Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread
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havilland
Magical Mythical Princess
Thanks for the support ladies! Love ya mean it!I dont know how he actually almost convinced me and I almost convinced myself that it was a good idea, but Im glad I didnt act on it (shudder)
I only have one day off (tomorrow), then I have a long busy stretch for several days after that. That means tomorrow is gonna be a lazy day and Ill pamper my hair while I lounge around...ahhh heaven!
I might do a curlformer set...because it really smoothes the two textures into one without heat. Its looking at the two textures everytime I unleash the beast (aka take down my bun after a long day--my hair elastic hurts my head after being in all day) that is tripping me out. It looks like I stuck my finger in a light socket....so not the business.Ill figure something out. Im in this for the long haul unless I get so much demarcation breakage in my problem area (crown/middle back area) that it cant be disguised.
the only thing getting me through this transition with my bigheaded self is my ponytail......with a twa you have no options if you don't like it. you are stuck.
i don't like the idea of being stuck.
keep the faith, sista....you can do this!
side note: i saw a tip once that helped me. i know i have posted it here before but it bears repeating. don't chop all your hair at once. trim some off the back and leave the front long in case you don't like your cut. you still have enough length to get your hair into a ponytail. if you like it and want to go full board with a twa, at least you eased into it.
you can't uncut hair once it's gone, it's done. if you cut too little, you still have options.
DDTexlaxed
TRANSITION OVER! 11-22-14
Monday will be 3 months. I miss my natural hair and will be doing a very long transition. I am now able to do a braid style in my own hair. This is something I've never been able to do before and have it look good. I am shooting for 2 years, but I am not going to chop before I meet my last natural journey's goal of 14 months.
DDTexlaxed
TRANSITION OVER! 11-22-14
The Princess
Well-Known Member
Still hanging in there.
ezina
Well-Known Member
How do you style your hair for such a long transition?:waytogo:
Thank you! In the beginning, I did mostly rollersets, bunning, and braidouts. But after 6 months, that started to get very difficult so I had to revamp my whole approach. I still bunned after the 6 month period and I did that almost exclusively (braidouts and rollersets didn't take well). At 16 months post, my new regimen is to go to the salon once every 2 weeks for a deep condition and to get two large cornrows or french braids. Every 3 months, I'll get a flat iron. I'm horrible at styling my own hair and washing it has become a serious chore so I shifted on the responsibility to my stylist. In between salon visits, I spray my hair with a light water or moisturizer mix every 2 to 3 days and eventually unravel the braids to make a bun or some sort of braidout updo.
Awesome! How have you been handling your hair? I'm always curious to hear new low-maintenance ways of styling hair. I've gotten incredibly bored with mine.
DDTexlaxed
TRANSITION OVER! 11-22-14
Can you tell me how you style your hair? I'm getting ideas for my long transition. I am currently wearing 2 big braids.
chrisanddonniesmommy
New Member
Hi, Ladies! Hi!!!
Napp
Ms. Nobody
i cut a few inches off my hair and did another keratin treatment. then today i cowashed with some tresemme naturals conditioner and i think i almost cried. my hair glided through my fingers. it was so easy to comb. i left a little bit in and then added some of my nubain heritage evoo and moringa custard to my hair and it slicked back beautifully! i think i can get rid of most of my staple hair products and just use these two hair products!
i have the old tresemme naturals so i wonder how the new formula works.
i have the old tresemme naturals so i wonder how the new formula works.
MissMusic
Well-Known Member
DDTexlaxed
I have a video on youtube about my first year of my Transition (Transition-Year 1 Reflections & Tips). In that video I show pictures of the various hair styles I have done.
For the first 6 months I wore my hair in a:
-Reverse French Braid W/Bun
- Flat Twist Outs
-French Braid Outs
-Spiral Sets
-Flexi Rod Sets
-Blown Out Hair Pinned Up
-Banana Clip Side Bun
-Pin Curl Buns
-Bantu Knot Outs
-Swish Bun
-Chignon
-Braids w/o extensions
Then from month 7 to present I have been doing the Crown & Glory Method/Challenge, wearing my hair in Senegalese Twists, Individuals, Box Braids, and Cornrow Extensions. I will continue to do the C&G Method until the end of the year and then I will spend the last 4 months of my transition getting to know my hair before I chop. I have video's on each style mentioned above. I try to have fun with my hair so that I don't get bored and chop early. HTH!
SqrpioQutie
Well-Known Member
Oh ladies - I have to leave you!! I succumbed to the ease of the texlax. It just makes more sense for my lifestyle right now. 
havilland
Magical Mythical Princess
Oh ladies - I have to leave you!! I succumbed to the ease of the texlax. It just makes more sense for my lifestyle right now.
i understand.....i did that my first try too. i was ten months in and i said "bump this!" ...and i texlaxed.
the long stretch did prepare me for the long term transition though. i didn't know it at the time, but i learned what i needed to know about my hair and handling two textures. that information has been VERY valuable to me now that i am on board with becoming fully natural.
i will say this, i prefer my texlaxed hair. it's just easier. the only reason i am going natural is because i feel it's healthier for my hair overall and for me to reach my length goals i feel i need to forgo chemicals.
also, the great other thing about being texlaxed, if you do decide to go natural later, it is SOOOO MUCH EASIER to have texlaxed roots during your transition than having bone straight ends and natural roots. it makes it easier to transition longer too because the texture difference isn't so stark.
good luck to you! i'm totally jelly.
(don't forget we are still in here if you change your mind at some point....i'm in for three years and this is the end of year one. so come on back when you're ready
)
MissMusic
Well-Known Member
My sister straightened my hair this past weekend, pics can be found at this thread:
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=646139
Due to the porosity of my hair and the high humidity of Florida, it didn't last long. So, I've been wearing my hair in a ponytail, and I couldn't be happier. I will wash my hair this weekend and put in extensions for the last phase of the C&G challenge.
