shellyb
Member
Ok, I am venting. After about four years of being natural, I decieded to relax bone straight. I wore it straight for about a year. My relaxed hair was really healthy at first but since I had been natural for a long time, I didn't really know how to take care of relaxed hair. I blowdried, flat-ironed and basically did everything that you shouldn't do. It got so damaged and was shedding so bad that I thought I was gonna go bald! (This was obviously before I discovered LHCF...which I'm so glad I did!)
So after all my drama with bone staight hair I decided to to cut it all off. Even though it was shoulder length, I felt that starting over was the best thing I could do. I did the big chop in February and a few weeks later I put in a mild relaxer (texturized). I am really happy with my hair! It is much more healthy...no more blow dryer or flat iron...I just wash n go. The best thing is no more shedding!
For the most part, my friends and family have been supportive of my BC. Of course there is always gonna be someone who has something negative to say...in this case, my boyfriend's step-mom. I don't know if she intententionally says rude things or if she is just doesn't understand. (she has dry, overly relaxed, thin, chin-length hair).
The first time she saw my new cut she said. “ Oh....its cute....who cut it and now who put in your jheri curl? I smiled and was like, “Its not a curl...its my natural curls with a mild relaxer...And she says “Oh OK....as if she didn't believe me. Everytime she sees me she asks me questions about my hair and when I try to explain, she will make comments like she doesn't understand.
Just yesterday a group of us went to dinner and my boyfriend's step-mom made one of her famous comments. I was talking about how I wanted my hair to grow to chin length by Christmas. She chimes in and says “so you cut your long hair, got a curl and now you want it long and straight again!?†“So what are you gonna do about the curl?†At this point I didn't really say much.....I guess I was just in shock that she was saying this after I've explained my hair to her so many times.
Her comments were funny initially and I took the time to explain. But now I think either she's not understnding when I explain things to her or she is just being rude. I think I'm gonna avoid the whole hair topic with her all together....just keep that conversation short and simple and keep it movin'.
If she saw my baggie method with my s curl activator she would have a field day! LOL
Thanks for listening ladies!!
picture of relaxed hair below
So after all my drama with bone staight hair I decided to to cut it all off. Even though it was shoulder length, I felt that starting over was the best thing I could do. I did the big chop in February and a few weeks later I put in a mild relaxer (texturized). I am really happy with my hair! It is much more healthy...no more blow dryer or flat iron...I just wash n go. The best thing is no more shedding!
For the most part, my friends and family have been supportive of my BC. Of course there is always gonna be someone who has something negative to say...in this case, my boyfriend's step-mom. I don't know if she intententionally says rude things or if she is just doesn't understand. (she has dry, overly relaxed, thin, chin-length hair).
The first time she saw my new cut she said. “ Oh....its cute....who cut it and now who put in your jheri curl? I smiled and was like, “Its not a curl...its my natural curls with a mild relaxer...And she says “Oh OK....as if she didn't believe me. Everytime she sees me she asks me questions about my hair and when I try to explain, she will make comments like she doesn't understand.
Just yesterday a group of us went to dinner and my boyfriend's step-mom made one of her famous comments. I was talking about how I wanted my hair to grow to chin length by Christmas. She chimes in and says “so you cut your long hair, got a curl and now you want it long and straight again!?†“So what are you gonna do about the curl?†At this point I didn't really say much.....I guess I was just in shock that she was saying this after I've explained my hair to her so many times.
Her comments were funny initially and I took the time to explain. But now I think either she's not understnding when I explain things to her or she is just being rude. I think I'm gonna avoid the whole hair topic with her all together....just keep that conversation short and simple and keep it movin'.
If she saw my baggie method with my s curl activator she would have a field day! LOL
Thanks for listening ladies!!
picture of relaxed hair below
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and your new doo looks very pretty in your avatar.
