Need Prayer for my marriage-Long

[birdie]

In November my husband and I got back together after being seperated for almost 5 years, I felt that it was the "right" thing to do and what God wanted me to do.At first it was nice I was happy, but ladies I have such a hard time dealing with him as a person just recently I realized that he just isn't a very nice person especially to me. He has gotten to the point where he just wont talk about anything. If I come through the door he will not speak a word of "Hello". We haven't had anything happen. I speak cause that is who I am, why wouldn't I. Ladies he says hurtful things and then says I'm provoking him yesterday I asked if he was okay and if he had something on his mind I was here for him and he accused me of being selfish. The tears just welled up in my eyes because of the way he had spoken to me. I do not want to start being cold to him but when I pay attention and show my concern he is so mean, I hate feeling like when I come to my home that I have to ignore my husband just to get through to bedtime. I am currently expecting our third child and I feel so regretful some days like why did I do this and I don't want to think or feel like that. I am trying to be a good wife and mother but he makes it difficult to do that. I suggested counseling he says no. I just need some prayer for strength cause I'm so tired.

[klb120475]

I'm praying for you now sweetie.....{{HUGS}}

[live2bgr8]

In November my husband and I got back together after being seperated for almost 5 years, I felt that it was the "right" thing to do and what God wanted me to do.At first it was nice I was happy, but ladies I have such a hard time dealing with him as a person just recently I realized that he just isn't a very nice person especially to me. He has gotten to the point where he just wont talk about anything. If I come through the door he will not speak a word of "Hello". We haven't had anything happen. I speak cause that is who I am, why wouldn't I. Ladies he says hurtful things and then says I'm provoking him yesterday I asked if he was okay and if he had something on his mind I was here for him and he accused me of being selfish. The tears just welled up in my eyes because of the way he had spoken to me. I do not want to start being cold to him but when I pay attention and show my concern he is so mean, I hate feeling like when I come to my home that I have to ignore my husband just to get through to bedtime. I am currently expecting our third child and I feel so regretful some days like why did I do this and I don't want to think or feel like that. I am trying to be a good wife and mother but he makes it difficult to do that. I suggested counseling he says no. I just need some prayer for strength cause I'm so tired.

I truly and deeply hear what you are saying. I know marriage can be a hard road sometimes. Especially when you are dealing with three distinct wills: yours, his, and God's. I have prayed for you.

Something that helps me when I feel like we're going through a rough patch is praying for myself, praying for him, and helping others. One good book is the Power of a Praying Wife, by Stormie O' Martian. If you're not familiar with this book, she has specific prayers on many different areas that can help get you started... I also started a website: www.married4good.com (http://www.married4good.com). Maybe you'll want to drop by and take a look. Most of the articles have been written by marriage counselors, coaches and clergy. Others have been written by journalists and people who have gone through...

I hope this helps. Be blessed...

[Shimmie]

Beyond 'words' of prayer; and even beyond strength, you have the power of the Holy Spirit dwelling fully on the inside of you and giving birth to a new you.

From this moment on, live the life and the joy of God's love and peace. Live for the love of God and not for the love of man. Your husband is only being used of satan to try and rob you of your joy in the Lord. But yet, the joy of the Lord is your strength. And this joy comes with peace; peace that the world didn't give you and the world cannot take it away.

Keep your focus on this joy and peace. Let God bring your husband around. You can't, but you can pray and be joyful in each prayer. There's a floodgate that God has opened up for you.

A floodgate of peace and restoration of individual you. Take peace in that and receive it. Drink it and allow it to quench the dry places in your soul. Don't be moved any further by the arrid / dry patches of your husband's ways. Again, it's only the devil using him to get at you. The floodgate is going to flow over your entire household allowing you and your husband to see only the glory of the Lord.

So lift up your heads, O' ye gates. And be ye lifted up and the King of Glory shall come in. Who is this King of Glory? The Lord strong and mighty; the Lord mighty in battle. Who is this King of Glory? The Lord of Hosts, He is the King of Glory. (Psalm 24).

This battle is not yours, it is the Lord's and This King of Glory (Jesus) is coming in to to do justice for you; long overdue. Amen and Amen.

(((( Hugs )))) sweet sister. Just stay strong. Okay? You are not alone in this. Not at all. God sees what's going on and He is there to fix it just for you; for He has heard your cry; your tears matter to Him. ;)

[Nice & Wavy]

Beyond 'words' of prayer; and even beyond strength, you have the power of the Holy Spirit dwelling fully on the inside of you and giving birth to a new you.

From this moment on, live the life and the joy of God's love and peace. Live for the love of God and not for the love of man. Your husband is only being used of satan to try and rob you of your joy in the Lord. But yet, the joy of the Lord is your strength. And this joy comes with peace; peace that the world didn't give you and the world cannot take it away.

Keep your focus on this joy and peace. Let God bring your husband around. You can't, but you can pray and be joyful in each prayer. There's a floodgate that God has opened up for you.

