Do you mind BIG churches?

[JenniferMD]

I go to a very big church with 27,000 members and whenever I tell people that, I always get the same response:

"Oh, I could never go to a church that big, you'd never get to know the people." :laugh:


I think that's a big misconception. Yes, there's 27,000 members but only a few thousand go to the 8am service (the one I attend) and when you get into a routine like sitting where you always sit, the faces become familiar and you start to meet people. Then, there are tons of other opportunities to meet folks at smaller settings like bible study, professional meetings, banquets, family fun day, singles meetings, etc.

Of course I do understand people prefering smaller churches, my sister for instance has to have a small church for her to be happy. :)

[Blossssom]

I go to a very big church with 27,000 members and whenever I tell people that, I always get the same response:

"Oh, I could never go to a church that big, you'd never get to know the people." :laugh:


I think that's a big misconception. Yes, there's 27,000 members but only a few thousand go to the 8am service (the one I attend) and when you get into a routine like sitting where you always sit, the faces become familiar and you start to meet people. Then, there are tons of other opportunities to meet folks at smaller settings like bible study, professional meetings, banquets, family fun day, singles meetings, etc.

Of course I do understand people prefering smaller churches, my sister for instance has to have a small church for her to be happy. :)

Do you ever get to shake hands with the pastor? Does he even know who you are? That's why I've always shied away from big churches.

If you have a moral emergency, can you call him and he'll know who you are? Or will he pretend to know who you are and give you a "pat" response, because he doesn't really know you or your circumstances.

Besides, big churches always spelled BIG DOLLARS to me!

[MissB]

I attend a church with a congregation of over 3,000. A lot people tell me that my church is too large. But, we are broken up into geographical zones and we fellowship with members within in our community. And JenniferMD, like you said, the faces do become familiar. I see a lot of people from church in the grocery store, at the mall, and at work.

[Dare~to~Dream]

Wow, that's a large congregation. Since I'm used to VERY SMALL churches then I'm not sure how it will feel to go to one EXTREMELY large.

[gn1g]

I too attended a mega-church with over 33,000 members. I love the ministry, there is nothing like it. You don't have to be concerned with the pastor talking your business in the pulpit, cause he don't know it. The pastor doesn't know you and you might have to call 10 times before you can get some help and I don't think they help with monetary needs. I hate the parking etc. But I am there for a corporate move of God. I love churches that operate in the 5-fold ministry! So no there is nothing personal about belonging to a mega church, but God knows me.

[pebbles]

Y'all attend some big churches! LOL! :lol: I used to go to a small church of about 600 members, and for the past 6 months I've been going to a 5,000 member church, and I love it. The bishop is a praying man of God with an anointing to preach and teach the word. I've been so blessed there. I used to think that in these big churches the pastor doesn't get to see or know everyone, but those who approach him, he knows, and he knows a lot of people! He said once that often times people will not approach him, and that's the only reason he doesn't know more of his members. Also, when you go to a church that's so large, not everyone that comes on Sunday takes an active role outside of that one day. And those folks really won't get to know more of the members. :)

[Dare~to~Dream]

You don't have to be concerned with the pastor talking your business in the pulpit, cause he don't know it.


This is something I've noticed about some small churches I've attended.

[MissB]

This is a good thread. Once someone becomes a member at my church, they have a meeting one on one with the Pastor. From that day forward, he remembers your name. We have the opportunity to shake hands with him and the associate pastor on the way out of church.

We also have an awesome Assistant Pastor and 20 associate ministers. We can send an email, leave a voice mail, or contact a Deacon/Deaconness. With this method, I usually receive a response within the hour.

[GodsPromises]

I don't go to a mega church, right now we have about 1,000 members and we are getting ready to build on 76 acres of land, however like was started if you make a point of getting to know your Pastor then he will know you. If you participte in activities and is an active member of your church he will know you and when you call on him he will know you personally.

[slwe415]

I'm not a member of a large church, but I have visited some. I wouldn't mind being a member of one at all.

[ChosenbyGod]

You don't have to be concerned with the pastor talking your business in the pulpit, cause he don't know it. The pastor doesn't know you .....

Why wouldn't you want your Pastor to talk your business in the pulpit??? If a person has sin in their lives or needs help in some area they should be thankful for a Pastor who is concerned enough about you to call out your situation and help you. Others need to hear it too, not just you.

