Wow. At least she is keeping it real.
When I BC'd my hubby didn't want a divorce, but he was VERY rude to me about it. He picked at it, tried to embarrass me in front of some of his family members, gave me the silent treatment. The works. I cried, got upset, and yes, he was being very selfish about it. He told me I needed a perm. We were only married like a year. Being the person I am, I listened, and he was like...well you ignored my feelings...So I said, I did listen to your feelings...Oh, is "listening to your feelings" code for "do what I want?"...When I put it like that he was like no I want you to be happy. But he never pulled any punches...he hated it short, and "nappy" looking...So I compromised for a bit. I wore weaves, and braids a while...which he also hated..but oh well...can't have it all. Then, 13 mos post BC...I decided it was time for a change...I took out my braids, started wearing twists....Then a couple weeks later....I decided to press it.....well look who is SL? Now hubby is all on my jock....
At the time, when I told others about it, they said he was being selfish and he is not a good man...I told them, you know what, he IS being a big baby about it, and its not his fault he was raised to think nappy or natural is ugly, and in an environment where perms = beauty, and yada yada yada. I was hurt, but I was determined. I wasn't about to perm it, despite his begging, but he was just gonna have to deal with it. I had to learn that sometimes your man will do you wrong emotionally, and sometimes they will act 4, or 5, or 2! But I grew a backbone in 1 month as a result of that because I'd had it.
Here we are 3 years later and I caught him texting a pick of my hair to his homeboy...now somewhere between BSL or BSB or whatever..."Talking about "natural hair can grow long". When his friend told me that I rolled my eyes...He don't even know how resistant my husband was to the whole natural thing from day one. I even slapped hubby's hand out my hair the other day when it was in a braid out...I say...oh you like my natural hair now! And he smiled.....to this day I still remind him about how he did me on BC day...Its always gonna be a stain on our marriage...and he's apologized in more ways than one....But like a marriage should be, you grow up, you pray, and move on....folk ain't perfect. But we WANT to stay together...and that's what we're doin.