Oral Sex in the Christian Marriage?!?!?!

ShimmieGirl said:

Know what's really beautiful about the Song of Solomon?

The woman he loves............................has.....................................








Beautiful Black Skin. That's means we win.

I have to be real about something and then I'm going to leave it alone. For years, even after I was married/divorced, I was always told that Oral Sex was only done by White people. For real! It was always joked about by the people I knew (family/friends) in our race.

When I was a teenager and having 'girl talks' about sex, I would hear this. The group of girls would giggle and I giggle right along with them...still not having a 'clue' what they meant.

At the time I didn't have a clue what having sex was anyway. That was dangerous, because I ended up pregnant by the first 'boy/man' my mom allowed me to date when I was 16 which led to an early marriage where I didn't know much about sex at all.

And still don't after being celibate for 24 years... My point is that even without 'knowledge' this I 'know', God does not have a problem with this. Loving our husbands completely is not a sin.

I hope I said this right... and kept it 'clean'.

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MrsHouston said:

Tffy, I found an article from a scripturally sound website that may help.

(And for the record my thoughts are as a married woman: Married people can do whatever they want in their marriage bed~)

Question: Are there any restrictions in the Bible against certain kinds of sexual acts between a husband and his wife?

Here is what the New Testament teaches:

1 Cor. 7:3-5
3 The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

The "duty" here refers to sexual intimacy. In a marriage each partner is to satisfy the sexual needs of the other. There are no prohibitions placed on the type of sexual activity. This is not to say that the husband can force himself upon his wife, or vise versa, both should mutually agree on the "type" of sexual activity. Sex in marriage is intended by God to be pleasurable. Whatever both the husband and the wife agree upon is acceptable.

That having been said, there are certain types of sexual activity which can be hazardous to one's health. This is such a delicate area I do not want to elaborate any further, but if you have questions about sexual activity which can be unhealthy I suggest you talk to your physician.

The point of the passage above is that husbands and wives are to meet the sexual needs of their partners. To fail to do so will allow Satan an opportunity to cause one or both to stumble.

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MrsHouston said:

Also notice in the article that the bible is speaking to a MAN and HIS WIFE only, not the mother-in-law, preacher, etc. The decision is strictly theirs only.

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Nice & Wavy said:

My husband and I teach marriage workshops. One workshop deals with Sex & Romance. This is my husbands favorite class, of course.

This scripture says it all and my husband uses it every chance he gets!
Proverbs 5:18-20

18 - Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

19 - Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

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Nice & Wavy said:

My husband and I teach marriage workshops. One workshop deals with Sex & Romance. This is my husbands favorite class, of course.

This scripture says it all and my husband uses it every chance he gets!
Proverbs 5:18-20

18 - Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

19 - Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

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pebbles said:

LOL!! Too funny! I'd bet every Christian man loves those passages!

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dlewis said:

I think I'll frame this and give it to my husband as a gift. He'll love that.

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Nice & Wavy said:

You would be surprised at how many men DON'T know those passages. Everytime we ask them to open their bibles to read it, you can see their eyes lighting up and then they turn and look at their wives like "Awww...here we go now". It's hysterical...my husband turns beet red everytime he reads the part about the "let her breast satisfy you always..."

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pebbles said:

Oh my goodness, I would have thought most Christian men knew those passages! LOL!!

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Nice & Wavy said:

You would be surprised at how many men DON'T know those passages. Everytime we ask them to open their bibles to read it, you can see their eyes lighting up and then they turn and look at their wives like "Awww...here we go now". It's hysterical...my husband turns beet red everytime he reads the part about the "let her breast satisfy you always..."

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Blossssom said:

Wow... reading the last few posts of this thread, I'm glad to see so many women who are true to their religion and willing to please their husbands in every way possible.

I haven't read the Songs of Solomon in some time, but plan to this weekend. I do recall the woman being conscious of her complexion. Was Solomon STILL attracted to her? I'll see for myself.

Good did answer my question about oral sex, but I will see for myself. That is one thing I've learned in life, know things for yourself. Read up on it

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MrsHouston said:

Tffy, I found an article from a scripturally sound website that may help.

(And for the record my thoughts are as a married woman: Married people can do whatever they want in their marriage bed~)

Question: Are there any restrictions in the Bible against certain kinds of sexual acts between a husband and his wife?

Here is what the New Testament teaches:

1 Cor. 7:3-5
3 The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

The "duty" here refers to sexual intimacy. In a marriage each partner is to satisfy the sexual needs of the other. There are no prohibitions placed on the type of sexual activity. This is not to say that the husband can force himself upon his wife, or vise versa, both should mutually agree on the "type" of sexual activity. Sex in marriage is intended by God to be pleasurable. Whatever both the husband and the wife agree upon is acceptable.

That having been said, there are certain types of sexual activity which can be hazardous to one's health. This is such a delicate area I do not want to elaborate any further, but if you have questions about sexual activity which can be unhealthy I suggest you talk to your physician.

The point of the passage above is that husbands and wives are to meet the sexual needs of their partners. To fail to do so will allow Satan an opportunity to cause one or both to stumble.

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Saida said:

I also agree that the husband and wife should be able to enjoy eachother to the fullest, infact in my religion you get reward everytime you satisfie your husbad or wife. the only thing forbidden is Anal Sex, since its the actions of homosexuals( i hope i dont offend anyone)

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LadyR said:

I couldn't had agreed more Pebbles. I am married to a preacher and as Pebble stated there is no where in the bible does it say what to do or not to do in the marriage bed. As long as both parties are comforable and happy in the marriage.

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Saida said:

I also agree that the husband and wife should be able to enjoy eachother to the fullest, infact in my religion you get reward everytime you satisfie your husbad or wife. the only thing forbidden is Anal Sex, since its the actions of homosexuals( i hope i dont offend anyone)

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Saida said:

Analsex is banned even between the wife and husband.
Because of many reasons, first this is an act of homosexuals, and also it can ( CAN) be dangerous, the muscle can blast and your stuff will be all over the place, I actually know some people this has happend to, and also going form anal to virginal sex can (can) cause some diseases.

only Anal sex and sex during a womans menustrational period is bannded

tffy2004, Islam

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Analsex is banned even between the wife and husband.
Because of many reasons, first this is an act of homosexuals, and also it can ( CAN) be dangerous, the muscle can blast and your stuff will be all over the place, I actually know some people this has happend to, and also going form anal to virginal sex can (can) cause some diseases.

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Saida said:

Anal sex is banned even between the wife and husband...

tffy2004, Islam

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