A floodgate of peace and restoration of individual you. Take peace in that and receive it. Drink it and allow it to quench the dry places in your soul. Don't be moved any further by the arrid / dry patches of your husband's ways. Again, it's only the devil using him to get at you. The floodgate is going to flow over your entire household allowing you and your husband to see only the glory of the Lord.

So lift up your heads, O' ye gates. And be ye lifted up and the King of Glory shall come in. Who is this King of Glory? The Lord strong and mighty; the Lord mighty in battle. Who is this King of Glory? The Lord of Hosts, He is the King of Glory. (Psalm 24).

This battle is not yours, it is the Lord's and This King of Glory (Jesus) is coming in to to do justice for you; long overdue. Amen and Amen.

(((( Hugs )))) sweet sister. Just stay strong. Okay? You are not alone in this. Not at all. God sees what's going on and He is there to fix it just for you; for He has heard your cry; your tears matter to Him. ;)

Exactly what Shimmie said!

[dreamer26]

In November my husband and I got back together after being seperated for almost 5 years, I felt that it was the "right" thing to do and what God wanted me to do.At first it was nice I was happy, but ladies I have such a hard time dealing with him as a person just recently I realized that he just isn't a very nice person especially to me. He has gotten to the point where he just wont talk about anything. If I come through the door he will not speak a word of "Hello". We haven't had anything happen. I speak cause that is who I am, why wouldn't I. Ladies he says hurtful things and then says I'm provoking him yesterday I asked if he was okay and if he had something on his mind I was here for him and he accused me of being selfish. The tears just welled up in my eyes because of the way he had spoken to me. I do not want to start being cold to him but when I pay attention and show my concern he is so mean, I hate feeling like when I come to my home that I have to ignore my husband just to get through to bedtime. I am currently expecting our third child and I feel so regretful some days like why did I do this and I don't want to think or feel like that. I am trying to be a good wife and mother but he makes it difficult to do that. I suggested counseling he says no. I just need some prayer for strength cause I'm so tired.

As I read your post I can feel your hurt and disappointment. I know and you know we're gonna tell you to pray and trust God but I hear you asking yeah but how do I make it in the meantime. What do I do?

With you being pregnant and your horomone already actinig up then with his actions it just causing things to look and feel unbearable.

The enemy thinks you're weak and defenseless, but he is a liar.
The enemy thinks he can break you at this time, but he is a liar.
The enemy thinks that you won't make it, but he is a liar.

You are being face with a strong attack of the enemy and now is not the time to whimp out or sit and say woa is me.
Now more than ever it is a time for you to put in practice all those things that you've learned and know is right. Because your mood and your state of being will effect your child/ren.

So each day determine in your self he's not going to get me down today.
Find scriptures and music to back up those feelings. It's time for prayer and praise mode. Get involved with your other children and have a good time with them. Try not to dwell on the negative things that's going on. Continue to speak and do good to your husband God will handle him, as much as you can and I know it's not easy you focus on you and your unborn and your other children.

Anoint your home, your bed, his favorite chair, if he wears a hat anoint it and ask God to touch his mind and pray for peace and deliverance and love in this marriage. Also pray for direction.

Father God you see my sister and you know, Lord I feel the enemy desires to sift her as wheat, but I have prayed for her. I bind up any and every tactic and evil work the enemy is setting up againt your child. Lord cover with your blood and station your angels of protection all around her. Lord lead her thinking and guide her footsteps, and her decission. Lord I speak peace today, peace in the midst of confusion.

I seal this prayer in Jesus name. AMEN.

[birdie]

Thank you all sooooo much! I really needed those words and prayers.

[Shimmie]

Than you all sooooo much! I really needed those words and prayers.

We love you Birdie. We love your husband and your children too. Now with all of us and with God on your side, how can you be denied?

If God be for you, who dare be against you? For in these things, we are more than Conquerors through Jesus Christ our Lord. (Romans 8)

Ain't nobody up in here got time for the devil and his mess. he gots to go and he's going and leaving you and your family alone. That said...

(((( hugs ))))) to you and your family. We're all here embracing you, Birdie and nothing can come between us and the love we have for you and for each other. God's got this! :yep: Indeed He does. God's got this and He's not about let it go. He's not about to let you go. His baby daughter who needs love from her Daddie in Heaven to make it all right.

Blessings and Peace angel...;)

[tmichelle]

I truly and deeply hear what you are saying. I know marriage can be a hard road sometimes. Especially when you are dealing with three distinct wills: yours, his, and God's. I have prayed for you.

Something that helps me when I feel like we're going through a rough patch is praying for myself, praying for him, and helping others. One good book is the Power of a Praying Wife, by Stormie O' Martian. If you're not familiar with this book, she has specific prayers on many different areas that can help get you started... I also started a website: www.married4good.com (http://www.married4good.com). Maybe you'll want to drop by and take a look. Most of the articles have been written by marriage counselors, coaches and clergy. Others have been written by journalists and people who have gone through...

