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What is also kinda sad is that we are teaching little black girls to love their hair even though it's nappy. How is that going to stand up against oh the pretty little white girl at my school say's I have nappy hair I know I am suppose to love my difficult hair but enough of those words can really kill a child's spirit.
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Salliquay! I am glad that you showed up! As I said, you are welcome here! /images/graemlins/smile.gif I just want to respond to this as a mother. I love my daughter and every day I tell her that she is beautiful, that her hair is beautiful and that her family loves her. Nothing will kill a child's spirit if that child believes in her own worth. All of this starts in the home. If the positive messages are not in the home, of course children will be more vulnerable to responding to labeling. This is true of anything, not just the word nappy! All name calling hurts! What if the little white girl says your child is stupid, or fat, or too dark, or has bad clothes? What then? We need to build children's self-esteem in the home and not be bothered by what others outside the home say. If you are getting the same negative message outside and inside the home, of course it will be reinforced. But positive self-esteem is built in the home--the home is the buffer between the child and the sometimes cruel outside world. Using nappy as an example, if the word is embraced in the home and children are taught that their hair is beautiful, they'll be a lot less likely to have their spirits broken by the use of that word or ANY other word in a negative context. And they won't worry so much how they stand up against others, but will stand proudly on their own!
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Very well said /images/graemlins/up.gif
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I agree as well.
For me personally, I have no issues with the word nappy, NGC = NappGirlCurl. Napp comes first and foremost. I also have never cared about other people's negative opinion about "nappy" hair, never have, never will. My hair is what it is and I wear it as it was given to me and with much love /images/graemlins/smile.gif