My mom is in denial about her diabetes

[Angelicus]

My mom has been diagonsed with diabetes and since then all she wants is food that is bad for her. Sam's Choice-sized packages of chocolate, honeybuns, sugar, sugar-laden meal replacement drinks (she drinks 3 of these a day) is what she recently brought home. In the middle of the night, she'll make homemade pudding . She has no sense of portion control, I believe. She won't eat breakfast and sometimes doesn't eat lunch but she'll eat fried food almost every night and wonder why she wakes up sick.

I had a fit when she asked me to make her a sweet potato pie today. I just refused to do it because I want no part in hurting my mom by making her blood sugar go up. I get so frustrated when I see her eating bad foods that she knows that she shouldn't eat. This is what she tells me:

"Well, maybe next lifetime I'll eat right."
"Right now I'm in rebellion. I eat what I want."

I've even tried making her lunches and dinners of food that won't raise her blood sugar levels. She'll eat it... and then eat "her" food in the same sitting.

Can you all just please pray for me and my mom? I am pleading for my mother's life on the internet and to God. Thank you for yourt time. Also, any advice on how I can calm down and stop being so angry at her decisions would be fine too.

[Highly Favored8]

((((((HUGS)))))))))
I am praying for you and your mother. You are both in my prayers.

[kayte]

Praying for you and your mom...
relating to both your feelings.....
For the anger and helplessness ...
part of that is looking at our parents as being vulnerable
and that brings up feelings especialy when they
put themselves in increased vulnerablity

This is what I would do in intercessory prayer...pray for my loved one
see my loved one healing... see my loved one getting better..
and praying the bible verses for that person
but also for my own peace of mind and supernatural strength


Can you ask her doctor for suggestions for his/her diabetes patient
who is turning to even more amounts of sugar to cope with the diagnosis?
.....the office must deal with variations of this...your mother is unlikely to
be an isolated patient in this sense and the office should be advised
of this anyway...
perhaps has ready made ..procedures to help a patient who is having difficulty
accepting and adjusting...maybe they can offer some measures to help...
even if it's more visits..supervised nutitrional visits...partnering up
with other diabetics who are actively thriving on alternative menus etc

Maybe take your mom out sometime on outings that offer sweetness..of Life
and not anywhere that involves food as the main attraction or even as a condiment
and can release you both to focusing on fun and light and your beloved relationship....

Keep faith that God will intervene and that your precious
mother will adjust...and thrive~ God bless her
and you :)

[HWAY]

Please don't be angry with your mom. Your anger makes her feel bad and reinforces her bad behavior. Is your mom depressed? Ask her if she's feeling depressed. Ask her why she continues to eat food that makes her feel bad. Does she dislike the taste of food on diabetic diet? Some people have difficulty giving up food since it's so important to family and culture. Please make an appointment with her doctor and speak with him/her in your mom's presence. Speak to the doctor about your fears and concerns.

Ask the doctor to refer you and your mom to a dietician, preferably one from your culture.

[Nefertiti0906]

I'm sorry that you're going through this. I'll pray for her. Unfortunately my dad was kind of the same way until he had a health scare, so he's been on track with this diet and exercising since

[klb120475]

Aww...I'm praying for you and your mom. :kiss:

[Angelicus]

Just wanted to update you all on my mom. Thank you all for your prayers and advice. I have not spoken to her doctor but I do know that he gave her a pamphlet of things to eat/avoid.

She still has diabetes and is still not eating right. Today I asked her if she wanted to get well and she said, "Yes, but I'm not willing to do what needs to be done. I have a lot on my mind right now. You have put yourself in someone else's shoes. I can't talk about it right now-- I'm eating Popeyes."

I really think she is depressed. I wish there was something more that I could do besides pray. I've been praying for my mom. I tried cooking food that's healthy but she'll just eat that food and then eat "her food." :whyme: Can you all just please pray?

I asked her to let me know what she was going through and she said that she didn't want to talk about it.

[JFemme]

Praying for your mom:rosebud:

((HUGS))

[BillsBackerz67]

Im sorry about how your mom is reacting :( Is your mom properly educated about diabetes or receiving counseling? Please let her know that diabetes is not a life sentence...it doesnt have to end with amputated limbs, nerve damage, and blindness! I was watching several documentaries on discovery health and there where a few people who where literally cured of diabetes just by excercising and eating right. They no longer needed insulin. I also noticed that the diet and nutrition regimen that the doctors place the patients on is how people should be eating regardless of whether they have diabetes .

[Angelicus]

Thank you Billsbackerz67. I know someone that was cured also. She isn't trying to hear that. Your collective prayers would help me so much, you all! Thank you.