haitiancutie
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Alright...I'll give you the low down to the very dramatic title, LOL. Last week (I had to wait until I was calm enough to write this) I had my hair relaxed by godmother. I used to get my hair relaxed by my aunt who would charge $25 to relax my hair and $10 to wash it but that soon proved to be too hard on my wallet and I stopped going. My godmother, who has a beautician degree, moved to the city and offered to take care of all my family's hair for free. Now you know I was all over it!
Well, I went to my godmother in January and she insisted to put the relaxer from ROOT TO TIP! When I saw what was going on, I told her to please not relax my whole head but she told me that I had too much "naps" and that my relaxer stopped working . It was too late so I told her OK, just please make sure not to put it through my entire head this time.
Fast forward to last week (and alot of protein and moisture treatments later) and she's not only putting the relaxer throughout my entire head but she is also combing through my hair with a SMALL-TOOTH COMB!! Before the whole debacle happened and I was getting my hair prepped, I asked her not to put the relaxer on my whole length of hair. I even made up a lie that my ends were breaking off so she wouldn't do it. But she just sucked her teeth and told me that it was because I wet my hair too much and that she had to relax my hair to "correct the problem."
I argued with her at the beginning but, after realizing that she would not back down no matter what, I sat in the chair and tried to stamp down my anger. My question to all you lovely ladies would be...how the hell do I handle this situation? I have already decided to dedicate time to becoming a self-relaxer so I could finally be free of this mess...but how do I tell my godmother that I would like her to kindly GTFO (off) my hair without hurting her feelings because - other than this issue - I love her dearly and we have a great relationship. Also, any tips on how to become a self-laxer. Thank you for reading my epic novel. Don't be shy, I'm a newbie and I need all the help I can get oke:
Well, I went to my godmother in January and she insisted to put the relaxer from ROOT TO TIP! When I saw what was going on, I told her to please not relax my whole head but she told me that I had too much "naps" and that my relaxer stopped working . It was too late so I told her OK, just please make sure not to put it through my entire head this time.
Fast forward to last week (and alot of protein and moisture treatments later) and she's not only putting the relaxer throughout my entire head but she is also combing through my hair with a SMALL-TOOTH COMB!! Before the whole debacle happened and I was getting my hair prepped, I asked her not to put the relaxer on my whole length of hair. I even made up a lie that my ends were breaking off so she wouldn't do it. But she just sucked her teeth and told me that it was because I wet my hair too much and that she had to relax my hair to "correct the problem."
I argued with her at the beginning but, after realizing that she would not back down no matter what, I sat in the chair and tried to stamp down my anger. My question to all you lovely ladies would be...how the hell do I handle this situation? I have already decided to dedicate time to becoming a self-relaxer so I could finally be free of this mess...but how do I tell my godmother that I would like her to kindly GTFO (off) my hair without hurting her feelings because - other than this issue - I love her dearly and we have a great relationship. Also, any tips on how to become a self-laxer. Thank you for reading my epic novel. Don't be shy, I'm a newbie and I need all the help I can get oke: