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Old 08-21-2009, 08:59 PM
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Thumbs up Recovering from a Setback Support Thread

Thought this would be a good idea for all the LHCFers trying to bounce back from a not so pleasant hair experience.

As for me, I over-processed in July and am only now seeing how badly it thinned my hair. So, the idea is to share the details of your experience and give and receive support to/from the other ladies on the road to recovery.

Setback: Over-processing

Effects: Thinner & dull hair, breakage

Plan of action: BT, goal of not relaxing till December, strict vits regimen, zero heat, taking off two inches

Estimated date of full recovery: December 18th (4 months recovery time)


(My hair WILL be on point by this date because I have a huge wedding to go to the next day and the plan is to get a relaxer and wear my hair out).
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Old 08-21-2009, 09:31 PM
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OK, you must have known that I needed this!

The good news: I MADE APL last month!!!!! YES!

The bad news: I cowashed tonight and discovered I've lost about half an inch (maybe more in some places)!!!!!

I know what happened. My hair loves cowashing. Last week I got home late one night with no time to cowash. I figured I could just put my HE on my ends, go to sleep, rinse out in the morning. I usually leave a little conditioner in my hair when I cowash anyway, so I figured this would be okay to do. Well, I woke up the next morning and before I could rinse the conditioner out, I noticed that my hair was breaking at the ends!! I didn't think it was that bad and I immediately rinsed it all out and bunned up for work. I did a protein DC that night and I thought it took care of the problem.

Unfortunately, the damage was done. I checked my length tonight and I'm no longer APL. Why oh why did I try something new when my basic reggie was working just fine. Ugh!

At least I know what to do to get my length back, but it's still very upsetting to finally get to APL and lose it so quickly........

Estimated time of recovery: I think I will hit APL again by the end of October. I'm just going to go back to my basic reggie (shampoo/dc 2x a week, cowash 3x a week, bunning daily)
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Old 08-21-2009, 09:43 PM
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Default Re: Recovering from a Setback Support Thread

I think this thread is a good idea, i know it will be helpful to me.

Setback: Relaxer burns

Effects: Major shedding, a little thinning (i'm praying it wont get worse)

Plan of action: Protective styles, no heat, no relaxer until December *I'm dreaming on this one but we'll see how far i can get* Daily application of garlic oil, DC 1-2x weekly, wash weekly, cowash in between when i think i need it.

Estimated date of full recovery: December 18th (6 months recovery time)

Nayeli our recovery date is the same, maybe i can stick it out since i have company. My last relaxer was July 3rd so December 18 will be exactly 6 months for me, hopefully i can stick it out.
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Old 08-21-2009, 09:59 PM
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Thanks for coming aboard guys. Congrats on APL sunnieb. I switched up too. I went to a new stylist because I didn't have the money to go to my regular. Worse yet, it was partly my fault because I wanted a bone straight look.

Khaiya, I'm sure we can do it! The only thing that might stop me from such a long stretch is that I'm preparing for interviews and I may not want to keep flat ironing when I have them coming up. But I really really want to push till December. Everytime I even think about a relaxer I can almost feel my follicles wincing.
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Old 08-21-2009, 10:13 PM
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I too am having a set back. I washed last night and noticed that there is a T shaped section at the top of my head that is badly broken off. I mean, it's about a quarter inch long in that entire section. I don't know WTH happened. I haven't had any significant breakage in ages. It seems the hair has vanished. I'm beyond hurt and I have no clue what to do about it.
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Old 08-21-2009, 10:24 PM
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Default Re: Recovering from a Setback Support Thread

Great thread!

Setback: Using a harsh color

Effects: Severe breakage of a patch of hair up front

Plan of action: I might try that MN stuff and start babying that area.

