Hair Snobs?

[candy626]

Originally Posted by NitaChantell

"yea, dirt makes your hair grow".

I read this so often on this forum but have never heard someone say that in real life. I definitely don't doubt it though. I am a pro-shampoo, pro- hygiene nazi so it's just really weird to me when people say stuff like that...

[claudzie]

My aunt claims she's got growing hands and that's the reason why my hair is growing a bit faster now....oh yeah of course, nothing to do with the healthy hair practices ive been implementing Hair myths are still alive

[caribeandiva]

Originally Posted by whiteoleander91

I've been told "'we' don't need to wash our hair that much" or "you're getting it wet a lot, just be careful." When I first decided to go natural I was asked, "so what, your just not going to comb your hair anymore?" Now it's, your hair is getting long, your hair is so pretty, what do you do to it? How do you make the curls stay? or, how do you put the curls in? Some ppl care and truly want to hear what I have to say. Some just say, that's too much, I don't have time for alladat lol. I don't really care either way. I enjoy my hair, but it's like ppl think you need their validation or something to be happy. *lip smack* Imma co-wash and shampoo regardless of how you feel about black hair, my hair, your hair, blahh. I still have family members that see grease as a moisturizer and water as an enemy, and even though it makes me twitch a lil (lol), it's whatever. Don't let it phase you OP

I learned a long time ago that the only person who's validation I need to be happy is my own.

[caribeandiva]

Originally Posted by sweetnikki_6

IDK my healthy hair practices have not resulted in hair running down my back although it's super healthy and looks good. Many people that don't have a clue about lhcf and are still using grease have more hair then me and can cut their hair this month and two months later it's back to where they started. So clearly it's more than just healthy hair practices coming into play.

@sweetnikki_6 What is your regimen? Do you have before and after pictures? How you been to a doctor to see if you have any vitamin deficiencies?

[sweetnikki_6]

@caribeandiva

I cw two to three times a week depending on how often i work out. I use argon oil and chi silk infusion on my hair. I rolleset or wrap and dry under my pibbs. I pretty much never use direct heat. Relax every 12 weeks.

As I said my hair is healthy and looks good I often get the weave check but it just grows very slowly. I cut my hair last year (it was just past shoulder length) short on one side long on the other and kept the style through last summer. In september I decided to start growing it out. It's not even close to growing out. While other people grow out haircuts in 3 months.

[MystiqueBabe]

I don't think I am a hair snob. I have and will continue to use hair grease. My hair was it's longest and I never moisturized, DC, and all that other stuff we do on here. We don't really NEED to do all this stuff for our hair to grow. I washed my hair once a month and it was healthy and long. Now I wash it 2-4 times a month. I almost never used heat and just left my hair alone. I both use "white" products & "ethnic" products. And I do eat a lot of protein which helps in hair growth if anything. My family is not one to instigate since long hair "runs" in the family, no one raises an eyebrow. I recently cut my hair and it is getting longer once again. Once you get to APL & beyond everyone will stare and worse hate, but just never help themselves.

However, I will say that a common complaint is that these practices are "too much" which is understandable. It can be time consuming to do this extra stuff to your hair. I will do the whole 9 yards when my hair needs extra TLC but otherwise I only wash, condition/DC, and moisturize. So if people ask me for advice I just say shampoo often and DC (min 2 times a month), and use a moisturizer that is mineral oil/petro free and seal w/ oil, limit heat, and focus mainly on the ends of your hair, and just leave it alone. Short, sweet and no eyes glazing over.

[lamaria211]

Im not a hair snob just a pj I like having lots of choices but I dont do alot to my hair only wash+dc once a week, cw once a week (trying to use up over 40+ conditioners) and M&S daily
Oh and I use grease!

[sckri23]

Originally Posted by tvwhatley

I was going to start a thread on this. My family talked about me when I cut all my hair off last summer. They said I washed my hair too much and to stop using 'white folks' products. They told me my vitamins was a waste of money and time. I hit apl this month and now they want to know the magic formula. WTH. Its what I've been doing all year. So I tell them again, about deep conditioning and protein treatments to keep your hair healthy and retain length. They just shrug it off and say 'well you've always had good hair'. I hate that. I have a wavy curl pattern but it was just as short and damaged as theirs when I wasn't taking care of it. And they just brushed off all my hard work with simple dna.

I actually grit my teeth when I see then do their hair. My mom called me over to do her relaxer touch up and cursed me out when I tried to tell her that you don't put the relaxer over the whole strand when doing a touch up. Now I think I'm all that because I have the 'white girl swing'. Whatever that is.