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=646139
Due to the porosity of my hair and the high humidity of Florida, it didn't last long. So, I've been wearing my hair in a ponytail, and I couldn't be happier. I will wash my hair this weekend and put in extensions for the last phase of the C&G challenge.
curlyTisME
Well-Known Member
I'm in ladies!! I'm nearly 35 weeks post! Braids now! I will BC after 18 months!
MystiqueBabe
New Member
I feel the same exact way. My relaxed ends are very crunchy and porous. My natural hair is soft and easy to manage, the big plus is my natural hair doesn't break.
I was talking to my mom about hair last night briefly and she had me a bit discouraged.
I have been bunning for the past few months and she hates my buns. She said I looked unattractive and would prefer my hair to be relaxed. I am aware that I am going through a bit of an ugly phase in which I can't really do anything with my hair except bun. I hate weaves/wigs so thats out of the question. But I take VERY good care of my hair even though it's always in a bun and it's thriving. Funny how when I was wearing my hair out everyday and I could hear the strands snap on my shirt that nobody said anything.
She also said that my brother has a good grade of hair unlike mine that she says just eventually breaks off. I replied my hair broke off due to relaxers/lack of proper care and that is part of the reason why I am going back to natural hair. She just shrugged it off but I was kind of hurt. This just makes me even more determined to cut these relaxed ends off and grow back my hair. But I am glad she is one to let me be myself when it comes to my hair. I read other stories where peoples parents and/or relatives were a lot more harsh...
With that said I don't think I will be discussing hair ever again with anyone except on this forum.
Leslie_C
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Hey transitioning sisters! Nothing new here, just been business as usual as far as bunning,etc. Fall is coming fast, and the cooler temps are already making my hair more dry....*SIGH*...I JUST.GOT.MY.MOISTURE.LEVELS.IN.CHECK! and now Im going to have to change it up. Gonna probably skip shampoo more often this winter and cowash more and will incorporate more butters to seal..heavier products than I used in the summer.
Does anybody have a problem with using coconut oil in the cooler months? I read it dries into a hard film when exposed to cold temps and makes the hair haird. I LOVE coconut oil, but I just discovered it this summer. Im almost out, so trying to decide whether you repurchase or just hold off till spring. Any suggestions for dry hair in the winter to kick up moisture? My hair is just porous and chronically dry, it is a constant battle to keep it moisturized...and I was winning the battle, but the last week or so its just been dry no matter what I put on it.
Also wanted to share a comparison pic that has me stoked. The first is from 5/15 when I did a major chop (4-5 inches)at the beginning of when I officially started to transition. The second is from 8/27. My hair totally grew right back in just a few months! I didnt really want to use heat on my whole head so I lightly blow dried a section on one side in the back for a sorta length check out of curiosity and was pleasantly surprised. Long live the bun! ;0) Makes me not want to do more cutting for a while just to see how much progress I can make.
I have about 4 inches natural hair and the rest is relaxed. My back middle has some mild to moderate breakage and only has a little bit of relaxer on the ends...so I have a section to play with back there that is almost all natural. Will look at the grass half full--I can "play" with products to see how my hair will act in that section.
Does anybody have a problem with using coconut oil in the cooler months? I read it dries into a hard film when exposed to cold temps and makes the hair haird. I LOVE coconut oil, but I just discovered it this summer. Im almost out, so trying to decide whether you repurchase or just hold off till spring. Any suggestions for dry hair in the winter to kick up moisture? My hair is just porous and chronically dry, it is a constant battle to keep it moisturized...and I was winning the battle, but the last week or so its just been dry no matter what I put on it.
Also wanted to share a comparison pic that has me stoked. The first is from 5/15 when I did a major chop (4-5 inches)at the beginning of when I officially started to transition. The second is from 8/27. My hair totally grew right back in just a few months! I didnt really want to use heat on my whole head so I lightly blow dried a section on one side in the back for a sorta length check out of curiosity and was pleasantly surprised. Long live the bun! ;0) Makes me not want to do more cutting for a while just to see how much progress I can make.
I have about 4 inches natural hair and the rest is relaxed. My back middle has some mild to moderate breakage and only has a little bit of relaxer on the ends...so I have a section to play with back there that is almost all natural. Will look at the grass half full--I can "play" with products to see how my hair will act in that section.
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I've pretty much forgot about my hair for the last two weeks, just the occasional to BC or not to BC. I've been so caught up with life as it unfolds. Still hanging in there. I really want to try for 36 months... I'll do a mini-celebration at 18 months
. I've been so caught up with life as it unfolds. Still hanging in there. I really want to try for 36 months... I'll do a mini-celebration at 18 months
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bellebebe
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I feel the same exact way. My relaxed ends are very crunchy and porous. My natural hair is soft and easy to manage, the big plus is my natural hair doesn't break.
I was talking to my mom about hair last night briefly and she had me a bit discouraged.
She also said that my brother has a good grade of hair unlike mine that she says just eventually breaks off. I replied my hair broke off due to relaxers/lack of proper care and that is part of the reason why I am going back to natural hair. She just shrugged it off but I was kind of hurt. This just makes me even more determined to cut these relaxed ends off and grow back my hair. But I am glad she is one to let me be myself when it comes to my hair. I read other stories where peoples parents and/or relatives were a lot more harsh...
With that said I don't think I will be discussing hair ever again with anyone except on this forum.
MystiqueBabe, your mom is mean for saying stuff like that to you.
DDTexlaxed
TRANSITION OVER! 11-22-14
@ MysticBabe, please keep doing what you are doing. Your mom is obviously trying to make you conform to what she wants you to do. Keep at it and you will be fine!
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