I'm going to whole-heartedly disagree with this entire post. Why? G-d has given his commandment to the entire planet, "Be fruitful and multiply." Love and marriage/partnership is a desire of man and woman that G-d placed there. He's also given us common sense. If christian women in the U.S. are praying and waiting for their Boaz, please know that, in the middle-east, women are having their families find them a suitable partner. It's cultural. So, if someone in the U.S. is not waiting for a miracle of a Boaz and is actively pursuing getting out there and meeting a suitable partner, it is not sin nor a waste of time.
I do not think that Shimmie's message was "sit back and do nothing...he's going to come performing cartwheels for your attention." It depends. There have been many successful marriages that began as acquaintances, friends, colleagues, etc. What I believed Shimmie to be saying was that we should not waste our time "chasing" a man that is not interested in us. That could likewise happen when you've been dating for years. Ex., you're talking "marriage" and he is steadily changing the subject. The good one that is going to partner successfully with you will make it very clear that he intends to be your life's mate. In other words, don't try and force it. In my humble opinion, there isn't anything wrong with saying, "I want a mate" and telling your friends, family, priest, etc. that you are available for marriage and would like their blessing and assistance in the matter. There's nothing wrong with meeting folks with intended purpose to find the one that complements your life. When it happens, you will definitely know it is the right choice. But sitting around and waiting for chicken flying in from heaven when you could just go to KFC is well, silly.