This is why I think I stayed big for so long

[TrustMeLove]

I hate to be objectified.


Walking into the drug store some old idiot man took a picture of my butt.

I kid you not I was almost on the 6 oclock news. This close. Nothing but the grace of God has that man still walking, well running because he ran away, today. And me not in jail.

Because surely surely we would have been on the 6 oclock news. I wanted to kick that man and bash him in the head with the display.

YOU CANNOT TAKE PICTURES OF US...NO MATTER HOW GORGEOUS WE LOOK.

YOU PERVERT.

I stepped to him and said are you a pervert? How dare you take pictures of women w/o their permission. Are you down here taking pictures of little children too? You are a pedophile..a pervert. The shock on his face screamed that he was doing something more than taking pictures of grown women.

I don't know why I accused him such a thing, but I did and the look on his face told it all.

When I asked for the police to be called the idiot ran off. I should have tripped him....:ohwell:

I HATE THIS ATTENTION FROM WEIRDOS.

Main reason I didn't mind being bigger and just blending in to the background. Not that hot..the attention stops. When you get hot men think they can pull this bullsh!t.

I should have dropped that negro where he stood. :wallbash:

[asuperwoman]

man!! I so feel you! The extra weight is a protection mechanism from *ish like that. If you had have dropped his butt where he stood, what could he have done considering his offense towards you? Certainly he wouldn't have stayed for the police, ol punks like that are such wussies.

You definitely get comfortable with not being objectified after you get a little extra cushion and then when you start losing the cushion, you remember why you may have allowed yourself to gain weight in the first place. :nono:You just have to do you, no matter what perverts step out of the lurking. Despite the negative attention from weirdos.... you have to focus on the positives and why you lost weight in the first place.

It's difficult to deal with though.... sorry this happened to you!

[kbragg]

:lachen: Not laughing at the situation just your BOLDNESS girl I love it!:grin: But serious, that is a lie from the pit of hell. The devil wants you to believe that it's better to be fat and unhealthy because if you actually had the body God designed you to have, a healthy fit beautiful body meant for your husband, then you'd become an objec of lust for perverts. This perv was sent by the enemy to cause you doubt yourself and second guess your efforts! Don't buy it girl!:nono: Pervs are everywhere and hey you even pointed out that dude was probably taking pics of kids too and there's NOTHING hot or sexy about them:nono:

[TrustMeLove]

No worries. I'm pushing towards the mark still.

BUt, I'm going to learn better ways to deal with these perverts. I hate when people get over...

However, I already told the Lord..so I'm sure they will get theres..trust.

Next time though I will call the police FIRST!

Cat calling saying gross stuff is wrong too..But, at least I'm not going to be on some grown mans wall or on the internet somewhere.

That's why I would take it there with the picture stuff and not with the gross stuff dudes say everyday.

[Almaz]

Maybe he is a chubby chaser and he likes big women you there are lot of men into they type of thing. But still he was wrong

[FluffyRed]

I feel you on that!!! I SO don't feel that women and girls are safe.

Blending into the background, and being allowed to be just a person is very... unstressful

[Chromia]

I know what you mean. I remember when I was smaller and happy with my size I would sometimes wear baggy shapeless clothes to try and avoid this type of thing. I thought that if I sort of "hid" myself from the shoulders down that it would help. :nono: Of course it didn't - not with these perverts.

I'm glad you spoke up and said something to him instead of holding in your feelings.

[LHCF2009]

Some men will never have respect. Men like this are just plain creeps to me. Part of the reason I don't like camera phones, you never know who has captured you.