to have for one another, God still wants the mending of the Black race and He always will.
Why is this? Because we as Blacks have been spiritually raped, cursed with hating ourselves far too long. And if we do not change it, if we do not mend it, we will die as a people. And no one can deny that we as a race have been slowly dying for centuries. Killing ourselves over drugs, poverty, envy, strife, contention, but worst of all, hatred of who we are.
And this is where I MUST and I HAVE to and I DO applaude what BlKManWithSomeSense has to say. This man
does have sense, the purest form of it, but even more, the heart and wisdom of God.
Kbragg, I was 'losing' it. I was losing who I am and the pride of myself as a Black woman. I was lost in stream of a White world and seeing only their good and forgetting that this same good does truly exist in our culture, but especially our Black men whom I had lost great faith and trust in.
There have been Black men in pivotal points of my life where they failed my faith in them...my trust. The White world 'appeared' better and I was dangerously being sucked in to this lie.
My dad used to say this, "Association brings on Assimilation" and beyond my hair texture and pale winter skin, I was becoming more and more like them.
Why so? This didn't come from my parents nor any of my family members. As BlkMan shared, the generations before us, set the prime example of bonding with one another for we dealt with issues that gave us 'just cause' and it sealed a bond within us that kept us as one. We fought, bled and died
for each other.
Yet today, we fight, bleed and die BECAUSE we hate each other. Why is that? Indeed, it's the devil's objective but not his plan so strong that we cannot take it in hand and destroy it. And that destruction is that of love and pride of ourselves and who we are.
BlkMan's statement of our race as a religion is not one to be ignored. It's not only the truth, but it's the saving element, the one thread of hope, that is saving us from falling out of existance.
Yes, there will be Black faces and bodies that will continue to walk upon this earth, but within these bodies will be lost souls; a people who are no longer a people who have roots of themselves to cherish. Our generations will know nothing of whom they can be proud of, for you see, the enemy wants to take even that away. And it's happening via slow fade mode...
There's another saying, "If you don't know where you came from, you will never know where you are going."
Granted, my origin is from my father's seed, planted in my mother's womb and I was given birth in the heart of Harlem, NY (Yeah Harlem
), however this still orginated from God's heart...his creation and my desired Destiny is Heaven bound, for the hell on this here earth is more than enough to deter me from the eternal hell that awaits those who chose otherwise.
My point is this. We cannot lose site of who we are and lose the history
nor the love of our origin as a Black race. Knowing that I'm Black creates in me a fight to become the best I can so that my children after me will never lose sight of the wonderful design they were created from, which will create in them the desire to live up to call of greatness that we
'all' are.
As Black women we have been beat down by our Black men far too long. At one time, it was by deserting us financially, then by marrying white women sharing with them our Black success.
Hell, (yes I said it) we Black women, put our Black men in their success. Did we not give them birth? That along speaks volumes of where loyalty belongs. Then we lost our men to drug lords, pushers, pimps and ushers to gangs and prostitution, negative stereotypes in the movies and music. Anyway to catch a dollar. Well hell...now Black men are going to other men. Yes the devil is the culprit, but they don't have to yield.
And
yesssss...Shimmie said hell and I mean it utterly and intentionally, for hell is what this mess is. Our men are literally going to hell deserting us all the more. And out of all of the 'hell', is there anything good left in Black men? Is there anyone committed to our presevation?
Yessss! Finally! Bless God, it stands out in this brother's post. Read his other posts, he's consistant with his views, his stance on life, his committment to us and to himself and his family. He's not using a play on words. He means it. It's coming from his heart and from the heart of God our Father in Heaven.
Re-read his post above...Read it beyond the White lines of blindness. I have and it's literally shaking the lies of hell out of me regarding my negative views on Black men. God is using this man to deliver me and many others who have lost hope that a Black man existed who could be trusted.
I am not placing him above God nor even close upon a pedestal. That's would be futile to God's intention and to him.
Yet I am open to recognize, that BlkManWSS has determined in his heart not to fall into the stereotype of entrapment of selling us out. When he sees a brother beating down on a sister, he'll be the first to jump in slap some sense into him. He's what we need to keep us alive and well. And there are more men to follow with this same heart. More of him are out there.
Do you think it's easy for him to be like he is and not be discouraged at what he sees hurting our people? Kbragg, go back and re-read his entire post. You will not lose your White husband by agreeing to the truth of who we are as a Black people who do have these unique qualities about us that no other race can touch nor have they experienced.
The White men who love us cannot begin to cherish us with love that comes from struggle...Black struggle. As Blacks we will always have that one common bond that is a religion all in itsself. But it's not a religion that's created by the flimsey wind and doctrines of men.
It's one of a Spirit that can never die. God gave it immunity to death. Our bond as a people has been given a life, designed by God, all of its own. For without it, none of us could have ever survived the horrendous tortures that satan devised to destroy us.
From the torturous hangings of 'strange fruit' upon Southern trees, we hung. We were burned in front of our children. Men who were right fathers and husbands, were pulled from their homes and beds, and killed just because they refused to bow down to a white judgment who wanted to rule us inhuman.
Yes, we are a religion and I give God honor for it is a religion that God worhips...not us. But in cherishing ourselves, we honor and worship God.
"Lady K"
, listen to me. As women we naturally 'yield' to the men we love....yes...we do. And we do this without resistance; yes even when we are challenged with a disagreement, we as women softly yield to the men we love. It's as softly and as graceful as a dance ... in the soft graces that a dancer follows beautiful music, likewise to them we softly yield.
For, God said to Eve..."... your desire will be to your husband." (Gen 3).
And "K", it's a beautiful thing to do...to yield for it fits us as women.
"K", it becomes assimilation, in marrige it becomes one. The love you feel with your white husband is beautiful and it will remain such. But listen to me...'do not lose who you are in the beauty of your origin...Black.
Angel, I know what I speak of...
for I've been dancing.
Thank God for a man unafraid to love us, be he White or Black. But I thank God even more for this man of ours...BlkManWithSomeSense, who has taken the sandpaper damage that has abraised who we are, and has instead, silkened our beauty and our heritage, eternally.
"Lady K"
A new dance is evolving... a new rhythm and rhyme. It's called, yielding to presevation of a Rich wonder of life...us. Trusting and loving who we are forever. [/COLOR]
Girl, you have me rolling on the floor laughing...''Coma".... 
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erplexed 
You said you wouldn't make assumptions, but that's what you did. You didn't receive the post in the spirit in which it was given. For the record, Shimmie's sweetheart and soon to be hubby is a white man. No hidden racism here.
If word ever gets out to my hubby that I said I need to listen to him, I will know it came from this forum! Don't mess wit me, I got friends yo! West Siiiieeede!
To each of you...
He sure is. 