I hope this helps. Be blessed...

I too liked this book. Also if he doesn't want to go to "counseling" I have an even better place to go. God to a Family Dynamics seminar by Joe Beam. It is 80% effective on getting couples back together (and happy) including couples who are already divorced! I think the website is www.familydynamics.org (http://www.familydynamics.org) I urged my friend to go after she had been unfaithful and rather crazy acting. Her husband was in the process of divorcing her. When she came to her sense and wanted to preserve the marriage she didn't know what to do. I ended up telling her to give him an ultimatum. In a nutshell she said that if he went to this seminar with her than she wouldn't fight the divorce procedings, if he didn't than she would dig her heels in. Perhaps you can think of an ultimatum for him too. My prayers are with you!

[tweezer6]

I've prayed for you. I understand your pain. My marriage was at that exact stage prior to my divorce. Unfortunately, I was too stubborn to stand in faith for my marriage.

The cheating, lying, and disrespect were more than "I" could handle. I know now it wasn't my battle to handle, it was God's.

If I knew then, what I know now, I would have recognized the devil's devices. He comes to steal, kill, and destroy. Keep standing in faith. Allow God to work on you. Pray and confess over your husband.

Even when he is not acting like a man of God, confess that he is a righteous man of God and that his steps are ordered by the Lord. Pray that the blinders are removed from his eyes, and that he sees clearly God's will for his life.

At the same time study and grow in the word. Allow God to use you to show love toward someone who is acting unloveable. I promise you your husband will notice the change in you. Don't cry or be sad. Walk with your head held high. The devil is already defeated.

Smile, when your husband frowns, and leave it in God's hands. Yes, you have authority over the enemy. But, only God can orchestrate a change in your husband.

Sorry this was so long. But I just wanted to share.

God bless!

[napbella]

Father,

There is power in the blood of Jesus to set everything right in this situation. Satan, we declare to you now that the atoning blood is working now to minister defeat to all your plans, plots and devices against this family and bring your evil works to nothing. We apply the blood of Jesus to this relationship to bring life to it, in Jesus' Mighty Name. Amen

[queenspence]

Father,

There is power in the blood of Jesus to set everything right in this situation. Satan, we declare to you now that the atoning blood is working now to minister defeat to all your plans, plots and devices against this family and bring your evil works to nothing. We apply the blood of Jesus to this relationship to bring life to it, in Jesus' Mighty Name. Amen


I agree in Jesus' name, Amen

[GodsPromises]

I've prayed for you. I understand your pain. My marriage was at that exact stage prior to my divorce. Unfortunately, I was too stubborn to stand in faith for my marriage.

The cheating, lying, and disrespect were more than "I" could handle. I know now it wasn't my battle to handle, it was God's.

If I knew then, what I know now, I would have recognized the devil's devices. He comes to steal, kill, and destroy. Keep standing in faith. Allow God to work on you. Pray and confess over your husband.

Even when he is not acting like a man of God, confess that he is a righteous man of God and that his steps are ordered by the Lord. Pray that the blinders are removed from his eyes, and that he sees clearly God's will for his life.

At the same time study and grow in the word. Allow God to use you to show love toward someone who is acting unloveable. I promise you your husband will notice the change in you. Don't cry or be sad. Walk with your head held high. The devil is already defeated.

Smile, when your husband frowns, and leave it in God's hands. Yes, you have authority over the enemy. But, only God can orchestrate a change in your husband.

Sorry this was so long. But I just wanted to share.

God bless!

I agree with everything that you have stated. My husband hasn't cheated or lied but there was a time when disrespect was there and praying, fasting and annoiting the house, his side of the bed and trusting in God has turned my marriage around. However, if there is any kind of physical or mental abuse in the marriage I say leave before it is too late. The OP stated that he pushed her pushing comes right before hitting and beating. We can't have that. You can still give it to the Lord but not be in the same household with him. If it is God's will it will be done!!!!

[soonergirl]

Many hugs are coming your way,a nd I am praying for your family.. As someone in the law enforcement field I have been called to many homes in regards to domestic violence. And yes, the pushing will escalate to further violence. Please know also and I am not saying this in your case, but the previlance of mental disorders is on the rise in our AA men. now dont get me wrong Im not saying this in your case, but if you are noticing mood swings, unexplained anger/rage, the dr jekyl/mr. hide in your dh, there could be a mood imbalance. Please believe I lived that, I have a ex that suffered from the mood swings, angry for unknown reasons, would wake up angry(whats up with that?) he had a multitude of issues, all the result of a mental disorder, but as AA's we dont recognize that sometimes this is the reason why our men act this way. Be blessed and know we are all here to support you..

[star]

Get closer to God and I mean closer. God will give you wisdom and staighten him right out. Praying for you in Jesus Name.