Ladies!!!
I have been reading a terrific book titled "His Rules: God's Practical Road Map for Becoming and Attracting Mr. or Mrs. Right" by Christopher L. Burge and Pamela Toussaint.
This book is wonderful and I must warn you that it focuses less on the relationship with a potential spouse and mostly on cultivating the relationship between you and God. This is not a "something is wrong with you" book nor is it a "gift of singleness" book, this is just what the title says a "road map" to entering a relationship with God that will mirror your relationship with your spouse.
If you buy it or borrow it please let me know what you think.
i fall and stay down for a while and eventually i would get up. i believe part of my problem lies in the fact that i dont go out much and i have let myself go in the weight,hair etc go. i did that because i felt like nobody wants me why should i bother and besides i work around a bunch of women i could care less about how i appear to them. i dont want to be that woman anymore. most of my co workers think im a nut and good person i just need to take more pride in myself. im working on that. i believe that scratch that i know that i am more than worthy of my soul mate. i have so many qualities. im a good person im old school i know some of what it is to be a wife. im learning. i want to be the best wife i can. i want to cater to my husband,uplift him when he needs it etc. i talk to God on a daily basis about the situation. He knows where i stand. im contemplating on purchasing the books that you ladies mentioned but at the same time the path that i should take is not clear to me.
So umm err uhhh -
Last weekend I went to church and winded up going to the single women's meeting after service. The group leader asked me if I had anything to share about my past year, etc. I told them that I thank God for allowing me to fire the last guy I was talking to (who took me for granted), and that I think "The Gift of Singleness" is not what God has in store for us.
I got the look
"Singleness as a gift..."
Uh... heck yeah?!! It's as easy as breathing to accept singleness... well, when you're secure in yourself and know there's nothing else out there that will make you happy but yourself and God.
Man was I miserable years ago when I would look for that "special person" to share my time with (I blame it on R&B oldies ). Turned out that I didn't have a life of my own and I was in turn living his. What a crazed nut I was . I truly enjoy singleness and the thrill I get from telling the foinest men in the world that I'd rather not date now (I'll date when I'm ready for marriage) and instead interested in friendship. It's these men that I'm friends with that will be watching me over time and who knows, maybe have me in mind for a wife one day down the line--but my mind right now is only on me myself and I. It feels good, it feels great! Not everyone on earth will get married, and not everyone will stay married. So why not see marriage and relationships as the "icing" on the cake (the cake being yourself and God). I suggest people learn to have many many friendships with both men and women. I'm my happiest when I'm single, so why not keep it that way
I owe you a PM... sorry I've been MIA... I was out of town for the past 10 days!!!
And I love that you said this! What was the response?