How do you feel about Nappy edges and lots of new growth with relaxed hair.

[shortdub78]

Originally Posted by Crackers Phinn

but it never does. Two completely different textures are not going to look compatible without some help, therapy and coercion. That just is what it is.

there are plenty of women who are transitioning that hair is always on point. so i will stand by my statement and kindly disagree with you.

[ManeStreet]

doesnt bother me at all. I think it goes with the mentality that we all Need perms & black hair that isnt permed is "nappy" so run as fast as you can & erase any signs of nappiness b4 someone sees it (sarcasm).

[Lilmama1011]

I love the new growth! At least I know my hair is growing. If I'm ten weeks post and no new growth, there is a serious problem! And untamed edges can be tamed with my control paste so I don't sweat it anymore

[Crackers Phinn]

Originally Posted by shortdub78

there are plenty of women who are transitioning that hair is always on point. so i will stand by my statement and kindly disagree with you.

How does 'on point' translate to nappy edges with relaxed hair?

[solide]

I have no problem with it. I've been completely natural, had blown outs that started to revert. So what?

And who said ng can't look polished and neat. Nice textured styles offer some assistance during those 10wks + post relaxer days or a neat bun.

[BlaqBella]

I feel (w/out reading), that they should be (edges-that is), well moisturized (balanced- w/protein), and cared for like the rest of the hair.

ETA: Found time to back and read the op. I had that happen to me years before I found the forum. I had read shamboosies book, and things is what I took from the book made my hair flourish for some time. Little did I know that I was stretching relaxers while tending,pretty well, to my roots and ends. But some ladies around these parts thought the abundance of new growth was . Whatev..

[ThickRoot]

Doesn't bother me at all. When my new growth comes in I'm not in a battle to control my edges so it looks "laid" I could care less. I don't put a lot of stress on my edges trying to make them be something else and my edges are strong and all there.

[KiWiStyle]

Im relaxed 4a/b and I don't bother to smooth my edges down, there is no point in doing so because they will puff right back up. Besides, all the heavy pomades and gels will clog the pores/follicle holes and impedes proper growth. I usually cover mine up with a silk headband and sometimes I don't give a rats a$$ and show ALL my natural edges. We tend to care too much about what people think and say about us. Those types of people will be negative no matter if you're rich/poor, skinny/fat, educated/uneducated, SL/WL. I actually feel sorry for them for they are just plain ignorant. Look at gymnist Gabby Douglas', this fine young lady just made "WORLD" history and all these ignant mofos could see was that her hair wasn't perfect and straight. SMH.

[shortdub78]

Originally Posted by Crackers Phinn

How does 'on point' translate to nappy edges with relaxed hair?

how do you define nappy? most women on this board stretch their relaxers and manage to have a well groomed, polished look. nappy new growth and all. do you feel nappy edges and relaxed hair don't look good together? folks who stretch, or transition are walking around looking a hot mess?

[danysedai]

To answer your title question
"how do you feel about Nappy edges and lots of new growth with relaxed hair"
For MY hair, I prefer to have slicked edges if I'm wearing my hair in a bun of ponytail, it adds to the neatness of the style. If I'm wearing my hair down I simply do not care. I take care of my edges but that is what I prefer if I wear my hair up. Maybe it brings memories of my mother with a soft bristle brush, water and grease smoothing the edges while she did my hair when I was a kid. In fact, recently she pointed out that sometimes I don't do it to my back edges and my nape and she whipped out that brush.

To answer the question in the actual body of your post
"Why are some ladies offended by lots of new growth when someone has relaxed hair?"
I don't know. I don't get offended at someone else's hair, I have enough worrying about my own. I guess other women are maybe used to layed down look with an updo.

[LongLeggedLife]

Originally Posted by QueenNefi

I wrap and tie my hair down with a satin scarf every evening. I have 4b hair that has a mind of its own. I see 4 b ladies that have perfectly smooth hair but the trade off is often at the sacrifice of the health of their hair.

Welp, if it doesnt bother you as the wearer...and we are not related, it wont bother me.
Now if you were my cousin & nem, Id probably urge you to go natural & offer to style your hair in a way that camoflauges the issue.

[Cattypus1]

I wouldn't dare comment about someone's edges unless they asked and I was their stylist. Anyone who comments about mine without me requesting the commentary better watch the hell out!

[lesedi]

Do I get offended by it? NO
But sometimes people need to practice better styling options to make the textures blend better. It's all about the styling IMO.

[sylver2]

since i touchup twice a year this is always me. maaan i dont care

[browneyedgrl]

Don't have a problem with it. I've never been obsessed with perfect sleek hair.

[poochie167]

i don't care about anybody else's new growth. But for me..rough edges with a slicked back style can really mess a hairstyle up.

[Crackers Phinn]

Originally Posted by shortdub78

how do you define nappy? most women on this board stretch their relaxers and manage to have a well groomed, polished look. nappy new growth and all. do you feel nappy edges and relaxed hair don't look good together? folks who stretch, or transition are walking around looking a hot mess?

[sweetypoo705]

This is my hair at 20 weeks- I stretch 25 weeks. I wear air dried buns everyday, so my new growth is pretty tame, but I'm 48 ( Aug.3rd B-day ) and despite the gray streaks throughout, it's not too bad. My edges have always been on the thin side--castor oil( Jamaican Lavender ) and rosemary e oil are helping them to grow.
I also put in some pictures after my March relaxer.


White t-shirt recent, sweaters - after march relaxer

[Aggie]

Originally Posted by QueenNefi

Why are some ladies offended by lots of new growth when someone has relaxed hair? It doesn't bother me one bit but women around me make comments or remind me that I have two different textures. My edges fell out six months after the birth of baby. I am nursing the edges back to health so I don't dare put gel on them. I live in Florida so I sweat out flat ironed hair within days. I always stretch my texturizer as long as possible. Any suggestions? What do you think?

I am texlaxed and I can relate to you completely @QueenNefi. I like my edges no matter how much new growth I have. My hair edges look somewhere between 3c and 4a but the middle of my head is like 4b-4c. Strange I know, but it's true

I use KeraCare Edge Tamer on my edges when I pull it back in a bun and I tell you honey, this product works magnificently on taming my edges after moisturizing and oiling them.

It does not have any mineral oil or petrolatum in it and I love it love it loooooove it! I will order 2 jars of it on my next order. Also you don't have to use a lot of it either.

[levette]

Originally Posted by empressri

I have a life to live, books to read, places to go...too busy to be worried about some next chick's edges. I'm not sleeping with her, why the hell would I care?

my sentiments exactly