Kissing (Spin-off: Abstinence Challenge 365, 24-7 )

[sugaplum]

Hello Ladies, :wave:

I just wanted to find out what you ladies thought about kissing?

Now to me, when it comes to dating, there's nothing wrong with kissing on the cheek or on the forehead....but on the lips!! :nono: I personally feel that you don't where the person has been and alsoI feel that kissing leads to other things:eyebrows2 especially french kissing. :nono:

According to the Easton Bible Dictionary:

Kiss: 1. Of affection (Genesis 27:26,27; 29:13; Luke 7:38,45)
2. reconciliation (Genesis 33:4; 2 Samuel 14:33)

3. leave-taking (Genesis 31:28,55; Ruth 1:14; 2 Samuel 19:39)

4. homage (Psalms 2:12; 1 Samuel 10:1)

5. spoken of as between parents and children (Genesis 27:26; 31:28,55)

(Genesis 48:10; 50:1; Exodus 18:7; Ruth 1:9,14)

6. between male relatives (Genesis 29:13; 33:4; 45:15)

7. It accompanied social worship as a symbol of brotherly love

(Romans 16:16; 1 Corinthians 16:20; 2 Corinthians 13:12; 1 Thessalonians 5:26; 1 Peter 5:14)

8. The worship of idols was by kissing the image or the hand toward the image (1 Kings 19:18; Hosea 13:2)


I'm very interested in finding out what you ladies thought about it. Does this follow with our walk with Jesus?

[sithembile]

I haven't dated since becoming a Christian, but I've decided that when the time comes, I willhave to set boundaries around kissing. I wouldn't want to get into passionate kissing because I know myself, and I wouldn't want to be tempted to go any further. I think a kiss on the cheek or a peck on the lips would be the boundary for me.

[TrustMeLove]

Well, I need help with my kissing boundaries..

But, Im not dating right now,nor do i have a bf, but my bondaries change after every relationship..they just get stricter and stricter.

So right now im at cheek, peck, and a french if you are just seeing them..like you guys are going out to lunch dinner whatever event..and its the initial point of two people coming together...and if you decided to french that would be the time..BUT NO FRENCHING THROUGHOUT THE DAY. (I learned my lesson, this could get you caught up, because those sexual endorphins stay high and thats not good for people who aren't having sex until marriage).

And no chilling at the house and constant kissing. This is a no no too.

[melodee]

Definately set boundaries.


If you have already had the experience of kissing before, you should know how your body responds to the slightest touch.

If not, I would say, do not explore french kissing. The body is set up to respond in certain way when aroused in this way. Things start happening and you may be very tempted.

Set your boundaries and discuss them with him at the beginning of the relationship, so there is no misunderstanding.:)

[Poohbear]

sugaplum... let's just bring all these challenges to an end and take on the Nun Challenge! :lachen:

[sugaplum]

Thank you melodee, TrustMeLove, & sithembile :kiss: I've leanred so much right now on this topic. I realize now more then ever since I've given my life over to God, to "set boundaries" when it comes to dating. :yep:

I'm single right now. :woot: My friend had asked me this question "How I felt about kissing?" I told him that I would not even kiss a guy I'm dating on the lips. :nono: Like you said melodee it leads to other things that I know God would not approve of.

But to me I could never get into french kissing. And seeing people get all "down and dirty" in public with kissing always made me :barf: !!

[sugaplum]

sugaplum... let's just bring all these challenges to an end and take on the Nun Challenge! :lachen:


:lachen: :lachen: :lachen: Poohbear, stop girl. :lol: I'm dying at my computer right now. :lol:

[BLESSED1]

I actually get turned off by kissing, I'm weird I know :p

[TrustMeLove]

Well, I wouldn't kiss anyone IM JUST DATING! NO NO NO

Must, be the boyfriend..and you just cant go around making any tom, dick, or keyshawn your boyfriend.

Heres a simple hiearchy.

STRANGER TO ACCUANTENCE (sp)TO FRIEND TO BOYFRIEND TO FIANCE TO HUSBAND

Feel free to add to it or change it around.

