ClassicBeauty
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DH and I visited many churches before we were married to find one that we could both be happy with because we both thought it was important to have one church for our (future) family. I came from a very organized mega-church. He came from a very stuck up, old traditional church. Needless to say, neither of us were happy at the other's church.
Here we are almost a year later, and there are some things that I REALLY don't like about our church. At first, I complained to DH when things were done backwards, with half effort, etc. After a while, it was placed on my heart that God uses those who are willing, not necessarily those with capacity or talent. Well, at my church, it seems as though the rocks are crying out.
The church is filled with talented, competent people, but most of them are young (under 40) and have not been there for generations. (There was a big mess at the church many years ago, and the pastor was kicked out of the United Methodist Church. The church split and many people in the church are new.)
Anyway, the pastor complains about the lack of participation in programs and events outside of Sunday morning services, but it seems to me that the event and programs don't match the membership. People aren't interested in those things. I'm trying to figure out where I could best serve, but it is not an easy task. There's a teen girl ministry, and I thought I could help out there, so I went up to the coordinator and asked to volunteer sometime. She was RUDE and was NOT interested in anyone working with her girls. I had to pray really hard on that because she really hurt my feelings. The ministry leaders are very territorial, and they seem to be afraid that new people want to take over. I don't want to take over, I just wanted to volunteer.erplexed
Even in Sunday services, they have people on the program sometimes who are not articulate, don't pronounce words properly, haven't read the scripture before the read it on the mic, etc. Our old churches would have never allowed that.
I know that intelligence isn't everything, but when you have a church full of intelligent professionals, how can they get active without intimidating the "old heads." At our church, the new, young professionals like the Senior Pastor's sermons on sundays, but that's all they will do. At first I thought it was because they were all to busy being young parents and professionals, but now I think the "old heads" may not be willing to let them in (based on my experience).
FYI-I have volunteered to help however I am needed for Vacation Bible School this summer, but I bet they never call me.
Here we are almost a year later, and there are some things that I REALLY don't like about our church. At first, I complained to DH when things were done backwards, with half effort, etc. After a while, it was placed on my heart that God uses those who are willing, not necessarily those with capacity or talent. Well, at my church, it seems as though the rocks are crying out.
The church is filled with talented, competent people, but most of them are young (under 40) and have not been there for generations. (There was a big mess at the church many years ago, and the pastor was kicked out of the United Methodist Church. The church split and many people in the church are new.)
Anyway, the pastor complains about the lack of participation in programs and events outside of Sunday morning services, but it seems to me that the event and programs don't match the membership. People aren't interested in those things. I'm trying to figure out where I could best serve, but it is not an easy task. There's a teen girl ministry, and I thought I could help out there, so I went up to the coordinator and asked to volunteer sometime. She was RUDE and was NOT interested in anyone working with her girls. I had to pray really hard on that because she really hurt my feelings. The ministry leaders are very territorial, and they seem to be afraid that new people want to take over. I don't want to take over, I just wanted to volunteer.erplexed
Even in Sunday services, they have people on the program sometimes who are not articulate, don't pronounce words properly, haven't read the scripture before the read it on the mic, etc. Our old churches would have never allowed that.
I know that intelligence isn't everything, but when you have a church full of intelligent professionals, how can they get active without intimidating the "old heads." At our church, the new, young professionals like the Senior Pastor's sermons on sundays, but that's all they will do. At first I thought it was because they were all to busy being young parents and professionals, but now I think the "old heads" may not be willing to let them in (based on my experience).
FYI-I have volunteered to help however I am needed for Vacation Bible School this summer, but I bet they never call me.