Estimated date of full recovery: Hopefully by December it will get long enough to more comfortably fit into my puff.
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Old 08-21-2009, 10:25 PM
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Default Re: Recovering from a Setback Support Thread

I think it was a neat idea OP starting this thread. We've all been there.
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Old 08-21-2009, 10:29 PM
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Default Re: Recovering from a Setback Support Thread

Another year end goal BroadstreetBully!

Nayeli i know what you mean, when i think about relaxing right now i have nightmares of hundreds of hairs with white bulbs all around me. Even if i dont make it to December, i'm definitely not relaxing until the shedding stops, we'll see how long that takes.
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Old 08-21-2009, 10:52 PM
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Default Re: Recovering from a Setback Support Thread

Setback: Bleach Highlights + Demi Color+BKT Heat Step Damage+ Black hair dye= I don't know who's hair this is on my head anymore.

Effects: Damaged, frazzled looking breaking ends and shedding. Detangling nightmare. Short pieces sticking up from crown. Hair velcros together. When wet.

Plan of action: Stretching relaxer for the first time. I already trimmed an inch off, but they frizzed right back up which leads me to believe the damage is all the way up the shaft I am co-washing and DCing every other day and bunning and moisturizing religiously to hopefully preserve my hair (And hopefully strip this "treatment" off). I have toyed with the idea of chopping it all off but decided to wait until I see if I can bring some life back to it. I may get braids for no manipulation.

Estimated date of full recovery: I'm not sure, it all depends how much of the hair I can save and how much will eventually need to be cut. I will say 6 months at least.
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Old 08-21-2009, 11:04 PM
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Default Re: Recovering from a Setback Support Thread

Mahogany, I'm wondering what could have gone wrong. What I do know is that that's where a lot of my breakage seems to be centered as well.

DesiRae, I was thinking about cutting too, but it took my mother to stop me.

Broadstreet, I used MN in the past. I mixed it with BT while I was using it. This combo made my hair shoot up.
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Old 08-21-2009, 11:15 PM
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Default Re: Recovering from a Setback Support Thread

Nayeli, this a great thread. Even if you haven't had a set back, you see some of the pitfalls you can avoid.
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Old 08-21-2009, 11:32 PM
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Default Re: Recovering from a Setback Support Thread

Aww, I know how you guys feel. I'm in recovery mode right now. I was so on point with my hair since I started caring for it at the end of January.

I made it from shoulder length to APL in 6 months by washing, deep conditioning and rollesetting once a week. I took a picture in the beginning of August and I was shocked that I had lost nearly 2 inches of hair. It took me back 4 months.

Setback: Abusing protein, co-washing, saran wrap treatment (dried my hair out)

Effects:
drier dull hair and breakage when I comb, detangle and rollerset

Plan of action:
I deep conditioned like crazy for 2 weeks then I relaxed my hair 6 weeks ahead of schedule (I usually go every 12-13 weeks) to breakdown the protein in my hair. This immediately stopped the broken hairs and I didn't lose a lot of hair during the process. I will continue with the regimen that was working for me before I went crazy with all the extra stuff.

Estimated date of full recovery: December 12th 4 months to get back where I was in July.

I probably wont relax again until February which will make one year of healthy hair care for me.

We can do this ladies!!!
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Old 08-21-2009, 11:43 PM
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Thanks you guys! I was looking at my hair in the mirror earlier today and was just so disgusted with myself - mostly because I KNOW what's right and yet still kept that relaxer in longer than I should have.

I don't normally start threads but thought that a support thread would be just what I and others need.
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Old 08-22-2009, 08:32 AM
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Setback: Single Strand Knots

Effects: Had to cut hair. Went from top of BSL to just a tad bit under APL

Plan of action: Cleanse, Co-Wash, Deep Condition in braids with clips on the ends (so hair can't curl/coil upon itself). Blow Dry on cool/Roller set and bun on dry hair. Dust ends every Month. Moisturize/seal ends every other day.

Estimated date of full recovery: I am giving it until December 09. If the knots do not diminish then I am gong back to a relaxer.
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Old 08-22-2009, 09:02 AM
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I just dropped in to say, "Great thread, Nayeli!