[sugaplum]

I see what your saying TrustMeLove. :yep:

[sithembile]

Well, I wouldn't kiss anyone IM JUST DATING! NO NO NO

Must, be the boyfriend..and you just cant go around making any tom, dick, or keyshawn your boyfriend.

Heres a simple hiearchy.

STRANGER TO ACCUANTENCE (sp)TO FRIEND TO BOYFRIEND TO FIANCE TO HUSBAND

Feel free to add to it or change it around.

I like this! I've been looking at it this way:
Friendship to Courtship to Marriage

[JuJuBoo]

sugaplum... let's just bring all these challenges to an end and take on the Nun Challenge! :lachen:


OKAAAY! :lachen:

[Poohbear]

I like this! I've been looking at it this way:
Friendship to Courtship to MarriageHas anyone ever seen this as the proper way:

Friendship to Marriage to Courtship

I didn't follow this as I grew up, but I heard a sermon concerning this where you should marry to date, not date to marry - mainly because dating has been used as way to "try the goods" or "spend all you got to prove your love" before getting married, when it would be better to be just friends and get to know each other and spend time together before deciding to marry. It's very old-fashioned but I like it and would like to enforce this once I get married and have children. :yep:

[Honeyhips]

That's pretty much what folks are saying when they say friends to courting to marraige. Doesn't make sense to court someone after marriage. Courting leads to marriage. Dating leads to sex or booty calls. Has anyone ever seen this as the proper way:

Friendship to Marriage to Courtship

I didn't follow this as I grew up, but I heard a sermon concerning this where you should marry to date, not date to marry - mainly because dating has been used as way to "try the goods" or "spend all you got to prove your love" before getting married, when it would be better to be just friends and get to know each other and spend time together before deciding to marry. It's very old-fashioned but I like it and would like to enforce this once I get married and have children. :yep:

[melodee]

I see what your saying TrustMeLove. :yep:

I do too, but you must watch out when this person is your boyfriend or fiance. Because then your love for him is very strong and it is natural to want to feel a higher sense of closeness. BUT, if the boundaries are set, and you are truly letting the Lord lead you (both of you must be doing this, not just one or the other), then you will find sucess. If NOT, then watch out--because eros love is very strong!!!

[Poohbear]

That's pretty much what folks are saying when they say friends to courting to marraige. Doesn't make sense to court someone after marriage. Courting leads to marriage. Dating leads to sex or booty calls.To me, courting is the old fashion word for dating. The idea behind courting/dating after marriage is that whoever has to pay for the dates saves money while they are an unmarried couple. Also, you don't have to worry about sexual pressures, etc. as much. That's all.

[Isis448]

My roommate is a Christian and she didn't kiss her fiancee until they were engaged. She is 32 and he is around the same age. I believe they have been together for a year and a half. Their wedding is in June. I wish them the best because they make a wonderful couple and I feel that they are truly blessed by God.

They also abstain from sex and if he stays over, he sleeps on the couch.

[Koffie]

sugaplum... let's just bring all these challenges to an end and take on the Nun Challenge! :lachen:

OKAY! I am sorry, but I think it would be rediculous for ME to join this. :down:

[Poohbear]

OKAY! I am sorry, but I think it would be rediculous for ME to join this. :down:Oh Koffie, it was just a joke! ;)

[beverly]

Well what I've been taught and I believe there are different levels in relationships:

Friendship, Dating, Engagement, Marriage.

In my opinion, if you are of the mindset that you are trying to wait until marriage for sex, then there are different levels of intimacy associated with each stage. There is a huge difference between a kiss and kissing. A kiss is a sign of affection, and its nothing fornicative about it. But as far as kissing I plan to evaluate that whenever I get to the 3rd stage in a relationship - which is a long way off for me.. But I think it depends on the people involved on what type of intimacy those two can handle - I know of a person who gets sexually excited by hand holding. There is a huge difference between a brief kiss on the check or lips versus putting your tongue in someones mouth and groping them. For me, now that I have a renewed mindset, I am not tempted to go any further by a kiss, since its a way to show love/affection. If you are not 100% commited to living your life this way, no matter what boundaries you set, it won't work out though.