Cut off all my hair and now I regret it...

Sammy214

Sammy214

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So if anyone can understand what I am feeling right now, i know you ladies can.

Not long ago, i posted about being sick of my hair.. I got tired of trying to keep it healthy, thicken it up, grow out layers, style it, the whole nine. I sat on the decision to cut it for a while, but i was scared so i put if off... that is until last Friday.

I took the plunge, sat in the chair and watched my hair fall to the floor. at first, i was ok, and then Saturday morning it began to hit me, by Sunday morning, I was in full breakdown/withdrawal mode:ohwell: My sides and back are boy short and the top and crown is about 5 inches long... I have no desire to even style my hair, becaue I am so unhappy with it.

When I was younger I would cut it without thought and grow it right back, i guess i thought it would be like that this time... but I now realize that my short hair stints back in the day had more or less to do with my age and being a little more outgoing and daring... I just turned 40... doesn't mean i've turned into a prude or anything, but definitely my style is more refined and age appropriate. I just don't think short hair is my anymore.

So now I'm faced with the taks of a true hair journey... when i started here, I was just touching the top of my shoulders...now i have a much longer way to go to get back to where I was.

Someone please throw some tips this way as to how to transition out of this? I have no clue anymore how to care for this mess i've made of my hair.
 
It will be alright. You are probably just experiencing a little remorse, but when you see how much easier wash days are you will remember why you cut your hair and enjoy the fact that it is less work.

This happened to my sister last week. She had her hair cut into a bob. She cried the next day, but she is over it and loving it now and says she will always keep it short. Maybe you should just give it a chance for a week or two.
 
We form reall attachments to our hair (esp because it grows with us, literally) when I first cut my hair super short I cried for about a week I was really unhappy and thought I looked a little too much like a boy and that wasnt really my forte.

After a little while though it was easy to take care of, i figured out styles that I liked, i dressed a little more sassy (I guess to compensate) and life got really busy and by the time I new it I went from a short cut really similar to yours...to grazing SL. Time flew by. Be confident! You can do it, you will learn ways to style it and if not there are wigs, braids, and extensions you can use to help you mourn your length.

On the plus side you now have a fresh start to begin cultivating a healthy head of hair and you will be back to your old length in no time :)

sorry for typos on my iphone
 
leona2025 said:
It will be alright. You are probably just experiencing a little remorse, but when you see how much easier wash days are you will remember why you cut your hair and enjoy the fact that it is less work.

This happened to my sister last week. She had her hair cut into a bob. She cried the next day, but she is over it and loving it now and says she will always keep it short. Maybe you should just give it a chance for a week or two.
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I agree with Leona 2025; think of how much simplier and faster wash days will be. Instead of being remorseful try to enjoy your new hair journey and rock it out! Think of your positive reasonings for cutting your hair in the first place.
 
hnntrr said:
We form reall attachments to our hair (esp because it grows with us, literally) when I first cut my hair super short I cried for about a week I was really unhappy and thought I looked a little too much like a boy and that wasnt really my forte.

After a little while though it was easy to take care of, i figured out styles that I liked, i dressed a little more sassy (I guess to compensate) and life got really busy and by the time I new it I went from a short cut really similar to yours...to grazing SL. Time flew by. Be confident! You can do it, you will learn ways to style it and if not there are wigs, braids, and extensions you can use to help you mourn your length.

On the plus side you now have a fresh start to begin cultivating a healthy head of hair and you will be back to your old length in no time :)

sorry for typos on my iphone
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I know what your saying is true, I'm just losing my mind over it...I'm not a wig or even a weave person, I'd be so uncomfortable wearing them that it would show. I would be interested in just braiding it up for the summer once it's long enough for me to grip the back and sides, but im worried about the damage to my edges.
The bright side of this, as you said it is a fresh start, and some of the lessons i learned with my hair when it was long, i will apply to hopefully grow it thicker and healthier.. and no layers or self relaxing this time around.
thanks for the words of encouragement.
 
leona2025 said:
It will be alright. You are probably just experiencing a little remorse, but when you see how much easier wash days are you will remember why you cut your hair and enjoy the fact that it is less work.

This happened to my sister last week. She had her hair cut into a bob. She cried the next day, but she is over it and loving it now and says she will always keep it short. Maybe you should just give it a chance for a week or two.
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Remorse is an understatement... just looking at your siggy, i wanted to cry again. but i do know that I will not be happy until it grows back. I'll just have to exercise some real patience to get through this. Once i get past the tapered back, it'll be smooth sailing from there.
 
GlitznGlamour to be honest, i can't say my reasoning was positive or even logical when i finally did it... now that I think about it, there were so many other options for hair boredom... i just choose the extreme instead of expoloring alternatives, while mainging length... .this is just another example of me allowing my emotions to lead me. lol
 
Miss Sammy214, I feel your distress. Please keep us aware of all your progress from the short to the long. You will give us hope and insight to emotions and regimen. :bighug:
 
Mleah said:
Miss Sammy214, I feel your distress. Please keep us aware of all your progress from the short to the long. You will give us hope and insight to emotions and regimen. :bighug:
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I certainl will... I had planned to start a hair diary, but i felt like that would be me more of less "watching the pot"... i didn't think of it in terms of insight to others, so i will do that
 
Sammy214 said:
@GlitznGlamour to be honest, i can't say my reasoning was positive or even logical when i finally did it... now that I think about it, there were so many other options for hair boredom... i just choose the extreme instead of expoloring alternatives, while mainging length... .this is just another example of me allowing my emotions to lead me. lol
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:yep:

I did this before and sat with the negative feelings. I remembered saying to myself, "Don't do this again, because you don't like how you feel with it(the short cut at that time)". So anytime I get bored and want to chop, (and I have had those feelings),I remember that cutting my hair will not be the solution.

