Southernbella.
Well-Known Member
These recent posts are interesting to me. Looking at the apparently "anti-relaxed heads" threads over the past few months or so, it is understandable to think that there is a divide.
However, I can think off the top of my head a bunch of seemingly anti-natural threads on this board too. Furthermore, once you look into past threads, it becomes even clearer that there simply isn't just some one-sided anti-relaxed hair bashing here. So I suppose I find it interested that this fact is glossed over in favour of thinking all naturals have something against relaxed heads. I've seen threads that more or less go like this:
"is natural hair a curse by God?"
"was our hair meant to be this difficult?"
"natural hair makes me look age 4"
"your SO finds your natural hair ugly and wants you do relax - you need to do it!"
"oh s**t son, naturals - who are only doing this because it's a "fad" - are quickly surpassing the length of my relaxed hair. How very dare they!"
"type 4 ain't cute"
Yet, despite the older threads and the more recent threads (such as "why I'll really never go natural" and "Sorry naturals, not BC'ing any time soon. Get over it because I know you all care, right?"), I've never looked at those threads as representing the whole relaxed population of this board. As thus, although I know there have been controversial opinions on each side, I've perceived a hostile divide on this board. Maybe it's because when I compare the amount of those "anti-XYZ" threads we have to the amount of naturals who go into a relaxed woman's hair update and give praise and vice versa, the review threads where everyone joins in, the threads where we all discuss issues in a mature manner, the threads were a natural once to BC and she's not pressured into staying that way etc, it seem the anti-XYZ threads are pretty thin on the ground.
I tend not to blow up the "negative" and ignore that fact the positive vastly outweighs all the other ish. It seems a thread is labelled controversial these days even if 3-4 people out of 50 say something (even in a respectful way) that goes against the grain. I know there are some unsavoury opinions on this board but I've always seen them as belonging to the minority as opposed to the majority.
Thank you.
This thread reminds me of when white folks start whining about minorities taking over.
