SimplyLive
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People exaggerate the "natural nazi" phenomenon.
Relaxed hair ladies frowned upon?
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Evolving78
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i don't think so. we have had countless debates on the natural vs relaxed thing. but i don't think it's a fad. i for one, change my hair with the wind. before the natural craze, i went natural and loved it for what it was at the time, but it wasn't a lot of good knowledge out there for locs or natural hair care, so i did something else. i went natural because i wanted to find out what it was like to be natural. i never had that experience before that i can remember. i was told my hair wouldn't allow it.
i see the natural nazi thing with newly natural heads. it's just like somebody getting saved and drastically trying to change their sinful ways. they get self righteous and shove the bible down your throat like no tomorrow. they want everybody to get that same fire like them. (not knocking Christianity,) i am part of a natural group on FB and they bash relaxers a lot.
by the way, are you natural? i feel a lot of heat from your post. i hope you don't take this thread or what anyone is saying the wrong way. natural hair will be a fad for some, while others will continue on with their natural hair journey.
Honey Bee
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SimplyLive, You misunderstand. A lot of us just don't care.
I don't care what the fad is, I do my own thing. When y'all all start relaxing again, or bkt'ing, or "heat training" 
, that's probably when I'll go natural again, just to be contrary. 
SimplyLive
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For every 1 natural hair nazi, you will find 100 people who do not like your "nappy" hair and encourages you to relax.
Honey Bee
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SimplyLive, I don't disagree. I encountered my fair share of them. They probably ain't on a hair board, though, so no need to shade us.
SimJam
Well-Known Member
thanks goodness Ive only come across 1 person who showed some disdain over my decision to go natural..... and shes natural
but shes just trifling in general so I just laughed it off
MystiqueBabe
New Member
Most of the women where I live are still relaxed. I see some natural heads every once and a while, but majority appear to have relaxed hair. Straightened natural hair looks different from the relaxed hair that I've seen along with the other differences I see. It's mostly on the internet where I see naturals either newly, nazis/trolls frown upon relaxed hair ladies.
I personally don't like relaxers but I don't look down on other's who relax. I am more concerned about what relaxers did to my hair and don't want to go through that again. Also I don't see whats so hard about natural hair, but I can't speak on other people's experiences.
If relaxers are working for you and helping you achieve your hair goals, then remain relaxed. As long as your hair remains healthy, then whats the big deal.
I personally don't like relaxers but I don't look down on other's who relax. I am more concerned about what relaxers did to my hair and don't want to go through that again. Also I don't see whats so hard about natural hair, but I can't speak on other people's experiences.
If relaxers are working for you and helping you achieve your hair goals, then remain relaxed. As long as your hair remains healthy, then whats the big deal.
Mande30
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Within both of these groups (relaxed and natural). I have seen some sub naziism coming out:
Relaxed Sub Groups- No Lye v. Lye
"I will never go back to No Lye because it dries your hair out."
"Never, ever, ever, use no lye, it is so bad for your hair"
"Lye relaxers will destroy your scalp, why do that"
Natural Sub Groups- Flat Iron v. Keep it kinky and curly
" You may as well have a relaxer if you want straight hair all the time"
"Sister, God gave us these kinks and you want to flat iron them out, nothing but self-hate"
I have read comments like this on boards and I have heard them on YouTube.
It seems as though some people feel as though their way is the only right way. NEWS FLASH......No it is not. THere is nothing wrong with giving helpful advice or sharing what has worked for you. But respect that it may not be for others or they just simply Don't want to do it.
Relaxed Sub Groups- No Lye v. Lye
"I will never go back to No Lye because it dries your hair out."
"Never, ever, ever, use no lye, it is so bad for your hair"
"Lye relaxers will destroy your scalp, why do that"
Natural Sub Groups- Flat Iron v. Keep it kinky and curly
" You may as well have a relaxer if you want straight hair all the time"
"Sister, God gave us these kinks and you want to flat iron them out, nothing but self-hate"
I have read comments like this on boards and I have heard them on YouTube.
It seems as though some people feel as though their way is the only right way. NEWS FLASH......No it is not. THere is nothing wrong with giving helpful advice or sharing what has worked for you. But respect that it may not be for others or they just simply Don't want to do it.
