Venting About In-Laws
Posted 07-19-2011 at 12:06 PM by gabulldawg
I just had to vent again today. I am SO SICK of people trying to tell us how to raise OUR child!!!! 
We are TRYING to raise our child in a healthy manner, while everyone doesn't seem to give a damn!!! I'm so over this!! We chose to just have our baby drink water on a regular basis and have asked our inlaws (who watch her during the week) not to give her anything but water. Now my daughter has had juice before on a handful of occasions, but not much. But I don't want my inlaws to go crazy giving her any and every kind of juice just because we say she can have juice. So to make things easier we just say no juice.
Of course they have a problem with that.
They think we are just depriving this baby of all things holy just because we say no juice!! We also choose not to have her eat much sweets. She has had little tastes of sweets before, but we just tell them not to give her any because, once again, they tend to go overboard with things and would probably feed her sweets everyday and we don't want that. The child is only 10 MONTHS OLD!!!!
I just can't understand why our rules cannot be respected! I'm not asking that they agree with us, but I expect our rules to be honored. They are always making comments about how they plan to break our rules, and that we aren't always around. That isht irks me to no end. I think it's disrespectful and rude. I don't care how many children they raised and how they think things should go. This is OUR CHILD!!!
I'm really thinking about making alternative child care arrangements for her. Finding someone that can respect what we ask for. I don't really want her in daycare, but I mean damn, at least if she was at a daycare they would do what we ask!!! They would be the first ones all upset and angry when I say that we have decided to have someone else watch her. But can you blame me???
I'm SO SICK of it. I usually use this blog/site to vent because I try not to say too much to my husband. Ultimately I know that's his fam and I don't want to hurt his feelings or make him feel that he has to choose. Most of the things I care about he doesn't care about. But he supports me and that's all I ask. I know that when an issue does come up that he cares about he will expect me to support him.
The other day he told me to get my money together to put her in childcare. I think he gets sick of me complaining whenever I choose to say something.
I think it may be better for everyone since EVERYTHING I/we decide is such a freakin issue!!! Can you tell I'm frustrated?!?!?!?!? 
I know one day the isht will hit the fan, because this is frustrating me to no end. I get sick of hearing about how people are talking behind my back about things they don't like and how they don't intend to honor our rules.
UGH!!! If only I had known....
We are TRYING to raise our child in a healthy manner, while everyone doesn't seem to give a damn!!! I'm so over this!! We chose to just have our baby drink water on a regular basis and have asked our inlaws (who watch her during the week) not to give her anything but water. Now my daughter has had juice before on a handful of occasions, but not much. But I don't want my inlaws to go crazy giving her any and every kind of juice just because we say she can have juice. So to make things easier we just say no juice. Of course they have a problem with that.
They think we are just depriving this baby of all things holy just because we say no juice!! We also choose not to have her eat much sweets. She has had little tastes of sweets before, but we just tell them not to give her any because, once again, they tend to go overboard with things and would probably feed her sweets everyday and we don't want that. The child is only 10 MONTHS OLD!!!!I just can't understand why our rules cannot be respected! I'm not asking that they agree with us, but I expect our rules to be honored. They are always making comments about how they plan to break our rules, and that we aren't always around. That isht irks me to no end. I think it's disrespectful and rude. I don't care how many children they raised and how they think things should go. This is OUR CHILD!!!
I'm really thinking about making alternative child care arrangements for her. Finding someone that can respect what we ask for. I don't really want her in daycare, but I mean damn, at least if she was at a daycare they would do what we ask!!! They would be the first ones all upset and angry when I say that we have decided to have someone else watch her. But can you blame me???
I'm SO SICK of it. I usually use this blog/site to vent because I try not to say too much to my husband. Ultimately I know that's his fam and I don't want to hurt his feelings or make him feel that he has to choose. Most of the things I care about he doesn't care about. But he supports me and that's all I ask. I know that when an issue does come up that he cares about he will expect me to support him.
The other day he told me to get my money together to put her in childcare. I think he gets sick of me complaining whenever I choose to say something.
I think it may be better for everyone since EVERYTHING I/we decide is such a freakin issue!!! Can you tell I'm frustrated?!?!?!?!? I know one day the isht will hit the fan, because this is frustrating me to no end. I get sick of hearing about how people are talking behind my back about things they don't like and how they don't intend to honor our rules.
UGH!!! If only I had known....
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I ve had the same issue with my inlaws ,they did not listen to anything i ve said to them ,MIL would come up with those " I ve raised two children " or "I m not an idiot ,my kids grew up to be Ok " lines that were meant to make me feel somewhat guilty about looking after my child .
Here 's what I did ,first of all ask your husband to have a talk with his mother about this situation ,to be firm and tell her her behavior won't be no longer tolerated and that she has to RESPECT YOU ALL as a family and their beloved grandson ,if they CANT do that ,you guys are going to have to have to look for alternatives.See what says ,if the result is her victimizing herself and manipulating your hubby (my hub is such a whimp w his mom
) you re going to have to step in .- Be polite but i gather from your frustration that you are .Take her on the side in private and be Very Clear and Assertive with her ,no If's No But's, "___ you had your children ,you ve done a great job raising them but this is MY child and I m going to raise him my way and will stand for what i believe is best for him ,You have to respect my wishes otherwise I will look into other childcare options ."
Posted 02-09-2012 at 07:04 PM by Kindheart 