I mean, the Pastor is the one who is going to have to give account for your soul one day before God. If he don't even know you, how can he????

Does the Pastor know your name, as Blossom said?? And does he preach against ALL SIN?????

[BklynHeart]

I attend a mega-church as well, 23,000 members. I like the fact that if I can't make it to church because of an illness or traveling I don't have busybodies telling me "hmph, I see you didn't make it to church!". Plus, it cuts down on the gossip I used to see in the much smaller church I attended (about 80 members). I just want to hear The Word and jet.

[JenniferMD]

OK, this thread isn't going quite the way I wanted, but oh well.

To answer the question, yes I have shaken my pastor's hand :laugh: And I've talked to him on different occassions too. Now of course he doesn't know everyone's name, but in all fairness, pastors of 400 members don't know all of their members names either.

If I want to get in contact with my pastor I can, it just may take longer to get an appointment than witih smaller churches. However, my church has it set up so you can meet with other officials. I'm actually very close to the Pastor's brother (he's a Reverend at the church) and I can call him up anytime and he'd know my voice immediately. :) *Smaller churches work in the same way...you can make appointments with other officials b/c even a pastor of 500 can be stretched thin with appointments* :)

[lonesomedove]

I prefer smaller churches. I wouldn't be opposed to a bigger church though, just the few times I did go, it was more impersonal than I'm used to.

[Honeyhips]

No, my only fear would be getting lost in the shuffle.
I've had people ask me why I haven't been in church, but it was never done in a condescending way. Just in a, is everything going okay, and I missed you, way.

A Pastor can share someone's story whether the Church is small or large. Just like he will use an example from the media. No big deal. I hope in you all's cases they didn't use their real names.

My Uncle has a big Church and I like it, but he is my Uncle. I have a relationship with him.

My church is about 1000 members and I love it like that. My Pastor is more like my Father and I couldn't imagine having to start over at a mega church. But I don't want to go anywhere now b/c there is so much wisdom around me combined with my Pastor, his head pastor, his brother, and my Uncle, and the people that are there. I am truly blessed. I cringe when I hear about the religous/legalism type of stuff that goes on elsewhere. People are truly decieved.

Oh and my Pastor makes a point to remember everyone's names.

[Honeyhips]

If I want to get in contact with my pastor I can, it just may take longer to get an appointment than witih smaller churches. However, my church has it set up so you can meet with other officials. I'm actually very close to the Pastor's brother (he's a Reverend at the church) and I can call him up anytime and he'd know my voice immediately. :) *Smaller churches work in the same way...you can make appointments with other officials b/c even a pastor of 500 can be stretched thin with appointments* :)that is good to know.

[honeisos]

OK, this thread isn't going quite the way I wanted, but oh well.

To answer the question, yes I have shaken my pastor's hand :laugh: And I've talked to him on different occassions too. Now of course he doesn't know everyone's name, but in all fairness, pastors of 400 members don't know all of their members names either.

If I want to get in contact with my pastor I can, it just may take longer to get an appointment than witih smaller churches. However, my church has it set up so you can meet with other officials. I'm actually very close to the Pastor's brother (he's a Reverend at the church) and I can call him up anytime and he'd know my voice immediately. :) *Smaller churches work in the same way...you can make appointments with other officials b/c even a pastor of 500 can be stretched thin with appointments* :)


Very true.... Jen ... I attend a small church... i think we are 500 in total... but only 150-200 attend all of the time...

MY pastor knows the 200 very well ...

but if you only show up once a month or don't join a ministry or go to bible study..how will anyone know you?

[honeisos]

Why wouldn't you want your Pastor to talk your business in the pulpit??? If a person has sin in their lives or needs help in some area they should be thankful for a Pastor who is concerned enough about you to call out your situation and help you. Others need to hear it too, not just you.

I mean, the Pastor is the one who is going to have to give account for your soul one day before God. If he don't even know you, how can he????




How is the pastor really to know what you really have going on in your heart? ... there is no way he can.... that is the job of God only..

[sillygurl18]

They don't bother me at all. Not everybody feels comfortable in a small church and not everyone feels comfortable in a big church. The church I belong to has about 3000 or so members. I belonged to a small church that on a good day it had 100 people attend and that was the Christmas service. Whatever works for the person IMO.

[webby]

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I have to disagree with that.

I respect my pastor as a child of God, as a human, but I alone am responsible for my soul. My pastor will be held accountable for his own soul.