What stops you from meeting your fitness/weight/nutrition goals?

[TheseStankyLegs]

And what do you plan on doing about it.

For me, I think I unconsciously stop my progress.

I worry a lot about what other people say/think, even though I know I shouldn't. I know I want to be a certain size, but when family members ask me if I am losing weight, I get so embarrassed. This is probably I know that they think I am thin enough and usually say "You don't need to lose no weight" neverminding that I gained almost 20 that I am trying to rid of. When I lose or gain weight it really shows. My family is so critical and acts like every black woman should want "meat on her bones".

So, I think I am afraid of what they will say...:rolleyes:

What about you?

[jaxkat]

BonitaMorena,

That is exactly what happens to me...Last year this time I started my weightloss journey and ended up losing 30 pounds, however, I lost tons of inches going from a size 18 to a size 12....My goal weight at the time was 135 I only made it to 150 before my S/O, family members, friends, and coworkers started telling me that I was looking sick and crackish so what did I do I stopped:wallbash:

This is a new year and a new me and I am determined to tell the naysayers to get a :realitycheck: it's my body and I will do what's best for me...

[andrea]

For me it is a mix of things.. Part of it is pure procrastination and laziness. Other times I think it is something emotional. However, up until now I have had a hard time finding the source. I can say that I didn't gain weight until about 6 years ago. I was a 10-12 until I was about 24. I am a little over 5'8. Now I easily wear an 18 and have been as big as 20 maybe 22. I started gaining weight when I moved to GA. I was depressed, missed home, lonely. Then on top of that all the fried food.. So, It took me about 2 years to gain it all. I have attempted to lose the weight and when I did. I did pretty good. Then I stopped and it all came back..

Part of me just needs a large jump start. I feel like it would be easy to maintain a loss then to lose it.. I do think it is mental and it is easier said then done..

I always felt if I knew it was this hard to lose I wouldn't have gained it. I think we all no what it takes to lose weight.. It is just a disconnect. Mental to Physical..

[andrea]

No one else wants to answer this

[HeChangedMyName]

For me, it is pure laziness. I want a magic pill and there is simply not one. I am a very easy to please person in general and not materialistic so the "looks" department is not a good motivator for me because regardless, I am usually happy with myself. My health is superb so I can motivate myself to lose weight for the sake of getting my healthy numbers right. I have no idea what I am going to do. I am getting sick and tired of feeling like I "need" to lose weight though. I just want to fit my clothes comfortably. I hate that I feel like this and have tried to examine life and see if it is emotional but I can't find a thing. No good legit reason why I shouldn't just be able to get up and workout because whenever I do it, I actually enjoy it. I have no passion for fitness. Usually, the only things that I follow through with are things that I am very passionate about.

I have been praying about it because that is all I know to do at this point. I've been taking my CLA/Borage/Coconut oil and nothing is really budging. I eat healthy--although probably too much of a good thing. I am just so frustrated and fed up with myself. Hopefully Jesus will come up and let me in on a really good plan to tackle this fat soon before my body gets even further out of control. I really want to lose 50-60 lbs. I understand that it will not happen overnight, but my scale seems to go up when I put in the effort, but when I just forget about it, the scale will sneak down on me. I just. . .:wallbash::wallbash::wallbash::wallbash::wallbash : :ohwell: At least I am tall and weight gain is proportioned so that I don't look a hot mess.


ETA and procrastination plus forgetfulness.

[JFemme]

I'll bite...:look:

Twenty years ago, these were a few of my holdups

--the weather, I hated sweating, and being out in the open b/c of the booty watchers & such... (still hate that)

--I'd lose 10 pounds or whatever, then notice how people treated me.What I noticed was the glowing attentions from men everywhere, and women were deferential but suspicious. It also affected my friendships with women in other ways. I regularly get uninvited to events or given the stank eye, talked about quite often...I made excuses for their behavior and played down my looks to make them comfortable for a time...eventually gaining because I was uncomfortable with the attention shift...

--The other times I gained were due to being pregnant, the death of my mother, hitting peri-menopause, and a move to the US a few years ago... (all emotionally stressful events)

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My self confidence soared in my thirties enabling me to kick the above attitudes to the curb... I don't presently have a problem sticking to a regimen, no matter what is externally manifesting. I'm religious about my self-care..

