Yes, of course people have to get together to get to know one another! Absolutely! But here's the thing: the church has adopted the world's definition of this process called "dating". Show me ONE EXAMPLE from the Bible that would REMOTELY be considered dating. I'll throw one out there:
Esther and the king.... Let's explore this:
According to some estimates, in his search for a virgin bride, the King of Persia(?) had up to FOUR THOUSAND virgins to consider. Each girl had ONE NIGHT (can we call that ONE DATE?).... And after that ONE DATE, it was either
or
, yes?
And sure, if you're checking out FOUR THOUSAND women, you can't take that much time, but the point is that the king was purposeful. It was VERY CLEAR what the king was looking for...and the women had time and opportunity to prepare themselves. Maybe he picked a woman before Esther, but for whatever reason, maybe that woman chose to walk away and also because Esther was the LORD'S CHOICE?....
I think what I'm saying is that it doesn't take that long to know if you "click" with a person enough to see if there's more to explore between one another... and as both persons agree on that, that's a good sign that you're in the same ballpark, yes?
For fun, maybe some of us (maybe for another thread) can toss out some timelines to get a sense of how long it takes to know if there's potentiality to pursue something further: a month? 2 months? 3 months? 6 months? a year?