Kneechay
Well-Known Member
I don't know if this has already been posted, but if it has, someone let me know.
With all these debates between natural vs relaxed, I thought I'd start a positive thread about naturals, why? Because I'm natural. (Relaxed ladies feel free to start one) Everyone alike though is welcomed to participate because I think this can be an interesting thread.
In the "Backlash against relaxed hair?" thread, Foodie, a poster currently in cosmetology school, posted that her clients decide to go back to relaxers because they feel 'ugly'. - I know when I started on my journey, I'll never forget a friend joking around that in the south & especially in Houston, she doesn't understand why a man would holla at girls whose hair looks like pubic hair
I honestly think sometimes people's lowered self-esteem because they're transitioning or when they BC is mostly in their heads, maybe I'm wrong. It's usually because they feel men don't like it.
I can attest to the fact that it's not a deterrent. lol. Perhaps this thread can help someone considering going natural worried about dating. (Let's not front as though this isn't an issue)
With this thread, I want to showcase & discuss dating and natural hair. I was reading a blog and it led me to Clutch Magazine's post on Black love & kinky hair. (check it out, it's pretty cool)
Leila Noelliste of bglhonline.com decided to shed some light on the negative attention black women have received in the media concerning relationships. She created a post entitled "Love is in the Hair" where her natural readers were to submit photos of themselves pictured with their lovers.
Peep some pics from the article: <---
I LOVE pictures!!
Check out the rest of the gallery here
Please feel free to add your pictures if you like!!
So I had a couple questions to spark discussion & I encourage everyone to answer personally and honestly about their experiences, whether relaxed or natural.
- If relaxed, do you think going natural will decrease your chances of being approached?
a) why?
b) do you think location has any corrolation?
- Do you think Black men HONESTLY like natural hair? What have been your experiences?
-If natural, do you feel more or less confident in the dating scene with your look?
- What kind of men do you think approach natural haired women?
- How would you react if you personally liked relaxed hair, but your man was adamant that you go natural?
- Has your natural hair improved/ruined your love life?
- Do you believe men when they say "It doesn't matter"?
I think this can be a fun, eye-opening thread. It's not about trying to find out what will get a man. It's more about how we internally feel about ourselves and dating in regards to our hair. I don't know, I feel somewhere in this discussion, we can learn something.
Again, please feel free to add your pictures if you like!!
With all these debates between natural vs relaxed, I thought I'd start a positive thread about naturals, why? Because I'm natural. (Relaxed ladies feel free to start one) Everyone alike though is welcomed to participate because I think this can be an interesting thread.
In the "Backlash against relaxed hair?" thread, Foodie, a poster currently in cosmetology school, posted that her clients decide to go back to relaxers because they feel 'ugly'. - I know when I started on my journey, I'll never forget a friend joking around that in the south & especially in Houston, she doesn't understand why a man would holla at girls whose hair looks like pubic hair
I honestly think sometimes people's lowered self-esteem because they're transitioning or when they BC is mostly in their heads, maybe I'm wrong. It's usually because they feel men don't like it.
I can attest to the fact that it's not a deterrent. lol. Perhaps this thread can help someone considering going natural worried about dating. (Let's not front as though this isn't an issue)
With this thread, I want to showcase & discuss dating and natural hair. I was reading a blog and it led me to Clutch Magazine's post on Black love & kinky hair. (check it out, it's pretty cool)
Leila Noelliste of bglhonline.com decided to shed some light on the negative attention black women have received in the media concerning relationships. She created a post entitled "Love is in the Hair" where her natural readers were to submit photos of themselves pictured with their lovers.
Peep some pics from the article: <---
I LOVE pictures!!
Check out the rest of the gallery here
Please feel free to add your pictures if you like!!
So I had a couple questions to spark discussion & I encourage everyone to answer personally and honestly about their experiences, whether relaxed or natural.
- If relaxed, do you think going natural will decrease your chances of being approached?
a) why?
b) do you think location has any corrolation?
- Do you think Black men HONESTLY like natural hair? What have been your experiences?
-If natural, do you feel more or less confident in the dating scene with your look?
- What kind of men do you think approach natural haired women?
- How would you react if you personally liked relaxed hair, but your man was adamant that you go natural?
- Has your natural hair improved/ruined your love life?
- Do you believe men when they say "It doesn't matter"?
I think this can be a fun, eye-opening thread. It's not about trying to find out what will get a man. It's more about how we internally feel about ourselves and dating in regards to our hair. I don't know, I feel somewhere in this discussion, we can learn something.
Again, please feel free to add your pictures if you like!!
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