I've learned to finally put me first, b/c without me everything I endeavor to do/achieve can not thrive without me at my best.

Women run so much, when we break, everything breaks...

[HeChangedMyName]

I'll bite...:look:

Twenty years ago, these were a few of my holdups

--the weather, I hated sweating, and being out in the open b/c of the booty watchers & such... (still hate that)

--I'd lose 10 pounds or whatever, then notice how people treated me.What I noticed was the glowing attentions from men everywhere, and women were deferential but suspicious. It also affected my friendships with women in other ways. I regularly get uninvited to events or given the stank eye, talked about quite often...I made excuses for their behavior and played down my looks to make them comfortable for a time...eventually gaining because I was uncomfortable with the attention shift...

--The other times I gained were due to being pregnant, the death of my mother, hitting peri-menopause, and a move to the US a few years ago... (all emotionally stressful events)

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My self confidence soared in my thirties enabling me to kick the above attitudes to the curb... I don't presently have a problem sticking to a regimen, no matter what is externally manifesting. I'm religious about my self-care..

I've learned to finally put me first, b/c without me everything I endeavor to do/achieve can not thrive without me at my best.

Women run so much, when we break, everything breaks...

POWERFUL!!!
I keep hearing about this enlightenment that comes as the thirties come to a close. I am 31 now so I hope I can hold on for this enlightment. I am actually looking forward to my 40's because I hear how fabulous they are.

[Ramya]

Impatience and overdoing things are really my downfall. I have a nutritionist who I'm convinced is trying to make me fat(ter). I tried doing things her way and GAINED weight. :nono: I have a hard time sticking to things that don't feel natural. I can workout fine, I actually enjoy it but my eating is what I need to figure out. Doing things her way with the portion control and the meat and the everything in moderation is not working for me. I just can't eat everything! And I think it's totally OK to skip a meal if I'm not hungry or to not have meat everyday. I think I'm going to start doing what feels natural to my body and see if the weight finally starts dropping.

[ONAMSHN]

For me: it is pretty motivation from within that is stopping me :(! I have decided that when ya know better, ya do better :). I am the only one stopping me from reaching my goals! Best of luck to each of you!!!

[shortdub78]

my is pure procastination, but not today. i'm going to workout to day and drink my water. i only have a few pounds to lose and i just want to fit back into my clothes. i feel you OP on that whole black women having meat on their bones. those days of trying to be thick are over for me. extra weight doesn't look good on me. i have a small fame and i just want to be a healthy weight for my size. plus i'm getting older and you know it gets harder to keep that weight off. this is the age where my mother and aunts started to really put on weight. i have got to stay fine! LOL!

[laCriolla]

sour patch kids.

[SmartyPants]

Pure unadulterated laziness... that is why I am so committed to meeting those goals this year. My goal is to have my commitment to fitness and health transfer over to other areas of my life. This is my year to get it together.

[loved]

Junk food that is free or on sale & making bad decisions at the grocery store or when I'm shopping for food. I know that I cannot have potato chips in my house. If Utz made a 10 lb. bag of potato chips, I would eat a 10 lb. bag of potato chips in a day.

I can have a cart filled with veggies and eat 5 servings everyday, but the supersized bags of Chex Mix or potato chips negates anything positive.

I'm glad you posted this thread, because I need to realize that "free" is not free. I pay a price in terms of my health and fitness every time I grab a handful of the chocolate pretzels or bagels in the office and I need to have more resolve when I'm at the grocery store/drugstore/Walmart & realize that there are certain things I cannot have in my kitchen cabinet for now.

I'm pretty good about exercise, about the meals I cook and I have been more faithful about exercising for the last 30 days, but I need to develop a personal grocery shopping challenge.

[HeChangedMyName]

sour patch kids.

:lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen:They are addictive aren't they? I had to stop buying them all together because I'd get the big box and eat them all up. :lick:

[TheseStankyLegs]

Junk food that is free or on sale & making bad decisions at the grocery store or when I'm shopping for food. I know that I cannot have potato chips in my house. If Utz made a 10 lb. bag of potato chips, I would eat a 10 lb. bag of potato chips in a day.