I wish each of ya'll expedient success as you recover from your setback.
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Old 08-22-2009, 09:16 AM
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Setback: heat damage on natural hair

Effects: straight strands that will not revert back, split ends

Plan of action: cut about 2 inches of split ends, have to start transitioning to grow out straight pieces; deep condish weekly and keep in protective styles as much as possible.

Estimated date of full recovery: probably another year before i can cut out all of the straight pieces

I'm so upset. I've been natural for over 3 years and have flat-ironed my hair before to have my ends cut. Well in preparation for my wedding I had my hair flat-ironed twice within the month and that was all she wrote. My hair looked nice for the wedding but now I'm dealing with heat damage. No more straightening for me.
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Old 08-22-2009, 09:21 AM
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Default Re: Recovering from a Setback Support Thread

Hey Everone,

I too had a major setback, but not recent it was a long time
ago when I first came to the board

I went from APL hair to Ear length...really quick, I did a lot of crying

Problem
Dye Damage

Resolution
Steady Trims
Conditioning/Protein balance
Protective Styling
No Heat
No Dye

Good luck Ladies!!!
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Old 08-22-2009, 09:28 AM
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hi everyone, i just posted a sos thread. I really need this. op thanks for coming up with the idea. well here is my story.
i have been a member for awhile here. Recently i lost my 15mth old son and shortly after found out i was expecting again. I have completly neglected my hair and appearance. I really need help with a simple regi since i also work full time. Also I just really need some encouragement to get me back in the game. Im ashamed of my hair right now and i worked really hard in the past to get it healthy and bsl.
please ladies help!! noone but you all understands what a womans appearance mean to them.



Setback: sleeping without a bonnet, washing only 1x a week. ponytails daily, not moisturizing properly. no rely regi.

Effects: Thinner & dull hair, breakage, dont seem to be growing and shedding

Plan of action: 1st come up with a simple regi( my hair thrived with cathy howse method a few years back.) oil scalp with sulfer base (1-2x week) protective styling (besides ponytails) moisturize and seal daily. Limit varity of products. Incorporate garlic tx.

Estimated date of full recovery: not sure

past length- bsl
current length apl
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Old 08-22-2009, 09:29 AM
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Setback: Occurred in November/December of 2008. Weekly Salon Client. Stylist was in the Habit of Overprocessing, Doubleprocessing, Overlapping, Poor Neutralization and overall negligence.

Effects: Loss of 90% of my Hair. Lost Massive amounts of Hair. Broke Completely all the Way down to the New Growth in various areas all over scalp.

Plan of Action: Immediately gave up my Weekly Salon Status I carried for 25+ years (at somebody's Salon). Prayed over my Head and Repented for the Cast of Characters I had up in My Head Over the Years that didn't Care a Thing about My Hair.

Swore off the Salon. Became determined to become a DIY and Found LHCF. Stopped Relaxing. Incorporated Protein & Moisture on a Weekly Basis. Got my Porosity under control.

And, even though I knew absolutely "nothing" about how to take care of my care (because I always paid somebody to do that) I began to research the threads daily and mapped out a Solid Plan of Action.

Spent the Money I would spend weekly at a Salon on the Best Products a Good Dryer and a Steamer and took control over my own Hair's Destiny. No Heat, Little Manipulation etc.......Just Babying My Hair Along.

Estimated Date of Full Recovery: I'm on a 2 year Plan

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Old 08-22-2009, 09:32 AM
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Setback: Abusing ACV!!! during a relaxer

Effects: dull hair, brittleness

Plan of action: keep doing moisture cons, and if that doesn't fix it, I may do a corrective to break down the protein, as was mentioned above. If all else fails, I can get that graduated bob cut that has me like and start this ish ovah!!!

Estimated date of full recovery: December 18th (4 months recovery time) (I'll work with that)
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