Evolving78
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a lot of us that have went natural have gotten those comments. i got it from some of my family members. that comes from ignorance and brainwashing. most folks with high textured hair have been conditioned to think natural hair is a bad thing. all we have ever known was either relaxing, or straightening it with a pressing comb. we didn't practice healthy hair care either. so it is still somewhat of a culture shock for some.
the thing with relaxers is someone telling someone you are trying to be something you are not, you are brainwashed by euro standards of beauty, relaxed hair is damaged hair and can't grow, etc....
you are damned if you do, and damned if you don't. my SIL was natural for years. she wore her hair straight, she recently decided to go back to relaxers. she posted it on FB. certain folks started going crazy, trying to talk her out of it, tell her that her hair was going to fall out.... these are folks that just decided to come to the natural side. she was natural for almost 12-14 years.
Evolving78
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i decided to go back to no lye. the lye was leaving me under processed, and i wasn't about to go up on the strength of the relaxer. i was afraid of going back to it at first, until i did the research for myself. ignorance will have you stuck in a box that you might not be able to fit in!
Mande30
New Member
i decided to go back to no lye. the lye was leaving me under processed, and i wasn't about to go up on the strength of the relaxer. i was afraid of going back to it at first, until i did the research for myself. ignorance will have you stuck in a box that you might not be able to fit in!
You are so right. At one time, I had bought into the whole NO-Lye rant. I swore that I would never use No-Lye. Until.....I was sharing my knowledge with my stylist and he told me that he had been putting sensitive scalp (No-lye) in my hair for the last 6 years. All I could do was
. I did my research and realized that he had been using a neutralizing shampoo, with a chelator. And my hair was fine. (The problem was how I took care of it at home, but thats another story) This is why you have to find out for yourself. You may lead me to the pond, but I AM NOT GOING TO DRINK until I know what is in that water.
Rocky91
NYE side boob.
You know, I'm starting to think that kind of ease really isn't as "unicorn status" as we make it seem.@Honey Bee You're funny girl!
I understand. But although I know that the ease of my hair is not the norm, I wanted folks to know that we are out here and that natural hair is not a struggle for eveeryone.
I feel like so many naturals are just committed to doing THEE most
I mean, I can't tell people what their hair needs or wants but I refuse to believe ANYBODY'S hair is gonna melt away from their heads unless they do 5 hours of detangling, 3 different treatments/week and use up industrial sized vats of buttahs and oils.
for the record, I do the hair of a lot of natural heads in my family ranging from 3's to 4a-b-c-z-x-*-& and all anybody ever really needs is a good wash/DC and nice leave-ins or moisturizers.
APrayer4Hair
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I hate all of u! Y did I just get accosted by a natural nazi in walmart?! I have my hair in a fro-hawk today. Nothing special. She comes up to me saying " I love your hair don't ever change it EVER! they want us to perm our ish!!!" all I could do was smile and nod because she scared the bejeezus outta me!!
I really don't care what anybody thinks about relaxed hair. I relax my hair because it's easier to manage in that state. I want hair that I can put in a bun and go. While I don't have anything negative to say about "naturals", to each his own. I must do what's best for me. I didn't even know that people are beginning to frown on relaxed hair ladies. That's news to me. Plus if this was the case why don't I see more natural heads on television or in print. I got my issue of Essence Magazine and see lots of weaved, straight hair ladies there, I guess we are slow to catch on.
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SimJam
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sowwy for scaring you
your fro-hawk was just so darn pretty ... but still dont change it .... EVER.
AXtremeTakeover
Member
I'm transitioning... Not because its in but because its I miss my natural texture. My relaxed hair was just so thin. Then I figured I wasn't stretching enough. If I could go back I would relax. I think relax hair is great. It's just not the thing right now. So love to all my relaxed sistahs! Your hair texture is still like no other
sunnieb
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Lol Yea right. I would like to see someone try to frown at me as I slowly walk pass them with my WL relaxed hair blowing in the wind as it smacks them in the face while smelling like strawberries & cream from a fresh cowash.
Too much??
