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I feel your pain..i guess im in that phase of life where if I had a boo he wouldnt see me often at all..i have a life..he is just acceseroy..but if your relationship is on a strong foundation you be fine..is there a old saying distance makes the heart grow fonder..
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Thanks for your perspective.

Get married.

I know folks who did just that bc they wanted to see each other and their schedules were crazy. Granted, they had love, etc. in place but the schedule thing was the tipping point. The man said he could come home to his wife late at night or to an empty house.

My parents had a crazy schedule for years (that worked out for me really :look:). My dad would work from like 6 a.m. to 2 p.m. and my mom would work from 3 p.m. to 11 p.m. They hardly saw each other but for days off. I think they did it so that I would not have to be around daycare/babysitters. They called each other throughout the day to "check in" but they had to go days where they saw each other for only an hour or two a day. Now, they are retired and see each other every day....and my mom takes her "me" time some days :lol:
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:lol: Very interesting points. I don't know about getting married yet, though! We've only been together about 6 months! But that is an interesting thought....

Your parents' story sounds very interesting! I'm glad it worked out for them.

My dad worked night shift until I was 13, and my parents rarely saw each other also. You figure out a way to make that work.

My SO is a doctor and works 80+ hours/week, and his schedule changes every 6 weeks. Before we moved in together, I just got his schedule and worked around it. That could be going over to have lunch with him at the hospital, scheduling dates when he was off, and being on the phone when we had a quick second to talk. If it's important enough to you, I don't think something like a work schedule should be enough to end it...
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I think the bolded is so right. SO's been doing a good job of making time for me so far. I'd hope that he would continue to do so. we talked about it briefly last night, and he's really not happy about it, and also worried about me being upset for not getting my time. So I think we can make it work.

I am going to tell you like i was told....

how are you going be be mad at a black man for going to work?

if he is worth it, than you work around it
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Wow you do have a great point. At least he has a job, and a pretty decent one at that.

It will all work out.. You will make time.. I certainly do not thing this is even a reason to even think about it not working out... It will just make the time you spend together that much sweeter..

Plus as time progresses, schedules will change, jobs change, things just change.. That's the way it is..
A strong relationship will make it through that.. So, you will be fine...
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Thanks for your points. You are right. I guess only time will tell how things go!

I am sorry but if this man is about his business and being progressive go sit in a corner and gripe to yourself or us. and when you see him make the time to do more special things since you don't have as much time together. If all goes well that's your nest egg he's building up.
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You are right, though. And that's JUST what I did! We spent time together last night, which was when he explained more about the changes and whatnot. I listened and smiled and told him that it would be a good opportunity. He was complaining moreso about the schedule change and other stuff and I tried my best to reassure him to not worry.

IDK. We will see how it goes...

I think it will work itself out, my husband has worked 2nd shift since we met 17 years ago, he's 4-12 and I up until last week i was working the traditional 8:00-4:30, now I am on 7-3 which is good for the kids but bad for us as I don't even have the little bit of moring time I had with him, and when he comes in @ night I'm already sleep... we make up for it on the weekends which is devoted to me and the kids, he rarely goes out and if he does it's not for long... you learn to get used to it. think of it as built in "me" time, the absence makes your heart that much happier to see him. Best of luck!
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Good points. Thanks for sharing!