PersuasiveBeauty
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Do you ever hide your hair in puns or put it back in a ponytail in order to make sure that you don't make someone feel insecure about their own hair? My hair isn't even long yet, but I know I made my aunt feel insecure today. And I just feel awfully terrible. I didn't try to, but just my being there helping her take out her micro braids made her feel some type of way. She was taking out her micro braids and I offered to help her. She was complaining about her hairline receding and how her hair is too thin...
I tried to gently offer her advice..I told her to stop the micro braids and maybe quit the relaxers, or at least get a milder strength. But all she did was look at my hair and say, "you're just lucky you're blessed with thick hair" It wasn't in a spiteful tone at all....She's a good woman. Very kind and always there for me. But I somewhat feel guilty... By just being there. And honestly. Much of her hair condition can be contributed to old age... Like the gray hairs and such. So she shouldn't be so hard on herself. I just wish she wouldn't feel bad. And I wish she'd take my advice.
Anyway, my question to you all is.. Do you hide your hair with scarves, or buns, or whatever in order to make sure other people don't feel insecure? Have you been in a situation where your hair has made someone insecure? I may just start covering my hair with a bonnet or scarf whenever I am at her house. I don't want to make her feel any type of way. It's one thing to flaunt your hair in someone's face who has always doubted you and been negative.. But I would never want to make a family member feel inadequate.
I tried to gently offer her advice..I told her to stop the micro braids and maybe quit the relaxers, or at least get a milder strength. But all she did was look at my hair and say, "you're just lucky you're blessed with thick hair" It wasn't in a spiteful tone at all....She's a good woman. Very kind and always there for me. But I somewhat feel guilty... By just being there. And honestly. Much of her hair condition can be contributed to old age... Like the gray hairs and such. So she shouldn't be so hard on herself. I just wish she wouldn't feel bad. And I wish she'd take my advice.
Anyway, my question to you all is.. Do you hide your hair with scarves, or buns, or whatever in order to make sure other people don't feel insecure? Have you been in a situation where your hair has made someone insecure? I may just start covering my hair with a bonnet or scarf whenever I am at her house. I don't want to make her feel any type of way. It's one thing to flaunt your hair in someone's face who has always doubted you and been negative.. But I would never want to make a family member feel inadequate.