Why so much HATE in the hair salon? Kinda long..

[Naijachocolat]

. OMG! This is so funny. Good thing mama came to the rescue.

Reminds me of the time when I went to a salon about 8 years ago for a roller set. Immediately the stylist saw my hair she went "God, you've got damage all over. We have to cut it." I was like no thank you. Just the roller set for today will be fine. But as soon as she finished washing my hair, she came at me with a pair of scissors and I was like NO but she started arguing vehemently with me then the owner joined her and started arguing with me as well. Crazy stylist on the left with scissors, crazy owner on the right looking menacing. She looked like she would stab me if I didn't let her cut my hair. After nearly 15 mins of arguing they let it be and i got a roller set without a cut but I left that salon thinking, "I bet there are long haired women buried under their floorboards for refusing to cut their hair". I never set foot in the salon again.

[Firstborn2]

I had a similar situation happen to me when I first moved back to s.c. My hairstylist in ATL took very good care of my hair so when I came home I went to a salon that A friend recommended for a relaxer. Well, I thought the hs was trimming my ends but while under the dryer I noticed I could not feel my hair on my back so I looked in a mirror (beside me) and saw what looked like shoulder length hair (my hair was near waist length) I was steaming. When I got from under the dryer I told her about it and she said my hair was damaged, of course I knew it was not and I told her so. and on top of that my hair did not look like it was relaxed if anything it looked worse. I was angry about that for weeks....

Wow Toyia, sorry to hear thatHow did you walk out of that salon without catching a case?

[Mz.MoMo5235]

i'm tellin yall!!! these need to be considered hate crimes!!! i too am a victim of this as recently as last week!!!

we need to hold hands and pray!!!!

[Bella_Atl]

What would you have said, OP, if the mom hadn't stepped in? I was thinking something like, "Girl, you better ask her mom before you touch her hair... you know how folks be acting about their kids..." Like to try to play it off so she doesn't get all ghetto with you, but still helpin the girl to get off the hook? Or is that a little too nice?

I was going to casually ask the girl.."Does your mama know you are going to cut your hair? Because my mama would have killed me if I cut my hair without her permission!"

I would not have spoken directly to the stylist. 1. I was hoping the mother was coming and the stylist would hear that or 2. I was hoping the girl would be more scared of her mother than the stylist and speak up.

I honestly I would have never gotten involved if that child had not looked like she wanted to cry. It was her first home coming dance too. That stylist would just have ruined it for her.


But do you know what's really sad? My friend sent me this YouTube video last night: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3pXqi...eature=related

This really happens! That's why you HAVE to asses the situation BEFORE you speak. By law all exit signs have to be lit in case of a fire. If its looking bad cut the lights out and break for the door!!

[BostonMaria]

OP, when I was 10 years old my aunt dropped me off at the salon and came back when they were done. I went from long hair to nape length at this crazy woman's hands. I'll never forget the saddness and sick feeling in my stomach as she took out the rollers. I was taught to be respectful to my elders so I sat there and just cried inside.

Fast forward to today and when I take my daughters to the salon I'm IN THE STYLIST'S FACE all up in there to make sure absolutely no scissors are taken out. If I do give permission, trust me its more like a damn dusting LOL I'm even over protective of my oldest daughter's hair and she's 20!

[MangaManiac]

Ugh...as funny as that story was it just reminds me of when I was a child. Then I had a series of braiders who REFUSED to cut my hair. Once I even asked this stylist of mine who had almost knee length hair if I could get a trim and a relaxer and she said no.

She asked, "Why do you want to cut off all that pretty hair? Let me just look over your ends and put you in some braids so they won't break off."

That was the end of that. My hair was between APL and BSL before I finally decided to do a BC. I did have damaged ends due to my heat styling and non-existent hair care, so it had to happen. But I bet you anything if my mother was still alive she would have forced me to hang on to those ends until I was TBL!

[nikki2229]

How did the young girls' hair look when she left the salon?
Did the stylist have an attitude the rest of the time when she was doing her hair?

