I Can't Stop Cryin!!

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HOW TO WORK IN ANY ENVIRONMENT(By: T.D. Jakes)​

1. Don't expect to be appreciated. Your only expectation should be to get a paycheck. Don't come to work to have personal relationships. Don't allow what you do to affect who you are.
2. Do your job well, but remember your mission. God put you there to be a Light.
3. Seek opportunities to change the atmosphere without commenting on the problems. You have a God to talk to. You are on an assignment. Quietness and competence shall be your strength.
4. Don't let your environment get inside of you. You should influence it, not let it influence you. Stop going to work to be fed. You didn't come to receive, you came to give.
5. Increase your capacity to work with different personalities. God will often bless you through people you don't even like!
6. Remember, where you are does not define where you are going. This will deliver you from frustration. God has a plan for your life. Keep your eye on the prize. When Peter did this, he was able to walk in what other people sank in!
7. Get the optimum results with minimal confusion. Be effective without making the environment worse.
8. Don't be associated with one group or clique. Labels limit your usefulness. God wants you to work with everybody but be labeled by nobody. Use all your gifts.
9. Always keep your song near you. Keep a consecrated place in your soul. Hold on to your praise.
10. Understand that God anoints you for trouble. Put on the whole armor of God before going to work.


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Nonie said:

I will tell you a story of what happened to us (hubby and I) not too long ago. I wasn't working and we were broke. Actually we were more broke than we realized and I only found out how much worse things were when I went online to pay a debt. Overdraft charges had taken us so deep into a hole that I could never see us coming out, and the cause of the overdraft was a frozen account due to ignored bills. Needless to say, I was close to despair. I prayed and did what I thought I needed to do and what friends suggested--eg talking to the creditors that froze my account and working something out. And just when things started to look like they'd get better, the creditors didn't do their part. So my hubby's check sunk into an account we couldn't get money out of and the freeze was still on. Just as worry threatened to get the better of me, Matthew 6:25-33 came to mind. It was late at night. Suddenly I thought: here I was fretting, while every sparrow was in a sweet slumber. What the heck was wrong with me when I have an Omnipotent Father? And just like that *snaps fingers*, I found peace and went to sleep.

And just like that, the next day, it was as if most of that nightmare had been a dream. The account was unfrozen and we got access to funds as the negative was removed.... Of course we still paid for our mistakes because not all the fees we suffered due to the freeze were returned. But I saw God move in ways I could not have foreseen. I'm telling you, I've had not a penny and wondered where food will come from, and then stayed calm as I've remembered Who has plans for my life and all for good...and I've been floored as hubby has called to say that the bosses at his job had a luncheon and so much of the food wasn't touched and would I like him to bring some home--just when I didn't know how long we'd last. The same God that fed the Israelites in the desert is the same God that is aware of what you're going through. Do not be afraid.

The Robin and the Sparrow

Said the robin to the sparrow,
“I should really like to know
Why these anxious human beings
Rush about and worry so.”


Said the sparrow to the robin,
“Friend I think that it must be
That they have no Heavenly Father
Such as cares for you and me.”


~~Unknown Author~~

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Jenaee said:

Hey Janie...I'm not the best person to give advice but here goes....


First, this is for youSecond, take a few breaths and remember GOD is in control!!!! Pray about whats going on and give it to HIM to work out. Ask the Lord for peace and forgive this person. And know we love you girl. IT IS GONNA GET BETTER!!!

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janiebaby said:

Things went from worse to worst yesterday before I left work. Today was just very bad, I don't even care as much now. I'm just waiting for my pink slip with or without unemployment.

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Nonie said:

(((Janiebaby))) resilience comes with time and practice for those not born with it. I should know. And one thing I've found is, while you may think you're not strong enough, it's only because you believe that one or two people have your best interests at heart that you cry. It hurts when those we think care about us show us another side. But I'm sure you'd be stronger if you thought otherwise. Like if you were not expecting anything good from anyone, then you'd not wear your heart on your sleeve. You'd not grant anyone the honor of knowing your deepest of hearts, because they do not deserve to know what makes you you. You'd wait till you were among those that truly care to let it all out. Sometimes, you may just have to learn a tough lesson and promise yourself never to be caught unprepared again. There's always a blessing if you look hard enough. And the blessing most times is you get wiser and you know better and you will never be so gullible again. I know when tears start to come it's hard to stop them, but if you pay attention to how you're feeling it's usually something along the lines of "How could s/he do that to me when s/he's supposed to be my friend, or when I haven't done anything to him/her?" Call it the ABC of events. Every Action that happens to you is interpreted by you according to your Belief of how things really are...and then the Consequences follow (As in this case, tears). So what if you changed the Belief. So instead of believing they really are your friend, or are betraying you, how about "Hmm...this is just a plot to make me look bad, but I'ma show you!" Or "She's probably having a bad day and it's nothing to do with me"...you may find you're stronger and that the tears dry and never show. You are then able to represent yourself differently.

I'm not the best person to give lessons on being "strong" but praying about it will help, as will praying for the person that annoys/upsets you before you even set eyes on them--every morning before you come to work. That's a tough call coz I've struggled with it myself, but you'll be surprised at how mysterious the ways God works are. Just try it and you'll see. But your prayer has to be selfless. Let it be all about them, not you. That they may be happy and healthy--not that they be nice to you. I'm not saying you have to be friends with this person, but praying for them WILL change the relationship in a way you didn't see coming. You may not be buddies, but you will see what God will do for you and this person.