Hair grows. And unlike other women out there, you have the tools and knowledge to grow it back even longer than you had it before. Good luck!:grin:
 
It will be alot healthier now Op with all your hair knowledge. Not that it doesn't look healthy to me in your avi. Best wishes to you throughout the entire process.
 
Sammy214 I totally understand, just this morning I was so fed up with my hair, I cut a ton of my hair off because I was fed up and now (literally, a few hours later) I regret it. My hair is straight and last night the ends were kind of wack so I put some Elasta QP mango moisturizer on it and pinned it up. This morning the ends looks awful and I almost cried.

I didn't even stop to think that the elasta QP is water-based and my ends were probably reverting, I just did what I always do: I cut it.

Like you, in the past, I would often cut my hair off and think nothing of it, but now? I cry when I have to trim it's this HHJ, it's driving me crazy. So yea, I feel you and all I can say is, get some sulphur mix and bump up that growth and know, that it will grow back. I am so sorry you are feeling this way, but I totally understand and I want to e-hug you girl, it will be okay.
 
I totally understand your remorse. :bighug:

My advice? Be fabulous in spite of how you're feeling!!! You KNOW it'll grow back. Take a deep breath, relax, and enjoy the journey. :yep: It'll be back before you know it.
 
I understand how you feel. I've been there so from my experience I can say be patient because it will grow back. In the meantime, try to make the best of it!
 
Hang in there Girlie.


Meanwhile half wigs can be an option that looks real. U can hide your hair and grow. :)

Good luck!
 
With such a drastic cut your ends are extremely healthy, which means with a good daily routine in place, you'll retain every inch of growth. I co-sign on the half-wigs. I've used them in the past and no one could tell...my DH to this day swears that in some of our old pics I'm not wearing one even though I keep telling him it's not all mine!

I'm sure you'll get used to the cut in a few weeks if not a few days.

Hang in there!
 
I've been there. I had to get a good couple of inches cut a couple of years ago because I wasn't taking care of it. I almost cried when I unwrapped it (no joke, ask my sister), it was so short (to me, everyone else loved it). It took a little while but eventually it grew on me too. It dried faster and was easier to manage. Then I started growing it back out and it was a lot healthier. Of course, I ended up having to start over a second time for the same reason, but I know it's possible to get it back to where it was. Hang in there, it'll be OK :)
 
Thank you ladies! All of your words are truly comforting to me right now.
I'm already rushing the year by, so that I can see length again :)
 
This is my hair in a half wig. I attached these Just so u can see that half wigs can look very realistic.

When I had damage in 2010 I had to cut my hair back to SL from APL. I was so upset. I wore half wigs and weaves to hide my hair and protect it and grow, while keeping myself from going crazy over my "loss"..... I couldn't even look at my hair for like 3 months.

Trust me. It does grow back, but I def feel your pain.
 

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havilland said:
This is my hair in a half wig. I attached these Just so u can see that half wigs can look very realistic.

When I had damage in 2010 I had to cut my hair back to SL from APL. I was so upset. I wore half wigs and weaves to hide my hair and protect it and grow, while keeping myself from going crazy over my "loss"..... I couldn't even look at my hair for like 3 months.

Trust me. It does grow back, but I def feel your pain.
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I like that! It looks so natural. I may have to invest in a few of them to get me through.
 
I am sorry, but my advice is to work with. Make it your new fabulous forty look! Wrap it tap it and move on. Invest in some beautiful earrings and work it. Alicia Keys has a nice short cut now so maybe you can mimicking her styles. Good luck!
 
havilland said:
This is my hair in a half wig. I attached these Just so u can see that half wigs can look very realistic.

When I had damage in 2010 I had to cut my hair back to SL from APL. I was so upset. I wore half wigs and weaves to hide my hair and protect it and grow, while keeping myself from going crazy over my "loss"..... I couldn't even look at my hair for like 3 months.

Trust me. It does grow back, but I def feel your pain.
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havilland Where did you get that wig and how do you attach it? I want a half wig.
 
Sammy214 I've been there and hair grows back. Don't worry. I also cried for days if it's any consolation. That is a very drastic change to make. Are you upset about something happening in your life or maybe wishing to move forward in some way from something? If so, make sure you heal from/deal with that first. My advice is to make sure you're looking good on the inside and the rest will follow suit. God bless.
 
I was APL when I shaved my head March 15th, 2012.

I regretted it so bad months later.

I wore lace wigs for about 6 hot months, until I had enough hair to cornrow, and then I wore weaves for a while. That helped me to not really think about it.

Don't worry, it will grow back. It just takes time unfortunately.



March 15, 2012
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March 11, 2013
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