PinkSunshine77
New York's Finest
1. overlapping relaxers
2. Relaxing
3. Microbraids
4. Constant tight braids especially Microbraids
2. Relaxing
3. Microbraids
4. Constant tight braids especially Microbraids
What have ever done to your hair that you regret?
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BostonMaria can you tell me more about henna? You can't dye your hair? What color do you want to dye it? What does henna have to do with this?
Ravenhairedbeauty
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Over processing a texlax last year. Then after that cutting my hair. 
koolkittychick
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Trying to self-relax earlier this year. Took out a patch of my nape that is growing back but is not blending well with almost waist-length hair.
Also not learning fast enough that using a comb and stretching a relaxer for 3+ months do not mix with my hair type. Now I have roughly 60% of my hair at waist length, with the rest at every length between 1 inch and waist due to breakage, and the damage is not distributed evenly enough to adequately conceal when I wear my hair down. I really should just cut it all back to BSB to even it out, but I don't want to let go of the length I use to keep my hair out of the way as I decide whether I'm going to go ahead and just transition, since I'm already 4 months post, and it's a lot easier to put my hair in an updo with no tension and not deal with it when (most) of it is this long.
Also not learning fast enough that using a comb and stretching a relaxer for 3+ months do not mix with my hair type. Now I have roughly 60% of my hair at waist length, with the rest at every length between 1 inch and waist due to breakage, and the damage is not distributed evenly enough to adequately conceal when I wear my hair down. I really should just cut it all back to BSB to even it out, but I don't want to let go of the length I use to keep my hair out of the way as I decide whether I'm going to go ahead and just transition, since I'm already 4 months post, and it's a lot easier to put my hair in an updo with no tension and not deal with it when (most) of it is this long.
Pinkicey
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Trying to self-relax earlier this year. Took out a patch of my nape that is growing back but is not blending well with almost waist-length hair. Also not learning fast enough that using a comb and stretching a relaxer for 3+ months do not mix with my hair type. Now I have roughly 60% of my hair at waist length, with the rest at every length between 1 inch and waist due to breakage, and the damage is not distributed evenly enough to adequately conceal when I wear my hair down. I really should just cut it all back to BSB to even it out, but I don't want to let go of the length I use to keep my hair out of the way as I decide whether I'm going to go ahead and just transition, since I'm already 4 months post, and it's a lot easier to put my hair in an updo with no tension and not deal with it when (most) of it is this long.
I am thinking about self relaxing. Why do you think you lost a patch of hair?
BostonMaria
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LaBelleLL
My understanding is that Henna sticks to your hair shaft and no amount of dynamite will remove it. It doesn't fade away either. I still have a reddish hue to my henna'd hair which is noticeable in the sun. Sounds pretty, but not so much LOL Because the henna penetrated my hair shaft I now cannot dye my hair at all. Like absolutely no amount of hair dye will make it change color. For example, I want to dye my hair black but instead i'll get some black and a red hue on different parts of my hair. One time I wanted an auburn color and only the virgin (non-henna) part of my hair took the dye. It looked a hot mess.
I've been to several salons and they tell me the same thing. I'd have to BC in order to get rid of the henna. We're talking like 10 inches of hair if not more. It ain't happening. I guess I'll wait till it grows out and I'll slowly trim. That should only take about 10 years
Leeda.the.Paladin
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BostonMaria do you like the results of henna otherwise? I was thinking about trying it. I don't dye my hair (yet) so that would be a non factor for me.
Leeda.the.Paladin
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I regret those bangs I cut for myself in the 9th grade 
I regret the one time I got finger waves and my scalp itched like crazy immediately afterwards but I refused to wash them out because I'd paid so much for them.
I regret not going natural a lloooong time ago.
I regret the one time I got finger waves and my scalp itched like crazy immediately afterwards but I refused to wash them out because I'd paid so much for them.
I regret not going natural a lloooong time ago.
BostonMaria
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No I don't like it at all
KCcurly I edited my response to add...
The reason why I do not like henna is because it dried my hair out. Some people gave it great reviews and said that it made their hair soft. I had the opposite problem. It made my hair very dry with every application. I stopped using henna after a year. Plus it was very messy. Instead I now use amla powder, which my hair loves, and its helped make my hair feel soft/moisturized. I highly recommend it. I only use the powder. The oil smells like butt LOL
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secretdiamond
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Ever using phyto relaxer.
koolkittychick
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Pinkicey, it was my fault; I mistimed my application speed, and ended up letting the relaxer sit on that section for almost 15 minutes past the maximum time allowed while I finished up the other sections. Don't ever do this with a lye relaxer, even if you have thoroughly based your scalp. The fact that I based my scalp really well is what saved me from third degree chemical burns (I only had some redness and swelling--no scabs--for about a week afterward in the area), but cost me in that the relaxer became a depilatory (think Nair) on the hairs in the affected area, and they came right out--all 22 inches of them.
Pinkicey
New Member
I'm sorry this happened to you.
mscheergrl
Embracing happiness
Fusion hair extensions
*CherryPie*
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Wearing tight ponytails in my teens and 20s. My edges haven't been the same since.
That's all I got. All of the other mistakes I'm cool with....they were fun.
That's all I got. All of the other mistakes I'm cool with....they were fun.