Lastly, I'd like to share something someone shared with me by T.D. Jakes that I think is a good rule of thumb to keep in mind when you go to work, then you won't be disappointed by the absence of warmth and camaraderie on days it seems to lack the most:

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Nonie said:

Girl, when you hit rock bottom, that's when you let go and let God. Sometimes God has to drop a pebble on our heads to make us look up. And this sounds like one of those times. We are like kids who break a toy then call out to Father and report what's happened. Father reaches to help us, and as soon as he starts, we snatch it back to fix it ourselves. So Father just lets you be, till you TRULY "Cast all your cares to Him" ie hand Him the broken toy and let Him put all the pieces back again unperturbed.

I will tell you a story of what happened to us (hubby and I) not too long ago. I wasn't working and we were broke. Actually we were more broke than we realized and I only found out how much worse things were when I went online to pay a debt. Overdraft charges had taken us so deep into a hole that I could never see us coming out, and the cause of the overdraft was a frozen account due to ignored bills. Needless to say, I was close to despair. I prayed and did what I thought I needed to do and what friends suggested--eg talking to the creditors that froze my account and working something out. And just when things started to look like they'd get better, the creditors didn't do their part. So my hubby's check sunk into an account we couldn't get money out of and the freeze was still on. Just as worry threatened to get the better of me, Matthew 6:25-33 came to mind. It was late at night. Suddenly I thought: here I was fretting, while every sparrow was in a sweet slumber. What the heck was wrong with me when I have an Omnipotent Father? And just like that *snaps fingers*, I found peace and went to sleep.

And just like that, the next day, it was as if most of that nightmare had been a dream. The account was unfrozen and we got access to funds as the negative was removed.... Of course we still paid for our mistakes because not all the fees we suffered due to the freeze were returned. But I saw God move in ways I could not have foreseen. I'm telling you, I've had not a penny and wondered where food will come from, and then stayed calm as I've remembered Who has plans for my life and all for good...and I've been floored as hubby has called to say that the bosses at his job had a luncheon and so much of the food wasn't touched and would I like him to bring some home--just when I didn't know how long we'd last. The same God that fed the Israelites in the desert is the same God that is aware of what you're going through. Do not be afraid.

The Robin and the Sparrow​

Said the robin to the sparrow,
“I should really like to know
Why these anxious human beings
Rush about and worry so.”​

Said the sparrow to the robin,
“Friend I think that it must be
That they have no Heavenly Father
Such as cares for you and me.”​

~~Unknown Author~~​

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highlyfavored2008 said:

Don't U give up God did not give up on U do not give up on God that is a no no. There is a reason u are being tested we all are however, stand on God's Word and no matter What Don't U give Up on God! U will make it don't talk like this b/c Life and Death are in the Power of the Tounge! That is in God's Word! God is testing U Do not Give up Keep us posted Please! Take inspriation from all of these women posting here do not Give Up!

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janiebaby said:

Thanks highlyfavored! I haven't given up and I do feel that I'm being tested and I have been failing left and right unfortunately...That doesn't mean I'll continue to fail but I just have to keep riding this out in faith.

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Nonie said:

(((Janiebaby))) resilience comes with time and practice for those not born with it. I should know. And one thing I've found is, while you may think you're not strong enough, it's only because you believe that one or two people have your best interests at heart that you cry. It hurts when those we think care about us show us another side. But I'm sure you'd be stronger if you thought otherwise. Like if you were not expecting anything good from anyone, then you'd not wear your heart on your sleeve. You'd not grant anyone the honor of knowing your deepest of hearts, because they do not deserve to know what makes you you. You'd wait till you were among those that truly care to let it all out. Sometimes, you may just have to learn a tough lesson and promise yourself never to be caught unprepared again. There's always a blessing if you look hard enough. And the blessing most times is you get wiser and you know better and you will never be so gullible again. I know when tears start to come it's hard to stop them, but if you pay attention to how you're feeling it's usually something along the lines of "How could s/he do that to me when s/he's supposed to be my friend, or when I haven't done anything to him/her?" Call it the ABC of events. Every Action that happens to you is interpreted by you according to your Belief of how things really are...and then the Consequences follow (As in this case, tears). So what if you changed the Belief. So instead of believing they really are your friend, or are betraying you, how about "Hmm...this is just a plot to make me look bad, but I'ma show you!" Or "She's probably having a bad day and it's nothing to do with me"...you may find you're stronger and that the tears dry and never show. You are then able to represent yourself differently.

I'm not the best person to give lessons on being "strong" but praying about it will help, as will praying for the person that annoys/upsets you before you even set eyes on them--every morning before you come to work. That's a tough call coz I've struggled with it myself, but you'll be surprised at how mysterious the ways God works are. Just try it and you'll see. But your prayer has to be selfless. Let it be all about them, not you. That they may be happy and healthy--not that they be nice to you. I'm not saying you have to be friends with this person, but praying for them WILL change the relationship in a way you didn't see coming. You may not be buddies, but you will see what God will do for you and this person.

Lastly, I'd like to share something someone shared with me by T.D. Jakes that I think is a good rule of thumb to keep in mind when you go to work, then you won't be disappointed by the absence of warmth and camaraderie on days it seems to lack the most:

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