"Where did you get that from?"

[tapioca_pudding]

Is that a tacky question to ask someone?

I have a coworker who dresses so nice. I love everything about the pieces she wears. I would like to know where she shops, but a friend of mine told me that is one of the tackiest questions you can ask someone.

I'm in the fence with this. I don't think it's tacky exactly, especially if you're a random person I may pass on the street and we'll never be in the same place again. But if I see you on a regular basis, I could see how it may be a lil weird (not tacky tho, imho); that person may think I want to buy the EXACT same outfit or something.

I will give the disclaimer tho that I like her anchor pieces, like her suits and shoes. I'm not out to copy her wardrobe. I just would like to broaden my shopping venues, and I'm interested in where she shops since she dresses so nicely. I guess that's why I don't deem it tacky.

What's your take on the issue?

[Gin]

I dont think its tacky.

But its something that I would never do. I'm too stubborn.

Depending on how you approach her, I think she would be willing to give up the info.

Good luck.

[morehairplease]

I do not think it's a tacky question. In fact, I do this all the time.

[poochie167]

I don't think its a tacky question at all.

I may not ask in those exact words, but I'll ask something like "what store did you buy that ______ from? Its great!"...

Everybody I ask that question to loves answering cuz they feel their style is being appreciated. I know when i get asked that question I love to respond

[blaqueskimo]

I say ask her! just like the other ladies said I think she'll be flattered.

[Covergirl5906]

I don't think it's tacky at all if you guys are cool like that...

you should probably start off by complimenting her...and then go from there...

[shockolate]

I don't think it's tacky at all if you guys are cool like that...

you should probably start off by complimenting her...and then go from there...
Thats what i do. I ask the question out of habit but i actually never go to the store and hunt down the entire outfit. lol

[br0wney3z]

I don't think its tacky at all. As others have said, I would start off by complimenting her sense of style. And then casually ask what are some of her favorite places/designers.

[Divine Inspiration]

Sometimes it is tacky. I don't like random people asking me that in general, but it's even worse when they persist if I can't remember or it was a gift.

I don't mind friends asking, but most of the time when somebody randomly walks up to me in Starbucks and says, where did you get your shirt?, I'm a little weirded out for some reason. Maybe it's just me...:spinning:

[lexi08]

I don't think it's tacky especially if you know the person. Heck, I ask women on this forum all the time where they things all the time and I don't really know anyone. Most of the things I buy now in stores I did not buy before I joined the forums.

[tapioca_pudding]

Thank you guys for responding. :yep:

I would def. preface it with a compliment.

DI - You're of the same mind frame as my friend that I mentioned in my OP. :yep: She even think it's tacky someone you KNOW, unless it's a very close friend.

[PatTodd]

I totally understand. I have a new coworker whose style I really admire, and although I'm not out to copy her wardrobe, I have asked her where she shops, and now include those places in my "reportoire" of stores.

So *I* don't think it's tacky to ask.

To start showing up wearing the exact style as that person, THAT would be tacky. :grin:.

[Blessed_Angel]

I don't think it's tacky either. But I would use discernment to see if she is approachable, and if she would even tell you. A lot of woman don't want to "help a sista out". I personally am free to give info and loves to put others on. But I know many woman who don't. And if they walk around acting all sadity, trust, she won't tell you jack, or just give you the wrong info.

So, just listen to the vibe that you're getting from her.

[JFemme]

Sometimes it is tacky. I don't like random people asking me that in general, but it's even worse when they persist if I can't remember or it was a gift.

I don't mind friends asking, but most of the time when somebody randomly walks up to me in Starbucks and says, where did you get your shirt?, I'm a little weirded out for some reason. Maybe it's just me...:spinning:


my feelings exactly..however, on occasion if I am asked discretely I rarely mind sharing...

[bLackButtaFly]

I'm torn. I rarely ask ppl, and never strangers. I have alot of unique pieces in my wardrobe, so I get asked alot where I get things from, and usually I'll tell, but it does kinda rub me the wrong way if it's something I really liked b/c it was different, and I don't want it to be everywhere. But I guess if someone asked wher I got my jeans from or my suit I wouldn't have any problem telling.

I think if you're just wanting to expand your shopping repetoire and ask her then it's no biggie.

[Lovelylocs]

I don't think it's tacky. I prefer when random people ask me than when co-workers ask though. Just don't get into the price... that can be tacky IMO.

[Curlee_lurker]

If I don't know them that well I say "that ____ is so nice...did you get that from <insert nice store>??". Most people will say where they got it from without being offended.

I mean it's not like it's an original design (usually), so I could see it in a store and buy one just like it without you sharing the info. I think some weird people thing people ask so they can gauge how much you spend on things.

[freelove]

If don't think so. I never have a problem when someone else asks me. Usually, if someone compliments me on something, I let them know where I got it. But I shop at TJ MAxx alot so it probably won't be there when they do go to look for it.

[tapioca_pudding]

Sooooo here's how it went down: :D

We happened to be in the rest room at the same time. She has on this bangin leather pencil skirt with pleats in the back. I complimented it on her and she was telling me how she found it and it was the last one in her size! So I just kinda slipped it in and said 'What places do you like to shop?' And she told me (Ann Taylor, Black Market/White House, Victoria's Secret). :D It was no big deal, I told her that I had just ordered a pencil skirt from Vickys and how I had to have the hem released as it was too short for my taste. Then we got on my long legs and body shapes in general, etc. Easy-peasy!

Thank you guys for the responses!! :D

[Lovelylocs]

Sooooo here's how it went down: :D

We happened to be in the rest room at the same time. She has on this bangin leather pencil skirt with pleats in the back. I complimented it on her and she was telling me how she found it and it was the last one in her size! So I just kinda slipped it in and said 'What places do you like to shop?' And she told me (Ann Taylor, Black Market/White House, Victoria's Secret). :D It was no big deal, I told her that I had just ordered a pencil skirt from Vickys and how I had to have the hem released as it was too short for my taste. Then we got on my long legs and body shapes in general, etc. Easy-peasy!

Thank you guys for the responses!! :D

Wow! I like the way you did it. It was hardly like you were even asking her where she got her skirt from. You weren't acting like she was a better dresser than you either. It was like it was girl talk time. Nice job! :up: