You are not alone...I have never suffered damage from gel abuse but know several ppl who did. So, I have been deathly
afraid to put the stuff in my hair for years
. However, now that all of you have mentioned products you've gotten great but harmless results from, I'm willing to give them a try. I have been using Ion Styling Solutions Texturizing Hair Wax from Sally Beauty for (about $6) when I want a little extra hold w/o flaking etc. I've been so paranoid. I won't let even the wax stay in for too long.