Sorry. You gave me just the vehicle to vent so I jumped on.

Its alright cause my sis thinks goin to the salon keeping her hair dry (no oils, no washes) and using her instyler faithfully will help her hair gro. She even got mad at me for tepmporarally (cant spell) puting on her headscarf..... "you know I dont use oil on my hair now I have to wash it!!!!!!" I tried telling her about the forum and the tips but she wont listen so I give up

ETA: She's been using the instyler for 6 months and just bought a heat protecting spray last month after I told her she needed one

[caribeandiva]

Originally Posted by sweetnikki_6

@caribeandiva

I cw two to three times a week depending on how often i work out. I use argon oil and chi silk infusion on my hair. I rolleset or wrap and dry under my pibbs. I pretty much never use direct heat. Relax every 12 weeks.

As I said my hair is healthy and looks good I often get the weave check but it just grows very slowly. I cut my hair last year (it was just past shoulder length) short on one side long on the other and kept the style through last summer. In september I decided to start growing it out. It's not even close to growing out. While other people grow out haircuts in 3 months.

Oh I see. Your hair is growing but not as fast as you'd like. When I was relaxed my hair didnt make progress unless I deepconditioned under the hooded dryer and took iron supplements.

[soon2bsl]

I can relate to alot of the comments you ladies get from other women. I was relaxer for 20+ years and stuck at SL. Since being on my HHJ I am now MBL natural. I hear people tell me, "well you know you got that good hair, or that mixed people hair, or spanish people hair." I'm thinking..come on, really?? It's like they believe I grew it effortlessly or something. It took alot of work, patience, and dedication to get to this point.

[felic1]

@sckri23.... the thread would be nice. just go ahead!!

[Cattypus1]

I haven't used hair grease of any kind since the 70's. My hair texture is the product of two 100% African-American parents. I was told all of that craziness about growing hands, dirt making hair grow...we even used mange(I hope that's how you spell it) mixed with Vaseline as a growing concoction--what a god-awful mess! I was e girl in the school pictures with one plait going one direction and the one on the other side of my head going another and what passed for bangs on my 6-head going straight up in the air-yes, a hot mess before anyone ever heard o such a thing. My hair never grew past my ears! In college I met a girl with SL hair who never greased her hair and my affair with Super K-Gro was OVER! I say all of that to say that I'm self-relaxed (15 years and counting), somewhere between APL and BLS. It's not the growing that's the problem, it's the keeping, ladies. Wash , condition, protect--whatever else you do is on you.

[Aviah]

I don't share unless asked.

[closertomydreams]

LHCF is my secret. Aside from my sister, I haven't told anyone about my hair aspirations or my obsession with hair and conditioners. I don't offer unsolicited hair advice, unless it's for my little cousin or niece. Everyone else, when they compliment my hair I thank them and keep it moving.

[BlackDiamond21]

My immediate reaction to the post was I would have checked her b/c I do not take well to back handed compliments regardless of what part of my body it is about. That comment was just rude and ignorant. I want to say hopefully you schooled her on your hair and regi but explaining ourselves over and over again, gets old quickly...

[Barbara]

I don't really talk about hair; because, I have more important things on my mind.

People normally bring it up, so I'll just give them my hair stylist's business card.

I know they won't believe me anyway.

[ManiiSweetheart]

Originally Posted by missbugg21

I kind of ran into that a little bit during my last trip to my local BSS. I was looking for some hair for a sew-in and I kept being approached by women with snotty attitudes who wanted to know why I was buying hair when I have a lot of hair already (my hair was down). I felt like I had to justify my desire to wear a sew-in as a protective style and it was annoying.

Then, in the same visit, I was approached by a woman with what appeared to be damaged and dry hair and she asked me what I used on my hair. I told her that I really like the ORS products. I asked her how often she cleansed and moisturized her hair and I got the "well, you know our hair gotta stay dirty" comment... I was done. I just let her buy her Blue Magic and MBL phony pony and I kept it moving.

Hahahahahahaha

[BEAUTYU2U]

Yeah, I'm a bit of a snob. Oh well. When you know better, you do better. It wasn't until SL that my mom stopped bringing up my former comments about black people "needing grease." Now she sees that my hair can grow (healthily) without the aid of grease. My mixed friend, on the other hand, gets told that her hair is good so that's why it grows so easily... even though she's never been past SL her whole life and is now BSL. And white folks think she's lying when she tells them she didn't "do anything" to her hair to get those spiral curls.