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Taina
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The time i talked the most about my hair (I was relaxed back then) was the last time i was in USA. Lot of people asking me stuff about it and it was REALLY weird.
I don't talk about hair outside this board and my blog, can not imagine tell someone that her hair is this or that :/. I love healthy hair, any type of hair ... and if the person use it in the way they use it, is because they like it like that. Who am I to say anything? :S
If natural hair is or not a fad, who cares? I used it natural cause i like it ... i've been relaxed and like it too, I don't know why we have to stress over that.
I don't talk about hair outside this board and my blog, can not imagine tell someone that her hair is this or that :/. I love healthy hair, any type of hair ... and if the person use it in the way they use it, is because they like it like that. Who am I to say anything? :S
If natural hair is or not a fad, who cares? I used it natural cause i like it ... i've been relaxed and like it too, I don't know why we have to stress over that.
whiteoleander91
stay at your best ♥
You know, I'm starting to think that kind of ease really isn't as "unicorn status" as we make it seem.
I feel like so many naturals are just committed to doing THEE most
I mean, I can't tell people what their hair needs or wants but I refuse to believe ANYBODY'S hair is gonna melt away from their heads unless they do 5 hours of detangling, 3 different treatments/week and use up industrial sized vats of buttahs and oils.
for the record, I do the hair of a lot of natural heads in my family ranging from 3's to 4a-b-c-z-x-*-& and all anybody ever really needs is a good wash/DC and nice leave-ins or moisturizers.
ITA. Natural hair doesn't have to be an epic battle.
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All any relaxed head has to do is cut off or grow out their relaxed hair and bam, they are natural. All any natural head has to do is slap on a relaxer and bam, they are relaxed. Why does it have to be "us vs. them" when all it it takes is one simple action to flip to either side...
Lylddlebit
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I'm natural as long as your hair looks good I like it. I like good looking hair relaxed/natural/unsure/real or fake
BostonMaria
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I love healthy hair. If you're relaxed and know how to take care of your hair then more power to you. What I don't like to see are the young ladies with a 1 inch ponytail, no edges, and hair that's screaming for moisture because they haven't washed it in 3 weeks. Unfortunately that's usually what I see on the street. I wish I could give them the link to this site and tell them there's a better way.
By the way, to ME this whole natural thing is not a fad. We finally have a voice and companies are catering to us women of color. There are more options available to us. I remember a time when all we had was Vaseline and hot combs. Having my hair natural works for me and if you saw my relaxed hair pictures you would agree with me. My hair was fried back then LOL
OP if you ever decide to come to the nappy side we're here to guide you (and vice versa of course).
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someone who has been natural all her life checking in. you guys are absolutely right. a lot of this militant and judgement towards relaxed heads comes from newly naturals. i know for me, i was never ever concerned (and still am not) with what other people do with their hair. however, i do appreciate though when people transition from relaxed to natural bc it seems difficult at times; i like seeing perseverance (w/anything).
no matter how you get it there (relaxed, texlaxed, flat iron, etc.) - i just LOVE and appreciate healthy, long hair.
no matter how you get it there (relaxed, texlaxed, flat iron, etc.) - i just LOVE and appreciate healthy, long hair.
divachyk
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Most naturals IRL suggest they would have stayed relaxed if it wasn't for breaking hair, thinning hair, etc. They decided to go natural because of those things, otherwise, they would have stayed relaxed, thus they don't knock my hair being relaxed. Instead, they compliment and commend me for having such a beautiful head of relaxed hair...something they were unable to achieve.
I know LHCF naturals might have decided to go natural for other reasons but this is just the perspective of naturals I know IRL.
I know LHCF naturals might have decided to go natural for other reasons but this is just the perspective of naturals I know IRL.
pre_medicalrulz
It Always Been About Hair!
Your relaxed hair is truly amazing...
aww thank you doll.
greight
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I know, right? I'm sorry I've been natural for close to a decade and I swear to you the people who were downing me about natural hair came up and went natural and then started to preach to me excessively when I went through a phase with my hair. I was just
. I don't even bother talking about my hair and regimen anymore IRL. Hair militants disturb me.
grownwomanaz
Love and Harmony
One day this (relaxed vs natural) will all seem so silly...one day.
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