I can have a cart filled with veggies and eat 5 servings everyday, but the supersized bags of Chex Mix or potato chips negates anything positive.

I'm glad you posted this thread, because I need to realize that "free" is not free. I pay a price in terms of my health and fitness every time I grab a handful of the chocolate pretzels or bagels in the office and I need to have more resolve when I'm at the grocery store/drugstore/Walmart & realize that there are certain things I cannot have in my kitchen cabinet for now.

I'm pretty good about exercise about the meals I cook and I have been more faithful about exercising for the last 30 days, but I need to develop a personal grocery shopping challenge.


Thank you all for your responses. I was starting to think that no one wanted to particpate because either they didn't know or wasn't willing to share. It's nice to know that women can be open and honest with why we haven't done what we wanted to do.

Loved, I highlighted your post because this happens to a lot of us. I will go and get something, like an apple pie from McD's, and the salesperson would give me two. I would say "I only want one" and she would say "Well, it'll only be ten cents extra, so you'll save money". Do you know I will tell her I only want one and to take the other back and charge me 89C. I usually get the crazy eye, but this is all about setting boundaries.

I am on the journey to pleasing myself. Just because some may consider me small, doesn't mean I should be happy and content in it to make THEM feel better about their bodies. No way. if I want to lose 10 lbs, then that's what I am gonna do.

[PrincessScorpion]

Me not being serious about do what is required of me to get to that goal. I am 5'1 and still have 20 lbs(weight 150) from my pregnancy almost 7 years ago. :eek::eek::eek::wallbash::wallbash: My doctor even said something to me about it when I saw her in December 2008. She also said I should me 102-120 lbs for my height. I would be happy with 125 lbs, but getting to 115 lbs would be my high shool weight. I am going to take it 5 lbs at a time until I am at my goal.

[HeChangedMyName]

ok, so, I will make a list on my calendar to workout. I won't try to play catch up. I will Just Do It. The reward will be my feeling good and looking good. The punishment for not working out will be no desert for me on Sundays. I do it big on Sundays and usually make some yummy desert. If I don't workout during the week even one time, that will mean no yummy goodness for me, although I will still prepare desert for everyone else to have. This starts today.

[Oasis]

Cookies, biscuits, candy, cake, pie, hershey kisses, fudge, chocolate balls, you name it.

[Duchesse]

Lack of total discipline when it comes to working out. Mindset of "Oh this little bite of ______ won't really matter" when it relates to a sweet or fried treat.

I'm still determined though. I've gotten much, much better.

[Chromia]

I realized that I may have been unconsciously stopping my progress. When I gained weight even though I was unhappy with my size I felt relieved that others had stopped making so many comments about me being skinny. When I was smaller and happy with my size I was so sick and tired of other people making comments about me being thin. Then I realized that all of the people making comments about me were women. And they were all overweight, obese, or at a healthy weight but insecure, unhappy, and lacking confidence.

Now I just do not care. When I lose weight if anyone has anything to say about me being too skinny I’ll just ignore them. This is about me, my self-esteem, my self-confidence, and being able to wear my old clothes. I realized that there are people who feel better about themselves as long as I weigh more. I have distanced myself from those people.

The main thing that keeps me from meeting my goals is my appetite and my cravings for a certain taste or texture - something chewy, crispy, or very sweet. I have no problem exercising 5 or 6 days a week, doing cardio and weights. I drink lots of water. But sometimes I feel like no amount of food is enough, like my hunger is neverending. I'll eat a healthy meal with lean protein, unsaturated fat, and vegetables but I'll still want more food.

I’m determined to find a balance between eating healthy and having enough treats so that I won’t feel deprived or restricted, but it’s tough.

Another thing is that I don’t think I’ve fully realized is that now at age 31 I can’t eat like I ate in my early 20s, and with a sedentary job and I can’t eat like I did when I had a job where I was moving around all day and I didn’t sit for more than 2 hours.

Also trying hard to ignore the bagels, donuts, muffins, etc. that co-workers bring in, or telling myself that I’ll have just 1 or just 1/2. Then I end up eating 2 or 3. :ohwell: