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dicapr
06-30-2006, 06:02 PM
Do you feel sorry for white women who have a black texture of hair and have no idea how to take care of it? A co-worker of mine fits in this category and her hair always looks like a hot mess because she has no idea how to care for it. I would say she is a 3b on top maybe 3c on bottom. Women will talk and they trash her dry, frizzy, brillo pad hair behind her back. Sometimes I wish I could just say girl, you need to . . but I just work with her, we are not friends.:perplexed

brownsugarflyygirl
06-30-2006, 06:06 PM
Well being the undying optimist I am....maybe you should give her some suggestions...shes probably very frustrated and would welcome help...

tallnomad
06-30-2006, 06:25 PM
maybe you could suggest that she look at naturallycurly.com. it definitely focuses on white women who aren't quite sure what to do with their frizz or curls.

you could make up a story and say her hair is just like your friend's hair and she likes to look at that site. that approach might make it seem like you don't think there is an issue with her hair at all you were just sharing.

JazzyDez
06-30-2006, 06:42 PM
feel sorry for them? No. But I would try to help by telling her some things she can try for her hair type or point her to some useful websites. If you you aren't friends with her and want to help...maybe just bring up the topic of hair....like maybe say you are having a bad hair day or something...and then go from there

Tru_Mind
06-30-2006, 06:57 PM
Yep...send her to natuarllycurly.com. She will thank you.

IrisDaVirus
06-30-2006, 07:19 PM
Feel sorry for her - No.

Offer suggestions if she's willing to accept them without being offended - Absolutely.

isawstars
06-30-2006, 07:40 PM
Honestly... I didn't even know that was possible.

Kimberly
06-30-2006, 07:42 PM
I wouldn't feel any sorrier for her than I would for an African American woman with 1 or 2 textured hair...:ohwell: But if you feel comfortable talking to her about it, absolutely turn her on to a couple of helpful sites.:) And, who knows, you guys could become friends once dialogie is opened up.

dicapr
06-30-2006, 08:12 PM
Thanks for your suggestions. Let me clarify a little. I don't feel sorry that she has a ethnic texture of hair, I feel sorry that she doesn't have the knowledge base to make it beautiful. I live in NC and I am aware of white women who relax their hair because their hair curly and has a more ethnic texture. I say ethnic because doesn't look like super curly white hair, it looks like black hair on a white girl. I just wish they were aware that caring for their hair correctly would make a big difference- but I wish black women would learn that correctly caring for their hair made all the differnce too.;)

honeycomb719
06-30-2006, 08:13 PM
I ve known a few white women like this. They both are Jewish. I wondered if it was a Jewish link to white women with kinky hair texture, I dunno....
I agree, share the site with her, Im sure she will thank you:)

MizaniMami
06-30-2006, 08:19 PM
I feel sorry for black kids whose mothers are white who can't take care of their hair. But I don't feel sorry for the white women with kinkier textures, they have the option to straighten it if they want.

cutiebe2
06-30-2006, 08:20 PM
Hellz yeah I feel sorry.. it's like dang girl! You got jipped!!!!:lol: :lol:
I especially feel bad when other white girls hike on them too!
And then they go getin' that japanese straitening... the white girls equivilant to perm... WHICH TEARS UP YOUR HAIR!!! Unlike perms, those things are made for only a select group of people and no matter how much you take care of your hair, it will still be tore up. Some white girls don't know that:ohwell:
Sorry for the tangent:lol:
help your "sistah" out!

Isis
06-30-2006, 08:44 PM
Thanks for your suggestions. Let me clarify a little. I don't feel sorry that she has a ethnic texture of hair, I feel sorry that she doesn't have the knowledge base to make it beautiful. I live in NC and I am aware of white women who relax their hair because their hair curly and has a more ethnic texture. I say ethnic because doesn't look like super curly white hair, it looks like black hair on a white girl. I just wish they were aware that caring for their hair correctly would make a big difference- but I wish black women would learn that correctly caring for their hair made all the differnce too.;)
I just want to mention that because a white person has kinky or nappy hair, it isn't a white person with "black or ethnic" hair. Just like when black people born with type 1 and 2 hair - they don't have "white" hair. There are white people who have this hair type along with black people. I've met several white men and women from Russia, for example, with very kinky hair - looked like mine. Many white people in countries around Russia have type 3 and 4 hair also.

Isis
06-30-2006, 08:49 PM
I ve known a few white women like this. They both are Jewish. I wondered if it was a Jewish link to white women with kinky hair texture, I dunno....
I agree, share the site with her, Im sure she will thank you:)
I had a white Jewish guy who wanted to date me at one time and part of the reason he said is because he and I have the same hair type and our kids:eek: would have the same hair too!. I noticed he had more 4a though.:lol:

dlewis
06-30-2006, 09:41 PM
I work with a white (I mean white with freckles and could not get in the sun because he would burn) guy for years who had reddish/orange hair that was more 3b than anything, we decided that he needed to texturized his hair just to get the kink out. His mother loved it.

blkbeauty
06-30-2006, 10:32 PM
I think the white people who have this texture actually have beautyful hair. But they hate it and I think it is toward not knowing how to care for it!

tenderheaded
06-30-2006, 10:38 PM
I lurk on the Long Hair Community board. They have over 7000 members, including a lot of her fellow caucasian curlies:) I been black all my life and I'm just getting to know my hair. If only someone had offered me some knowledge years ago I'd have butt length hair:grin:

caligirl
06-30-2006, 10:46 PM
I think the white people who have this texture actually have beautyful hair. But they hate it and I think it is toward not knowing how to care for it!

I agree. I think kinky, thick hair looks exotic.

Denim And Leather
06-30-2006, 10:56 PM
Hellz yeah I feel sorry.. it's like dang girl! You got jipped!!!!:lol: :lol:
I especially feel bad when other white girls hike on them too!
And then they go getin' that japanese straitening... the white girls equivilant to perm... WHICH TEARS UP YOUR HAIR!!! Unlike perms, those things are made for only a select group of people and no matter how much you take care of your hair, it will still be tore up. Some white girls don't know that:ohwell:
Sorry for the tangent:lol:
help your "sistah" out!

I have a friend (white) who's been using that Japanese system (the Yuko system) for several years now (her hair is a 3B and fine) and her hair looks really nice. She does have a few split ends, but other than that, her hair looks pretty healthy, but she has decided to quit using Yuko, and now is "transitioning", lol! She has been taking pretty good care of her hair, as well. When I was telling her about the things I was doing to care for my hair, she already knew about certain products, do's and don'ts, etc., and even recommended some products for me to use!

On the other end, I have another friend (white) who has 3B/3C hair, and due to bleaching, Yuko, etc., her hair is quite damaged, especially on the ends. I have been sharing with her what I've been learning on this board. You might say that she's on a journey to better hair care herself.

Denim And Leather
06-30-2006, 10:57 PM
I had a white Jewish guy who wanted to date me at one time and part of the reason he said is because he and I have the same hair type and our kids:eek: would have the same hair too!. I noticed he had more 4a though.:lol:

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