[NikStar]

Great story! Mom FTW!

[Bachelorette]

Not a word...lol!

That goes to show that she was indeed "hating". If she really believed the girl needed to get a trim, she would have explained to the mom the reason for it. Bitter lunatics. Soooo soooo happy the mom came in just in time. Disgusting tarts. Lol they've got me all upset

[BlkRushhin]

This was one of the best posts ever!

I just hate reading these stories, including all the other posters with similar stories. It's just so violating when people do unnecessary things to you that you ask them not to.

[weaveadiva]

Reminds me of the time when I went to a salon about 8 years ago for a roller set. Immediately the stylist saw my hair she went "God, you've got damage all over. We have to cut it." I was like no thank you. Just the roller set for today will be fine. But as soon as she finished washing my hair, she came at me with a pair of scissors and I was like NO but she started arguing vehemently with me then the owner joined her and started arguing with me as well. Crazy stylist on the left with scissors, crazy owner on the right looking menacing. She looked like she would stab me if I didn't let her cut my hair. After nearly 15 mins of arguing they let it be and i got a roller set without a cut

my goodness are you kidding me?! this is so unprofessional if anything the owner should have been on your side...what happened to "the customer is always right? customer service?

[Duchesse]

BellaATL, I'm so happy that you were ready to stand up for that poor child! She probably would have had her hair chopped off if her mother didn't step in. I for the life of me do not understand, why go into the business if you are a hater? Or if you are a hater, do something about it and grow your own darn hair. That type of stuff gets me hyped up.

[lovinglength]

Love how you told the story. That "stylist" didnt know what she was doing...to detangle all that hair with a rattail?...that mistake alone wouldve gotten her fired from my salon (if I had one). And from what you said...she only focused on the negatives and getting rid of her hair, instead of focusing on the positive and healing the hair...I've been in a similar situation andfrom my own experience, I'm going to assume the stylist was prob jealous.

[Naijachocolat]

my goodness are you kidding me?! this is so unprofessional if anything the owner should have been on your side...what happened to "the customer is always right? customer service?

I kid you not. They were both crazy. I think they just really hated my great big head of hair and wanted to make it as short as theirs. I don't know what the deal is about that and stylists. They all want to cut your hair, not trim, not dust, CUT.

[Bella_Atl]

How did the young girls' hair look when she left the salon?
Did the stylist have an attitude the rest of the time when she was doing her hair?

The little girl came in after me and I left before her The stylist was blowdrying her hair out when I left, but Mama was sitting in the chair looking heated. The stylist seemed fine.

But when women in a hair salon start talking about cutting each other it was time for me to go anyway.

[FluffyRed]

I think it is hate.

They're already kinda hair obsessed to be in that line of business.

Then they, like many of us, have the anti-napp program installed early.

And let someone come in with longer or a "better grade" of hair than they have.

I strongly believe many black hairstylists exorcise their personal demons on their clients' heads.

[Luscious Locks]

I think it is hate.

They're already kinda hair obsessed to be in that line of business.

Then they, like many of us, have the anti-napp program installed early.

And let someone come in with longer or a "better grade" of hair than they have.

I strongly believe many black hairstylists exorcise their personal demons on their clients' heads.

That is deep... and very true in some cases.

[Rei]

I think it is hate.

They're already kinda hair obsessed to be in that line of business.

Then they, like many of us, have the anti-napp program installed early.

And let someone come in with longer or a "better grade" of hair than they have.

I strongly believe many black hairstylists exorcise their personal demons on their clients' heads.

I"m sorry but you had me rollin' at anti-napp program so true! If I have to explain one more time at a salon that I don't want a relaxer I'mma cut someone myself.

And when I was relaxed they were all after me to get a press! (with a relaxer?), now that I want a press, they're after me to get a relaxer. You just can't win

[vainღ♥♡jane]

omg that video was so sad. folks are crazy these days!

[MizzCoco]

My leg was twitching just reading this story! I'm so glad the little girls momma came back in time! Great story