Has Anyone else

[Whisper]

Made the decision to cut anyone off before 2009? Either male female, reducing relationships or stopping communication altogether? I did yesterday, it's bitter sweet, but I know it had to be done. It wasn't helping my spiritual growth. :ohwell:
How does it feel? What were your reasons?

[mrselle]

I haven't cut people out of my life, but I have had to adjust my relationship with certain family members. It's sad, but I have to protect my heart. I look at it as changing the way I react to a person's ways. I've had to learn that I can't change people. I can't make someone like me or love me. I can't make someone see me the way I want them to see me. But I can change the way I react to them and their treatment of me. I can learn to be confident in who I am in Christ and continue to be the best person I can be.

[monie20032007]

Well im in the process of doing it. I know that being with the person will distract me from my goal of spiritual growth, so I have to do whats right for my sake and the other person. I want to be right with God and if that means cutting some people out then that's just what I have to do even though it will be a struggle.

[Whisper]

I haven't cut people out of my life, but I have had to adjust my relationship with certain family members. It's sad, but I have to protect my heart. I look at it as changing the way I react to a person's ways. I've had to learn that I can't change people. I can't make someone like me or love me. I can't make someone see me the way I want them to see me. But I can change the way I react to them and their treatment of me. I can learn to be confident in who I am in Christ and continue to be the best person I can be.


Lady you better work that!! Ooooh that is definitely what I am feeling right now. I wasn't sure if I had taken drastic measures or not, and I feel like I've lost a friend. They werent being who I wanted them to be, but I can't change people, so I decided to bounce! I didn't need to be in a situation in the first place.

I feel you though about family. :yep: You are with them for the long haul.

[Whisper]

Well im in the process of doing it. I know that being with the person will distract me from my goal of spiritual growth, so I have to do whats right for my sake and the other person. I want to be right with God and if that means cutting some people out then that's just what I have to do even though it will be a struggle.

:yep: I understand.

[tigerlily21]

Well im in the process of doing it. I know that being with the person will distract me from my goal of spiritual growth, so I have to do whats right for my sake and the other person. I want to be right with God and if that means cutting some people out then that's just what I have to do even though it will be a struggle.

Amen to all of this! I started last night, something I needed to do months ago. It hurt a little, not really because I will miss them, but because I did not want to hurt them. But not only were they in my way of spiritual growth, but I may have been in their way as well, so it was best to move on. 2009 is going to be the REAL year of new beginnings and new (positive)connections and I can't wait!

[nicola.kirwan]

Yes! And my spirit was so much calmer beginning January 1.

An ambiguous pseudo-but-not-really-friendship-but-sort-of-potential-relationship has been a huge drain on my emotions and spirit. And, us both being believers, I decided to dedicate all of December to a final prayer and fasting over the whole situation (which is approaching 2 years old), and to just let it go beginning with the New Year.

Funny...he just called, and I'm so much calmer about it and can just let go of those expectations and disappointments and wait for that unmistakable blessing that comes from the Lord. I only pray that it lasts and for the courage not to get pulled into something less than God's best.

[Shimmie]

I wish everyone 'Loving Peace' in this. It's not easy...not even a little. But we each have a 'call' to Peace for God has 'ordained' peace for us.

His peace which is not given unto us by the world or humans, for the peace that God gives us, transcends 'all' understanding and neither the world (and it's problems), nor any human can take it away from us.

Jesus said, "Peace I leave with you...." And Angels that's exactly what I'm praying for you... God's Peace. So strong and so profound that you will never feel alone or at lost.

I too, have this decision to make. There are things in my family which I 'must' choose to take leave of to simply have peace and it is not easy.

God bless each of you...I mean this so truthfully. :giveheart:

[Highly Favored8]

Yes, I had to do this and it feels really good. To cut people who are only there on your path to truly hinder my growth and my personal realtionship with the Almighty Father.