I love fantasia IC gel, but it would make my hair hard. I mixed some grape seed oil and aloe vera gel in it and now I get max curl definition without the crunchy effect.
They have a green one now for dry hair that I picked up from target. I havent used it enough to make up my mind about it. My hair seems softer, but it doesnt seem to "coat" it as well and control my edges as well. Normally I used the clear or blue one.
The smooth and shine curl activator someone else mentioned is great also. I used to use it by itself. If you apply it to wet hair, once dry you cant tell its in your hair. You have all softness, no stickyness.
I also like giovanni direct, but I tend to have to use it by itself. It doesnt mix well with other products, it tends to seperate and turn white.
Also if you have build up, try an ACV rinse followed by condtioner with honey in it. I dont use honey often anymore, but it always makes my curls pop.