Men who are weight loss haters

[Bublnbrnsuga]

Have you ladies ever experienced a casual conversation with a guy and you happened to bring up that you work out and they had a negative response against it? I try not to tell them that I am trying to lose around 10 lbs because they are always like,"what you gonna do that for? You are already fine." I know emphasis the importance of working out for the benefit of low BP,cholesterol,increase in metabolism,etc. Have you all ever experienced the hate?

[cutebajangirl]

Yup then they take me out to restuarants. http://www.longhaircareforum.com/forums/images/graemlins/smirk.gif I've since learned to decline those dates.

[Angelicus]

The only guy who has EVER been respectful about me losing weight is my current boyfriend. Other guys, i seriously think they want me to get fat so I can feel trapped with them and low-self esteem.

[cutebajangirl]

yup

[Purtygurly]

Is that why they do that? My b/f tells me that I'm just the way he likes, that I don't have to lose anymore weight. I lost 30 pounds. BUT I'm almost 5'6" and weigh 152. I want to be around 130 something. I know that he isn't attacted to skinny girls with no butts or any kind of meat, but really I don't think that I'll ever go that far.

I always thought that he objected because he didn't want me to go "crazy" and ruin my hourglass figure. Not that he wants me to have low self-esteem. The funny thing is that he told me the same thing before I lost weight, but he likes the way I look now more than before.

I know that I wouldn't want him to go get skinny on me http://www.longhaircareforum.com/forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif He's slightly (10 pounds) overweight, but I'm not attracted to skinny men AT ALL. I know that even if he did lose weight I would be with him, but I couldn't honestly say that I would be attracted to him in the same way... I've always felt that maybe he was saying that because he feels the same way.

[Poetess232]

ALL of my male friends, including my boyfriend, tell me I don't need to lose weight. My boyfriend is supportive of exercising in general, it's the diet that he is usually concerned about.

I would like to lose 10-15 pounds. I've put on a few pounds in the last couple of years, and I want to get rid of them.

[cutebajangirl]

It depends on the man of course. I think though that if you are overweight which you clearly are not from what you listed. That they will almost always be the worry that you will get even more fly and have more options. Men in general are alot more insecure than we realize.

[Bublnbrnsuga]

You know what? The guy I was talking to would actually ACCUSE me of not being happy with myself when I would casually mention toning up a little more. I've only experienced these comments from Black men. I mean good grief,can I care about my internal organs and their functions working properly via working out,without someone thinking I am not happy about myself?

[cutebajangirl]

NYC PEOPLE - Michael Baisden is discussing this very topic on 98.7 right now.

[Sky]

I dont know if I see it as "hating" I think some men just like women with some meat on their bones... maybe they truly think a person looks better with that extra 10 lbs. I have seen some people who loose too much weight and it is not flattering to them- of course I wouldnt tell them this but we each have our own opinoin as to what is attractive.

[trinidarkie1]

The guys I have dated have had no negative comments about my weight..
I have gained a lot of weight since I've been in school and it's way higher than the freshman fifteen..
Anyway, I told the guy I am dating now that I want to lose 40 lbs and he was not pleased..
According to my BMI that's the amount of weight I need to lose to be ideally 'healthy'
even 25 lbs and I'll kiss the ground..
I am such an 'own way' person, even if he doesnt like it, as we trinis say he can SUCK SALT!

[Country gal]

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cutebajangirl said:
NYC PEOPLE - Michael Baisden is discussing this very topic on 98.7 right now.

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What is he saying?

[Country gal]

When I was smaller (perfect hour glass figure) men would always tell me to not lose weight. I am now thirty pounds heavier and I still have men tell me don't lose alot of weight.

[karezone]

That proves it, Men like meat. But where does meaty end and fat begin.

[cutebajangirl]

That is the million dollar question Karezone, I guess it depends on personal preference. Sbaker- MIchael Baisden was saying that if he met you when you were fine and slim and now you have gained weight and let yourself go and your man is telling you that it is fine, it is because he is scared that if you get really fine again then more men will push up on you.

[karezone]

If men really think like that then they need to go to some self-esteem workshops.

[Ayeshia]

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karezone said:
That proves it, Men like meat. But where does meaty end and fat begin.

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Meaty to me is just being thick no matter how much weight you lose there is still some thickness because of bone mass etc. Fat is when (no offense) you have a lot of visible cellulite, and your stomach hangs over your pants (a lot) and its hard for you to get around without breathing heavily. Of course sometimes people wear clothing that is way too small for them which actually makes them look 3x bigger than they really are.

[phynestone]

My boyfriend doesn't mind the fact that I would like to get back in shape, but he doesn't want me to lose my boobs or butt. Guys are so predictable.