Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread
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but congrats to everyone's recent BCs. They look great and give me something to look forward to.
KiWiStyle
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kellistarr
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naija24
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GettingKinky
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KiWiStyle
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The last time I paid to get my hair done was in July for my last relaxer and even then it was my sister's family discount. I easily justified paying $125 for my BC to my DH...
.."I could go back to getting my hair done bi-monthly if this is a problem for you", Lol.
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naija24
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My bf isn't happy about my haircut what so ever. The only thing making him not go crazy is that 1) my hair will be long enough to weave up I REALLY don't like it and 2) I'll straighten it for special occasions.
naija24
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GettingKinky I think it's because if you really want to be natural right NOW, why wait? I planned to be a long term transitioner but I thought "what for? For my bf who won't be happy regardless or my coworkers who may say something ignorant?"
God forbid a woman cuts her hair. It's ridiculous. But I've been through worse and like I've seen the last 4 times I've big chopped, it always grows back.
KiWiStyle
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I'm six months post today with 2.5-3.5" a natural hair.
I hope your hair grows on him soon. I 40 and married so I don't care, Lol...plus my DH encouraged natural hair. We agreed never to relax DD's hair, he thinks relaxer chemicals is what makes us women crazy, lbvs.
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KiWiStyle
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GettingKinky my hair was being texlaxed for a few years and over the last year or so my hair in the back has been breaking off in droves, it looks like a cats been chewing on it. I had a 2 inch patch in the center-back with some some parts hiting almost BSL. The front and sides were really long. I just got fed up because I kept having to cut my hair to Even it out so I said forget it, no more chemicals and wanted to start from scratch.
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naija24
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I hope it does as well. I think he just never dated a woman with my hair texture. or thinks that its okay for women to wear weave pretty much forever. whatever. My appointment is scheduled. He knows. He made a huge fuss that I changed the date from March to tomorrow but oh well. I'm actually really excited.
He'll be happy when he sees that I'm closer to APL after a few months. I'm already neck length in the back.
KiWiStyle
Realtor & Foodie
I'm happy for you, its an exciting time! Don't let anyone take that joy from you. Last night I actually got giddy when I stopped for a moment to think that in less than 24 hours I will be all natural for the first time in almost 30 years and I finally get to see my texture instead of guessing which by the way, I still don't know, Lol. I can't wait to see pics if you're planning to share!! naija24
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Cattypus1
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Good Luck, Kiwi! I'm so excited for you!
Cattypus1
All loced up...
niaja24 and KiWiStyle I'm married, like Kiwi and like Kiwi I haven't seen my natural hair for more than 30 years. I had no idea what my hair would look like and more importantly, my DH had NEVER seen my natural hair. He has been so supportive even though I know sometimes my hair looks crazy. It's not for lack of trying but I'm trying to unlearn what it has taken me 30+ years to learn. Don't be discouraged, you can do it... it's just hair! Here is a pic of me pre and post BC:
Wasn't the hair I've always dreamed of but it is a full head of hair and I'm good with that.
Wasn't the hair I've always dreamed of but it is a full head of hair and I'm good with that.
Coilystep
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ITA I didn't know what I what my hair was going to look like once I chopped. I can say I would have been happy with any texture to tell you the truth. I have enjoyed learning what my hair can do. I enjoy doing my hair now. When I was permed I didn't do my own hair my skill set only consisted of wrapping my hair up at night for bed and taking it down. I never washed or permed it myself. I had no desire to learn either. My natural hair is different I'm trying to learn how to do everything. I would have never thought I would be wetting my hair everyday and styling it everyday. I permed hair intimidated me my natural doesn't. So good luck with your bc's this weekend I can't wait to see them.
havilland
Magical Mythical Princess
Y'all are good...it didn't even occur to me to talk to my DH about my transition. I just did it. He just watched. Never said a word about it.
Wigs...weaves.... The bun I practically lived in for 2 and half years ....He never even asked me about my hair and it didn't occur to me to say anything to him.
I guess I should see that as a good thing. I feel for ladies who get so much stress from their men. That must be a hard thing to deal with while you are trying to figure out your way with being natural and deciding what you really want.
I'm sending hugs to each of you. I can't imagine dealing with that type of stress AND single strand knots AND demarcation lines...
Side note: mahogany curls on you tube has a chat with her husband and his take on the natural hair movement from man's perspective. Check it and see if perhaps you would like to share it with your guys. Maybe hearing from a male perspective will help.
Wigs...weaves.... The bun I practically lived in for 2 and half years ....He never even asked me about my hair and it didn't occur to me to say anything to him.
I guess I should see that as a good thing. I feel for ladies who get so much stress from their men. That must be a hard thing to deal with while you are trying to figure out your way with being natural and deciding what you really want.
I'm sending hugs to each of you. I can't imagine dealing with that type of stress AND single strand knots AND demarcation lines...
Side note: mahogany curls on you tube has a chat with her husband and his take on the natural hair movement from man's perspective. Check it and see if perhaps you would like to share it with your guys. Maybe hearing from a male perspective will help.
GettingKinky
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PlainJane
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I agree. I'm way too attached to my hair. I don't have long hair by lhcf standards but I do not feel cute/feminine whatsoever without my hair. I guess that's something I have to eventually get over.
Cattypus1
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Just too dang cute! Love it! Welcome.
KiWiStyle
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I love your words of wisdom, it really is just hair but most of us get there sooner than later. For me it was later, Lol. You and your hair are beautiful! I'm thankful my husband is freakishly supportive too!
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KiWiStyle
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I don't know if its that you're way too attached to your hair, I think you just prefer long hair. There is absolutely nothing wrong with transitioning long term to maintain your length. Everything isn't for everybody. I swore I wouldn't attempt to go natural until I was at least 50...I'm 40. If you decide to continue your journey long term, short term or completely abort the mission and relax again, its really OK.
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Guinan
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OT: But your house is GORGEOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your tree looks divine.
KiWiStyle
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Cattypus1
All loced up...
Thank you. It has been an adventure.
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