Lilmama1011
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With my relaxer in the 8th grade and letting this Dominican chick chop all my hair off because she said I needed. Never got to swing my hair so long before
SEMO
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Using the Tangle Teezer detangling brush (I threw it away, but wish I could have lit it on fire). I have fine strands and it gave me mid shaft splits all over. It's taken me years to grow out the damage (and I only used the brush once or twice). I trimmed my hair yesterday and I still have maybe 3 inches of hair that I can tell was damaged by the brush.
I've been slowly trimming away the damage as it grows and hope to cut off the last of it in the next six months. My ends haven't felt normal in so long.
I've been slowly trimming away the damage as it grows and hope to cut off the last of it in the next six months. My ends haven't felt normal in so long.
msdeevee
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My worst regret happened recently.
We had a death in the family. I wanted to put my hair in a protective style but didn't have the time to go to my regular braider. My niece suggested that we go to this African braider that I thought she knew.
That was the worst braiding experience I've ever had . My head that night was on fire. I could barely lift my head & had to take Tylenol & make myself a stiff drink. That very night I took the edges out so they wouldn't be pulled out. I wanted to take the braids out that night but I let my Niece talk me out of it telling me how cute the style looked. I had those torturous braids in for a week & a half when I took them out I had big bald spots on both sides of my head.
I've never had bald spots ever in my life. It was clean, shiny bald.
It's been 2 months now. I've been massaging my scalp w/ JBCO, Hair fertilizer& temple & nape balm so I'm relieved to see the spots filling in but after finally getting my slow growing hair to almost BSL I needed a deep trim of about 4" because my hair was also very tangled & matted even though I washed, conditioned & detangled my hair before getting it braided. It's like she braided knots into my hair. How could it get so tangled in less than 2 weeks.
Never again!!
The only good thing that came from this (well nothing) but I do make sure to deep condition my hair at least 2x a week & I keep it moisturized.
We had a death in the family. I wanted to put my hair in a protective style but didn't have the time to go to my regular braider. My niece suggested that we go to this African braider that I thought she knew.
That was the worst braiding experience I've ever had . My head that night was on fire. I could barely lift my head & had to take Tylenol & make myself a stiff drink. That very night I took the edges out so they wouldn't be pulled out. I wanted to take the braids out that night but I let my Niece talk me out of it telling me how cute the style looked. I had those torturous braids in for a week & a half when I took them out I had big bald spots on both sides of my head.
I've never had bald spots ever in my life. It was clean, shiny bald.
It's been 2 months now. I've been massaging my scalp w/ JBCO, Hair fertilizer& temple & nape balm so I'm relieved to see the spots filling in but after finally getting my slow growing hair to almost BSL I needed a deep trim of about 4" because my hair was also very tangled & matted even though I washed, conditioned & detangled my hair before getting it braided. It's like she braided knots into my hair. How could it get so tangled in less than 2 weeks.
Never again!!
The only good thing that came from this (well nothing) but I do make sure to deep condition my hair at least 2x a week & I keep it moisturized.
Brwnbeauti
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Relaxing my hair after 6 months of transitioning last dec.
Dove56
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1). Cutting full, near tailbone length hair in 2007 because I was "tired" of it.
2). Getting a color correction in Jan 2012 then getting more bleach, color, keratin, bleach and watching my hair break off and darn near melt. I know my hair is extremely strong so I kept doing more and more. What a fool I was. Never again. Now it's long, thick and healthy again and I use color but I will not never go crazy with again.
2). Getting a color correction in Jan 2012 then getting more bleach, color, keratin, bleach and watching my hair break off and darn near melt. I know my hair is extremely strong so I kept doing more and more. What a fool I was. Never again. Now it's long, thick and healthy again and I use color but I will not never go crazy with again.
BostonMaria
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Damn! I thought about getting a BKT, but kept reading horror stories. Most of my friends that have done this have regretted it. I'm so glad I didn't do it. Sorry you had to BC, but now your hair is healthy and chemical free now.
Back in 1990 I decided to self relax and stretch my relaxers every 4 months. My hair was APL and so pretty for about 3 years. Then in 1993 I allowed a woman to do my hair. Damn just one salon visit and the relaxed ruined my hair. Looking back I think she overprocessed. You'd think I would've learned... I then started to allow stylists to fry my hair every weekend to the point where my hair was always SL and thin. I regret allowing the depence of salons for 10 years.
Dove56
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I think keratin is the bomb. Most folks have bad results because stylists turn the heat up very high and go over the hair too many times. I use QOD Organiq Max, it's cystine based, a couple of times a year. I use about 375° - 410° and only do 1 - 2 passes. I can keep my curls but when I straighten my hair is humidity resistant.
Platinum
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I regret relaxing my hair and getting a sew-in after being natural for 3 years. All of the hair in the top of my head broke off and I ended up transitioning back to natural. Three months ago, I decided to lock my hair. I wish I didn't relax my hair back in 2012, I would have been 5 years natural and I'm sure that my locs would have been at least APL by now(due to shrinkage).
Three months ago, I decided to lock my hair. I wish I didn't relax my hair back in 2012, I would have been 5 years natural and I'm sure that my locs would have been at least APL by now(due to shrinkage).
Petite One
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Bleaching and constantly wearing a tam destroyed my hair ear to ear. I am still trying to grow back my hair 
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